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Episode 137 Alexandra Carter How To Ask For More and Turn "No" into "Yes"

Todays guest is one of the most respected voices in modern negotiation. She’s a professor at Columbia Law School, a negotiation trainer to the United Nations, and the bestselling author of Ask for More - a book that has changed how millions of people think about advocating for themselves. Her work challenges a deeply ingrained myth: that negotiation is about confrontation, pressure, or power. Instead, she teaches something far more effective - that the right question, asked at the right moment, can completely change the outcome of a conversation. She’s helped diplomats navigate international crises, leaders negotiate careers and compensation, and everyday people learn how to ask for what they deserve — without fear, guilt, or burnout. Today, we’re going to talk about why asking is a skill, how to negotiate without aggression, and how to show up with confidence in the moments that matter most. Follow Alex: Claim your copy of Ask For More https://amzn.to/4roY4RU Follow Alex on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/alexandrabcarter/ Columbia Law School https://www.law.columbia.edu/faculty/alexandra-carter Alex website https://alexcarterasks.com/ Tedx Talk https://www.ted.com/talks/alex_carter_how_to_ask_for_more_and_get_it_sep_2024 🚀 Follow Tim Castle If you want to master negotiation, influence, and high-stakes decision-making in the age of AI —start here: 📚 Books Magnetic Influence – How to negotiate and persuade in a disrupted world → Pre-order now: https://amzn.to/3M5HKq3 The First Domino – The complete playbook to go from $0 to $5M → Get it here: https://amzn.to/3Z0NrbJ The Art of Negotiation – #1 in the UK for Job Interviews & #1 in the US for Career Advancement → Read it: https://amzn.to/3LSA6zh 🧠 Courses & Training The Highly Skilled Negotiator (80+ Lessons) → https://www.timjscastle.com/the-highly-skilled-negotiator Job Interview Mastery → https://www.timjscastle.com/job-interview-mastery Negotiator’s Edge Training Academy (AI + Negotiation) → https://www.thenegotiatorsedge.ai/ 🎥 Community YouTube → https://www.youtube.com/@TimCastle Website → https://www.timjscastle.com/

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