Ownit! Powercast
Self-Improvement
About
The Own It! Powercast is all about personal growth. It's about taking time to learn, grow and change, with You in the driver's seat. Life coach, counselor and teacher Mary Baker will walk you through the necessary ingredients to have great self-confidence, live with purpose and on purpose, and finally start to love your life. This is a show about taking charge of your personal growth, and about taking your fear and turning it into powerful choices that will create sustained changes. Finally understand what's been in your way all along, and the tools you need to get to where you want to be. So if you're serious about transforming your relationships with yourself and others, then this is the podcast for you!
Episodes
- EP330: The Real Costs of Being Around Emotionally Unhealthy People
In this episode, we explore how the people around us shape far more than we realize, from our nervous systems and confidence to our communication, clarity, and ability to grow. We talk about why growth often stalls around emotionally immat…
- EP329: Why We Need Safe Community to Grow (Originally Aired on The Positive Pen Podcast)
This week, I'm doing something a little different. I'm re-airing a conversation I recently had as a guest on The Positive Pen Podcast with John Rinaldo. John creates thoughtful conversations centered around storytelling, healing, reflectio…
- EP328 Why You Keep Showing Up the Same Way The Patterns You Learned to Survive
Many of the ways we show up in relationships aren't random…they're roles we learned early in life to navigate our environment and stay connected. In this episode, we take a closer look at the common roles people carry into adulthood and ho…
- EP327: How Your Childhood Still Shows Up in Your Relationships: Conversation with Mark and Lynetta
Today I'm joined by Mark Siedler and Lynetta Avery. They work with people who keep finding themselves in the same relationship situations having the same arguments, feeling pulled toward the same kinds of partners, and wondering why nothin…
- EP326 When Fear Isn't in Charge Anymore
In this episode, we close out the month by bringing everything together: what it actually looks like to move out of reaction and into intention. When you begin to understand how fear shows up in your thoughts, your body, and your communica…
- EP325 Hearing Your Own Voice Again How to Reconnect with Real You Interview with Kristen Crabtree
Kristen Crabtree is the author of Be the You That's More You Than You've Ever Been and a self-revelation guide who helps people separate truth from adaptation so they can live from alignment rather than conditioning. Her work is rooted in…
- EP324 Start with What If: The Simplest Way to Create Immediate Practical Change: Interview with Doug Fleener
Doug Fleener's story shows how small shifts can completely redirect a day and a life. He went from bankrupting his family business because of addiction to rebuilding his life and career — eventually becoming the Director of Retail for Bose…
- EP323 Your Brain on Fear: Why You React Before You Think
Why do we react before we think? Why does a simple conversation sometimes feel loaded, urgent, or overwhelming? In this episode, we explore what's happening inside your brain when fear takes the lead — and why your reactions can feel so co…
- EP322: Real Communication: Regulated, Respectful, and Responsible
We talk a lot about "good communication," but most of what people call good is actually just conflict avoidance. In this episode, we explore what emotionally mature communication really looks like — especially in the moments when it's hard…
- EP321: Detachment and Choice: Why Over Explaining and People Pleasing Aren't Communication
In this episode, we continue the month's focus on choice by exploring how easily communication can become a way to manage discomfort instead of express truth. Many of us were taught that being clear means saying more, softening our message…
- EP320: Why Negotiating Needs Feels So Hard (And What It Reveals About Your Boundaries)
In this episode, I explore why the struggle to speak up isn't usually about communication skills, but about what our discomfort reveals regarding boundaries, emotional maturity, and internal safety. Rather than focusing on what others are…
- EP319: When Divorce Isn't Just Divorce: How Control Masquerades as Conflict
In this episode, I'm joined by Lisa Johnson, co-founder of Been There Got Out, for an important conversation about coercive control and high-conflict divorce. Together, we explore the critical difference between typical divorce conflict —…
- EP318: Letting Go So You Don't Lose Yourself
Many people feel emotionally drained not because they care too much, but because they carry too much. In this episode, I explore why empathy often turns into exhaustion, especially for those who learned early to manage emotions and prevent…
- EP317: Healthy Boundaries for a New Year
As a new year begins, many people feel the pull to reset, and at the same time, notice how hard it is to protect their energy, time, and emotional space. In this episode, I explore why boundaries can feel especially tender right now, parti…
- EP316: Why January Can Feel Harder Than It Should
