Patterns of Power with Craig Perra (habits, mindfulness, high-performance, self-leadership)
Self-Improvement
About
Patterns of Power is the essential playbook for MEN: high performers, executives, and leaders ready to dismantle the reactive habits that limit their potential and step fully into their POWER . Hosted by Craig Perra, world-renowned coach and creator of The Mindful Habit® System , this show utilizes a framework that evolved from treating the most severe addictions into a comprehensive leadership model. We recognize that for a leader, a distraction is not just a bad habit—it represents a massive cost to your focus, your influence, and your legacy. We move beyond the limited "addiction model" to a Leadership Model . We view every distraction—whether it is imposter syndrome, anger, gambling, shopping, procrastination, shutting down, doomscrolling, porn, alcohol, or overwork —as a failure of self-leadership, and an immediate opportunity to reclaim your power. From Chaos to Command: Craig’s methodology is forged in
Episodes
- I Was A Sicko Perv: What You Watch In Secret is Robbing You Of Your Power (the r@pe instruction vid)
What you consume in private does not stay private. In this episode of Patterns of Power, Craig Perra opens up about the hidden cost of porn, secrecy, shame, and compartmentalization — especially for high-performing men who look successful…
- This Is Why You Keep Failing (And It’s Not Your Fault)
You’ve tried willpower. Discipline. Therapy. And you still end up in the same patterns. That’s not failure. That’s a broken strategy. Your behavior isn’t random — it’s the predictable output of a system that was built long before you under…
- My Dad Died — 3 Lessons You Need When Life Hits Hard
My dad passed away on March 1st. This isn’t just about grief… it’s about what it exposed. In this episode, I break down the 3 lessons that hit me in real time — about triggers, pain, identity, and what actually matters when life hits you t…
- Your Phone Is Destroying Your Brain...
You think distraction is a productivity problem. It’s not. It’s a health crisis. In this episode, Craig Perra breaks down 6 shocking, research-backed facts about distraction that will completely change the way you think about your phone, y…
- Why I'm Obsessed With Self-Leadership and Why You Should Be Too
What if the key to breaking destructive habits, leading at your highest level, and creating a great life wasn’t more discipline… but learning to lead yourself? In this episode of Patterns of Power, Craig Perra explains why self-leadership…
- The Emotional Reason Money Controls Your Life
Money isn’t just numbers. It’s memory. Emotion. Identity. Survival. In this episode, Craig sits down with Hannah Chapman to explore why money feels so charged — and how our earliest experiences quietly shape the way we earn, spend, save, a…
- Why I Changed The Name from Sex Afflictions to Patters of Power
There’s a painful truth most people never admit: the men who look confident, successful, and put together are often the ones collapsing internally. They’re hiding, performing, people pleasing, and losing themselves one tiny lie at a time.…
- Why Successful Men Feel Empty (With Aaron Velky)
There’s a painful truth most people never admit: the men who look confident, successful, and put together are often the ones quietly collapsing inside. They’re driven, disciplined, respected — and deeply disconnected. Hiding behind busynes…
- The Identity Shift That Ends Porn, Distraction, and Self-Sabotage with Niko Arapkiles of Vision Expresso
Most men aren’t stuck because they lack discipline. They’re stuck because they’re fighting the wrong battle. In this episode of Patterns Of Power, I sit down with Niko Arapkiles, founder of Vision Expresso, to expose the real reason change…
- Why “Nice Guy” Syndrome Is Destroying Men’s Lives (Interview with Dr. Robert Glover)
There’s a painful truth most people never admit: the men who look confident, successful, and put together are often the ones collapsing internally. They’re hiding, performing, people pleasing, and losing themselves one tiny lie at a time.…
- People Pleasing Is Lying: The Truth About Energetic Abuse, Boundaries & Your Voice w/ Melanie Singer
Most people look successful but feel dead inside. They’ve lost their spark, their purpose, and their voice — and they’re stuck people pleasing, hiding the truth, and calling it “love.” In this episode of Sex Afflictions and Porn Addictions…
- The Christian Case for IFS: Healing Porn, Compulsivity with Jenna Riemersma ("Altogether You")
Most men are taught to hate the part of them that struggles. What if that part isn’t your enemy at all… but your protector? Buy The Book Altogether You: https://amzn.to/4rvtnex In this groundbreaking conversation, Coach Craig sits down wit…
- Why Your Relationship Is Falling Apart (And How to Fix It) with Melissa Nanavati, Relationship Coach
You can’t build a powerful life on a foundation of chaos at home. And most men don’t struggle because they don’t love their partner — they struggle because no one ever taught them how to talk about hard things without it blowing up. Downlo…
- How Modern Society Broke Men ... with The Undaunted Man Team Geoff Laughton and Mark Johnson
They told you masculinity was toxic. They were wrong. In this episode, Craig Perra sits down with Geoff Laughton and Mark Johnson, founders of The Undaunted Man, for one of the most raw and powerful conversations you’ll hear this year. The…
- Christian Porn Addiction Programs Are Making It WORSE (Here’s Why)
In this episode, Coach Craig Perra tackles one of the most controversial and important topics in the church today: why so many faith-based porn recovery programs fail—and how they may actually make things worse (unintentionally of course).…
- What to Do if Your Husband Is a Sex Addict ...
