Why You Keep Losing It in Difficult Conversations at Work (And How to Fix It)
If you’ve ever walked out of a conversation thinking, “How did that go left when I wanted it to go right?” —this episode is for you. In my experience, it’s rarely about saying the wrong thing. More often, it’s about the state of your mind you were in when you said it. In this episode, I break down one of the most important habits I’ve learned over the years: regulate before you communicate. Because the truth is, your emotional state, your mindset, your energy, and what you’re carrying into the room often determine whether a conversation moves forward or falls apart. I share a personal story about a moment when I said something that was completely factually accurate but because my energy was off, it landed wrong and turned one conversation into three. From there, I walk you through four questions I use before any tough conversation to help me stay grounded, think clearly, and lead the moment rather than react to it. This isn’t about saying the perfect thing. It’s about learning how to lead yourself first, so you can lead the conversation without losing your calm, your clarity, or your credibility. If this is something you’re working on, I also share how you can go deeper with me in my upcoming workshop, Lead Without Losing It. https://www.kandiajohnson.com/lead-without-losing-it