We Love Each Other, But We Don’t Have Sex.
Why do so many loving couples stop having sex? In today’s episode of Sex, Here & Now , I’m diving into something I see constantly in my therapy office: couples in their late 30s and 40s who are still deeply in love… but their sex life has disappeared. No big betrayal. No dramatic rupture. Just an erotic stalemate. Drawing from Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love, the Dual Control Model of sexual response from the Kinsey Institute, and insights from Esther Perel and Emily Nagoski, I break down why passion naturally shifts over time and what actually brings it back. We’ll talk about: • Why intimacy and commitment can unintentionally dull erotic energy • How your “gas pedals” and “brakes” impact sexual desire • The parent-child dynamic that quietly kills attraction • Practical exercises to rebuild anticipation, playfulness, and connection If you and your partner feel stuck sexually but still love each other, this episode is for you. This is more common than you think, and it is absolutely workable. It just takes intention. Are you a healthcare professional or mental health therapist and looking for sex therapy continuing education? Get 10% of your first course here by using code podcast10 A list of sex education, sex therapy, and relationship resources here Sign up for my online class here You can now watch the full video podcast on YouTube! Let's get social: Website / Instagram / YouTube Please make sure to subscribe and rate my podcast!