January isn't about rein vention. It's about re-orientation. Many people come into January feeling scattered, tired, or strangely disconnected…and assume they should be further along by now. In this episode, I talk about why that experienc…
- EP315: Your Holiday Bill of Rights
The holidays often come with unspoken expectations to overgive, overexplain, and override our own needs. In this episode, I introduce the concept of a Holiday Bill of Rights: compassionate reminder of what we are allowed to honor during a…
- EP314: Holiday Self Care Begins with Telling Yourself the Truth
In this episode, we're continuing our holiday self-care series with one essential truth: real peace begins when we're honest about what we can actually handle. The holidays tend to pull us back into old roles and emotional patterns, leavin…
- EP313 From the Vault EP191 Real Self-Care Means Following Through
This week, we're pulling a good one from the vault… Welcome to Episode 191 where we dig into how real self-care means following through on what we need to do to take care of ourselves. In this episode we dive deeper into the idea that TRUE…
- EP312: Boundaries, Family Dynamics, and Staying Sane at Thanksgiving
This week, we're looking at how our families shaped the way we think about boundaries and why holiday gatherings like Thanksgiving tend to reactivate old roles and survival strategies. This episode explores how to show up differently this…
- EP311 Boundaries and Reality: Letting Go of Fantasy Facing What's True
Boundaries aren't just about saying no - they're about finally seeing clearly. In this episode, I break down how boundary work forces us out of fantasy and into reality, and why this shift brings up grief, sadness, and confusion before it…
- EP310 Boundaries in Words: How Clear Communication Changes Everything
When you start communicating with boundaries, the tone of every relationship begins to change — sometimes in ways that surprise you. In this episode, Mary Baker breaks down what it really means to speak from emotional honesty and detachmen…
- EP309: The Paradigm Shift: Why Boundary Work Feels So Uncomfortable at First
Boundary work sounds empowering — and it is — but no one tells you how strange it feels at first. When you begin honoring your limits, your nervous system doesn't throw a party; it throws a fit. In this episode, we unpack why your body equ…
- EP308: When Fear Keeps You Frozen and What Helps You Thaw
Feeling stuck doesn't mean you're unmotivated — it usually means you don't feel safe enough to move. Fear, shame, and self-doubt can quietly trap us in loops of overthinking, avoidance, and perfectionism, especially when past experiences h…
- EP307 The Season of Brave Choosing Growth Over Comfort
In this episode we talk about how Letting go of control, comfort, and old coping patterns isn't easy. Change asks us to allow , to trust , and to let in — all things that can feel terrifying if we've spent years surviving by keeping walls…
- EP306: Facing the Mirror: What We Don't Want to Admit
In this episode we're talking about the truths we often avoid — the ones that feel too heavy, too risky, or too painful to face. These are the truths about ourselves, our relationships, and our lives that we push aside in the name of comfo…
- EP305: Gentle Questions for Your Growth Journey
When you begin doing deeper work on yourself, the questions start coming: Why do I feel guilty when I take care of myself? Why does setting boundaries suddenly feel so frustrating? Why do I feel like I can't tolerate certain people anymore…
- EP304: Relationship Q&A The Struggles We Don't Talk About Enough
In this week's episode, I answer some of the most common questions I've heard as both a therapist and coach. From knowing when you're settling, to why we ignore red flags, to what to do when boundaries aren't respected, these struggles sho…
- EP303: The Thin Line Between Support and Control
Sometimes what we call "helping" is actually about managing our own anxiety or steering someone else's choices. In this episode, we explore how love and care can get tangled with control—often without us realizing it. We'll look at how thi…
- EP302: Spotting Subtle Red Flags: The Behaviors That Slowly Wear You Down
Not all unhealthy relationships announce themselves with yelling, cheating, or dramatic fights. Many of the most damaging ones chip away at us quietly—through subtle behaviors we often brush off or explain away. In this episode, Mary unpac…
- EP301: Waking People Up with Positivity: Interview with Jimmy Warr-Mize
Today's guest, Jimmy Warr-Mize, has a story that's anything but typical. From his early days as a self-described jack-of-all-trades to being featured in Forbes , interviewing celebrities, and representing billion-dollar brands—he's done th…
- EP300 Learning to Be with Our Feelings Again with Claire Garner
This new month is all about being, being still, and having the bravery to be your authentic self. Well, in order to do that, we HAVE to reconnect with our feelings and truly be able to sit with them, or we simply cannot truly be in touch w…
- EP298: When Safe Doesn't Feel Emotionally Safe: What Your Body Is Trying to Tell You
In this episode, we explore how your nervous system, subconscious, and body are constantly scanning for emotional safety—even when your logical mind doesn't quite know why something feels off. You'll learn why your body might respond to su…
- EP297: Can I Trust Me to Show Up?