If you just found out your husband is a sex addict, you’re probably feeling lost, angry, and unsure of what to do next. You’re not alone. In this episode, Craig talks about what recovery really looks like for couples facing sexual betrayal…
- Honest Sex and the Path to Real Connection with Shana James
Most men want deeper connection with their partner but don’t know how to get there - especially after recovering from sex and porn addiction. The harder they try, the more disconnected it feels. In this episode, Craig talks with Shana Jame…
- Great Sex Great Life with Rob Kancler
Most men were never taught how to have a healthy sex life. Porn, shame, and silence replaced real intimacy—and it’s destroying connection, confidence, and marriages. In this episode, Craig talks with men’s coach Rob Kansler about what it r…
- No More Mr Nice Guy Stop People Pleasing and Take Back Control
If you’ve spent years being the nice guy—trying to make everyone happy while secretly feeling empty or stuck in unhealthy habits—this episode is for you. Craig talks directly to married men who are ready to break free from porn addiction,…
- Leaders Only - 5 Days Left Unlock Your Capacity with Patterns of Power
There are only 5 days left until we begin Patterns of Power , a 10 week experience built for leaders and professionals who have done the work but still feel drained, stuck performing, and unsure why success feels like suffocation. THE STAR…
- Faith, Christianity & Porn Addiction: Why Traditional Programs Fail—and a Better Way Forward
Many Christian men—including pastors and church leaders—are silently struggling with porn and sex addiction. Traditional faith-based programs often miss the mark, focusing too much on “don’t do it” rules, demonizing the addict part, and de…
- Why Therapy Fails Men (and What Actually Works) | Addiction Recovery & Men’s Mental Health
Why does traditional therapy so often fail men struggling with addiction, porn, and mental health? In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Marc Azoulay, founder of Men’s Therapy Online, to talk about why the standard therapy model o…
- From Shame to Self-Leadership: The Bold Journey of Brent Perkins
Brent Perkins shares his personal story of overcoming pain and shame to become a self-leadership expert. He discusses how men can reclaim purpose, the importance of confronting one's shadow, and the meaning of true boldness in healing and…
- Purpose, Power & Shadow Work with Craig Filek
In this conversation, Craig Perra and Craig Filek explore the emptiness that can follow success, the connection between sexual energy, shame, and purpose, and introduce the Map of Psychological Wholeness to help rewire the brain through ha…
- Healing the Father Wound, Ending Male Isolation & Reclaiming Gold – with Men’s Healer Rick Broniec
Rick Broniec, a men's healer, discusses the epidemic of isolation and the father wound affecting men. The episode explores how early programming hinders emotional intimacy, why men suppress their emotions and "gold," and the importance of…
- Therapist Calls Out the Broken Mental Health System | Coaching vs Therapy, Porn, & Dopamine Loops
Licensed psychotherapist Vincent Infante joins Craig Perra to discuss issues with the traditional mental health system, including therapy
- Sex & Porn Addiction: Why All-or-Nothing Recovery Fails (And What Works Instead
Craig Perra explains that abstinence-only recovery models for sex and porn addiction often lead to relapse and shame. He advocates for a science-based approach with attainable goals, harm reduction strategies like separating porn from mast…
- Understanding What Causes Porn Addiction and How to Overcome It: 9 Minutes
In this episode, Craig Perra explores the causes of porn addiction, including biological, psychological, cultural, and behavioral factors. He explains how it can develop as a coping mechanism due to unmet needs and emphasizes retraining th…
- What Is Sex Addiction: 3 Signs and Symptoms, and Steps to Recovery (11 minutes)
Craig Perra explains sex addiction, its diagnostic controversy, and three key signs: inability to stop, shame, and secrecy. He outlines root causes like poor coping skills and trauma, emphasizing mindfulness and purpose as recovery steps.
- How to Step Into & Stay in Your Masculine Power – 5 Essential Steps That Actually Work (15 minute episode)
Craig Perra outlines 5 essential steps for men to overcome porn habits, emphasizing a system-based, science-backed approach over willpower. The episode covers finding purpose, using systems for habit change, distress tolerance, mindfulness…
- The Real Reason You Can’t Beat Sex & Porn Addiction (And What to Do Instead): Systems
This episode of Patterns of Power discusses sex and porn addiction, defining it as an entrenched coping strategy rather than a mere habit. Host Craig Perra introduces The Mindful Habit System, outlining 9 essential systems designed to help…
- Resentment Will Destroy You: A Must-Listen for Men Struggling w Sex & Porn Addiction
Craig Perra discusses how resentment fuels addiction and sabotages recovery for men. The episode covers the role of resentment in relapse, self-leadership strategies, and using tools like journaling and mindfulness to overcome it.