EP297: Can I Trust Me to Show Up? In this episode, we take a close look at something we don't talk about enough: the quiet ways we drift from ourselves. We often pride ourselves on being reliable, supportive, and present for others—but wha…
- EP296: Are You Still in Survival Mode? How to Know—and How to Shift
In this episode, we explore what it means to be stuck in survival mode—mentally, emotionally, and physically—and how many of us are living from a place of fear, habit, and urgency without realizing it. Survival mode can look like over-func…
- EP295: How to Rebuild Self Trust (Even if You've Betrayed Yourself Before)
In this episode, we're diving into what it really means to trust yourself—especially after years of self-doubt, people-pleasing, or putting everyone else's needs ahead of your own. Self-trust isn't about always having the answers or gettin…
- EP294: Where Did You Go? The Moment You Started Leaving Yourself Behind
In this episode, we take a deeper look at the slow, often unnoticed ways we begin to disconnect from ourselves—especially when survival, acceptance, or love seemed to depend on it. Whether it started in childhood or in a past relationship,…
- EP293: Learning to Stay: Mindfulness, Healing, and Emotional Resilience with Derek Lakin
In this episode, I sit down with Derek Lakin, a mindfulness teacher and Awareness Guide whose journey from deep depression to emotional resilience is nothing short of powerful. Derek opens up about the moment he nearly ended his life, and…
- EP292: Letting Go to Move Ahead: EMDR Coaching for Life Change Conversation with Coach Christine Roslund
In this episode, I'm joined by my friend Christine Roslund—an experienced coach, therapist, and EMDR practitioner. We explore how Christine blends years of EMDR therapy with life coaching to help her clients clear deep blocks and reconnect…
- EP291: Staying With Yourself When You Want to Run
In this episode, we explore how emotional avoidance and self-abandonment often disguise themselves as being "helpful," "productive," or "strong." Whether it's saying yes too quickly, fixing others' emotions, or numbing out with distraction…
- EP290: Why We Struggle to Feel Safe in Our Own Minds and Bodies
Today, we kick off the month's theme of Reclaiming Inner Safety by unpacking why so many of us live in a constant state of disconnection. From racing thoughts and emotional numbing to people-pleasing and overfunctioning, we explore how ear…
- EP289 How Emotional Safety Makes Space for the Real You
If you've ever found yourself holding back in conversation, choosing your words carefully, scanning the other person's face, or thinking three steps ahead just to avoid conflict, you're not alone. Emotional honesty isn't something we magic…
- EP288: Feeling Safe Changes the Choices You Make
We're often told that courage is about inner strength…that we have to dig deep and face the fear alone. But that's not how it actually works. Courage is a relational experience. We're more likely to take brave steps when we feel emotionall…
- EP287 Why Courage Doesn't Work Without Connection
So many of us believe we should be able to be brave on our own. That courage is something we're supposed to summon from within—without asking for help, without needing anyone. But what if that idea is quietly keeping us stuck? In this epis…
- EP286 This Is a Boundary Too: The Small Daily Choices That Set the Tone for Your Life
In this episode, we're exploring the invisible ways boundary issues show up in our everyday routines - especially in how we manage time, energy, and expectations. Most of us think of boundaries as things we set with other people, but what…
- EP285: Is It a Confidence Issue? Sue Reid Shares What to Look For
In this episode, I sit down with confidence coach Sue Reid for an honest and empowering conversation about what it really means to have self-confidence. We talk about the moments in life that can shake our belief in ourselves, how old patt…
- EP284 Finding Your Center When the World Feels Like It's Spinning
When life feels overwhelming, whether due to personal stress or world events, it can be incredibly hard to stay grounded and connected to yourself. In this episode, we're normalizing just how real that struggle is. We explore what's actual…
- EP283 You're Not Broken—You're in a Loop
We all have patterns we wish we could break—procrastination, people-pleasing, perfectionism—but what if the real reason we stay stuck isn't what we think? In this episode, we're exploring the quiet, powerful force behind so many of these c…
- EP282: Feeling Like You're Too Much or Not Enough? That's Shame Talking
There are patterns we carry that don't always make sense at first—like why we feel guilty for saying no, why success makes us uncomfortable, or why we shrink ourselves in moments when we should feel proud. In this episode, we're exploring…
- EP281: When Growth Creates Distance: Navigating Relationships as You Evolve
Growth isn't just about changing yourself—it's about changing the way you engage with the world around you. And as you evolve, it's natural to find that some relationships no longer align with where you're headed. This isn't a sign that so…
- EP280: Are You Waiting for Change That's Never Coming?
Have you ever found yourself holding onto the hope that someone will change—believing in their potential more than the reality right in front of you? It's easy to get caught up in what could be, especially when we care deeply. But at what…