- From Wounds to Wisdom: Healing, Forgiveness, and Healthy Boundaries with Barbie Moreno
In this episode, Barbie Moreno joins Craig Perra to discuss the impact of childhood trauma on behavior and relationships. Moreno shares her personal journey of healing through mindfulness and EMDR, and offers insights for individuals strug…
- Faith, Porn Addiction, and Hope: Interview with Sathiya Sam, Founder of Deep Clean
Sathiya Sam, founder of the DeepClean program, shares his personal journey rooted in Christian faith and offers faith-based strategies for overcoming porn addiction, rebuilding trust, and living with integrity. He also discusses his work e…
- Why Quitting Porn Might Be Bad for You? (seriously!!!!)
In this episode, coach Craig Perra explains the hidden dangers of quitting porn and why stopping alone is not the solution. He discusses the underlying issues of porn addiction, the risks of focusing solely on sobriety, and offers strategi…
- Is Porn and Technology Really Rotting Your Brain? (8 min. mini-podcast)
Craig Perra explores the effects of sex and porn addiction on the brain, referencing research on technology's impact. He offers recovery tips for overcoming addiction and regaining control, with resources available at mindfulhabithelp.com.
- Overcoming Sex and Porn Addiction: Proven Strategies for 2025
This episode of Patterns of Power focuses on overcoming sex and porn addiction by discussing three levels of change and habit transformation strategies. Host Craig Perra shares advice based on his 13 years of experience with the Mindful Ha…
- AI Critique of the Traditional Sex Addiction Treatment Model
This episode features an AI-generated conversation critiquing the traditional sex addiction treatment model, based on a video by Craig Perra. It explores Perra's framework, emphasizing systems, needs, and parts for a holistic view of healt…
- Sex Addiction, Depression, Anxiety + The Holidays .. and my almost slip and dark hole
Craig Perra shares personal experiences with depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation, particularly during the holidays, offering strategies for coping including self-leadership and mindfulness.
- Mastering Triggers for Sex & Porn Addicts: 4 Must Know Facts to Be Successful Long Term
Craig Perra explains how understanding triggers is key to overcoming sex and porn addiction. He covers their role in the habit cycle, biological basis, and strategies for using them as indicators of unmet needs for long-term success.
- What is A CSAT? Choosing the Right Sex Addiction Therapist (6 minutes)
Craig Perra discusses Certified Sex Addiction Therapists (CSATs), founded by Dr. Patrick Carnes, noting their trauma-informed, 12-step approach to sobriety. He also mentions the ongoing debate regarding sex addiction as a formal diagnosis…
- How to Stop Sex Addiction: My Personal Journey & Proven Steps to Recovery (8 minutes)
Craig Perra discusses his personal journey with sex addiction and insights from leading a treatment program. He outlines steps to recovery, including finding purpose, practicing self-control and mindfulness, understanding habits, seeking c…
- Sextortion's Growing Danger: Protect Yourself from Sex and Porn Addiction Scams
This episode of Patterns of Power addresses the increasing threat of sextortion, a form of blackmail involving explicit material. The host, an addict-turned-coach and attorney, discusses how individuals with sex addictions are particularly…
- 4 Lessons From Neuroscience and Inside Out For Sex & Porn Addicts
Host Craig Perra explores how Pixar's 'Inside Out' and neuroscience can help understand sex and porn addictions. The episode covers how different parts of the mind function, impacting behavior, and advocates for self-leadership and compass…
- From Powerless to Powerful: Powerful Eric's Journey Through Porn Addiction
Craig Perra interviews Eric Zuzak, discussing sexual transmutation and alternative addiction recovery methods. The episode covers using techniques like EFT and Tai Chi to transform sexual energy and overcome addiction, drawing from Napoleo…
- The MOST Powerful 💪 Word in Recovery & LIfe: for Sex Addicts & Spouses
Craig Perra identifies "safe" as the most important word in recovery and life, explaining that feeling safe involves being grounded and connected, which counteracts anxiety. The episode explores using mindfulness to regulate the central ne…
- Breaking Free from Alcohol with Chris Shatek: An Unconventional Journey
Chris Shatek discusses his personal journey from alcoholism to pioneering an alternative, shame-free approach to sobriety, diverging from traditional recovery models. The episode explores the roles of identity, subconscious programming, an…
- From Betrayal Trauma to Empowerment w. Dr. Debi Silber (the pain of sexual secrets)
This episode features Dr. Debi Silber discussing betrayal trauma stemming from infidelity and sexual secrets. It covers the stages of betrayal trauma, the connection to porn and sex addiction, and strategies for healing and recovery.
- Piece of Sh!t Mindful Training Using The Mindful Habit System for Sex & Porn Addiction
This session discusses the Mindful Habit System for treating sex and porn addiction, focusing on managing the inner critic and using mindfulness and breathwork for self-care and recovery.
- Mindfulness Basic Training for Sex & Porn Addicts
Craig Perra discusses the fundamentals of mindfulness, emphasizing its role as a lifestyle choice. This episode provides three mindfulness exercises designed to help individuals struggling with sex and porn addiction gain better self-contr…