Kandid Conversations
Self-Improvement
About
Ready to show up and speak up anyway despite dealing with fear, uncertainty, or self-doubt? Kandia is your personal hype woman, leadership visibility coach and educator helping you unlearn limiting beliefs, communicate confidence, and master your story so you can get hired and recognized as a leader at work or in your industry.Topics include: Mindset mastery, self-doubt, confident communication, storytelling self promotion, publicity and redesigning your life and career.
Episodes
- Why Working Harder Isn’t the Answer
This episode discusses how a backyard project offered insights into growth and perspective, questioning the effectiveness of simply working harder. It covers the leadership risk of unrecognized blind spots and how challenges reveal charact…
- When Opportunity Knocks, Check This First
This episode discusses the difference between perceived opportunities and true assignments, addressing the confusion between external pressure and internal alignment. It offers guidance on how to check for alignment and provides three ques…
- How To Lead When You Don't Know What You're Doing
This episode shares a personal story about getting lost in Italy, illustrating how clarity in leadership emerges from the journey of uncertainty, not before it. It explores brain responses to feeling lost and offers strategies for staying…
- Sleep On It: Stop Forcing Decisions at Work
This episode discusses the challenges of forcing decisions at work and offers an alternative approach. It explores the benefits of letting decisions 'marinate,' applying Parkinson's Law, utilizing the 80% rule, and managing unhelpful thoug…
- Yes, It’s Convenient, But What's it Costing You?
The Kandid Conversations episode "Yes, It’s Convenient, But What's it Costing You?" discusses how excessive convenience erodes discernment and decision-making skills. The host shares a personal experience with AI-generated content and intr…
- Why You Keep Losing It in Difficult Conversations at Work (And How to Fix It)
If you’ve ever walked out of a conversation thinking, “How did that go left when I wanted it to go right?” —this episode is for you. In my experience, it’s rarely about saying the wrong thing. More often, it’s about the state of your mind…
- You’re Not Stuck, You’re Just Asking the Wrong Questions (Here’s What to Ask Instead)
Have you ever felt stuck, replaying the same situation in your mind, trying to figure out what to do next, but not actually getting anywhere? Listen, I’ve been there more times than I’d like to admit. What I’ve learned is that feeling stuc…
- Stop Overthinking and Make Decisions Faster with This Mindset Shift
If you're sitting on a decision, waiting to feel 100% certain before you move , wondering if you won't regret it, or trying to make sure you won't look like you don't have it together, that need for certainty might be the very thing keepin…
- Protecting Your Peace OR Avoiding the Hard Things
“Protect your peace.” It’s a phrase I keep hearing. I’m even guilty of repeating it, but sometimes what we call protecting our peace is really just avoiding something we don’t want to deal with. In this episode, I share a powerful mindset…
- I'm Proactively Ignorant (Yes, I Said It)
Have you ever woken up already irritated… and nothing has even happened yet? You haven’t opened your email. You haven’t spoken to anyone. But your body feels tight, your thoughts feel crowded, and your mood is slightly off before the day e…
- Stop Moving In Silence
“You can’t tell people your dreams.” After my last episode, someone told me you shouldn’t tell people your dreams because not everybody wants good for you.” And I get it. That advice sounds wise. It sounds protective. But what if you’re ac…
- Execution Without Evolution: Why Your Goals Keep Failing
You have the vision and goals. You even have a plan for things you need to do achieve your goals. So why is it so hard for you to execute without stalling? In this episode, I break down why most goals don’t fail because of laziness or lack…
- 5 Books That Helped Me Get Out of My Own Way
Ever wake up and think: “I don’t even know what I’m even doing anymore.” Yeah. Same. If you’re feeling stuck, burned out, or just off your game, consider this episode your reset button. I’m breaking down five books that helped me rethink e…
- The Calendar Is a Liar
If the end or the start of the year has got you feeling discouraged, you're questioning your progress, your pace, or your purpose… this episode is for you. I recorded this episode to remind you that this season is not a failure, even if it…
- Tough Conversations: Ask This One Question Before You Avoid It
If you’ve ever bit your tongue to keep the peace or avoided saying what needed to be said because you weren’t sure how it would land, this one’s for you. When you confuse discomfort with pain, you end up running from the very stretch that…
- How to Deal With People Who Refuse to Take Accountability at Work
Ever dealt with someone who dropped the ball, and then straight up pretended they didn’t? Even after you presented them with receipts!? Yeah. Same. In this episode, I’m unpacking one of the fastest ways to lose trust as a leader: dodging a…
- The Anxiety Cheat Code I Wish I'd Known at 30
Ever felt a wave of frustration, overwhelm, or self-doubt, and couldn’t quite shake it off? What if the key to getting unstuck wasn’t in your mind, not in your words, but in your body? Today's episode is all about the cheat code I've disco…
- Stop Telling Yourself “I Don’t Know What to Do”
Have you ever found yourself staring at your to-do list, your goals, your dreams, and suddenly felt paralyzed by the thought, “I don’t know what to do” ? In this episode, I’m sharing why that phrase is more dangerous than it sounds, and ho…
- Changing Careers in Your 40s? You’re Not Lost, Lazy or Behind—You’re Brave ASF
In today’s episode, I get real about the silent grief, identity shifts, and hormonal chaos that come with career changes in your 40s and 50s. This isn’t just about finding a new job, it’s about letting go of the version of you the world ex…
- Day 7: When Getting Out of Bed Feels Like Climbing a Mountain
If you've ever woken up feeling like getting out of bed was the hardest part of your day, this episode is for you. Today, I’m guiding you through one of the most powerful shifts I’ve learned: how to calm the spiral of overthinking and retu…
- Day 6: Why Your To-Do List Isn’t the Problem, Your Mindset Might Be
Ever look at your to-do list and feel like you're drowning, no matter how early you wake up or how hard you grind? You’re not lazy, and you’re definitely not failing. You’re over-functioning. In this final episode of the RESET Challenge, I…
- Day 5: Burnout? Why Romanticizing Your Day Might Be the Answer
Tired, but don’t know why? It might not be the work. It might be the pressure to prove your worth through it. In today’s episode, I’m digging into something I see all the time, especially with highly ambitious leaders and executives: the e…
- Day 4: What Would the Fearless Version of You Choose?
Stuck in indecision? Overthinking every move? Today we flip that. In this episode of the RESET Challenge, I walk you through a powerful letter-to-self exercise that helps you stop reacting from your past and start deciding from your future…
- Day 3: A 2-Minute Daily Habit That Builds Self Care + Confidence
If you could get one hour back in your day, how would you spend it? In this episode, I’m unpacking one of the most overlooked reasons we feel overwhelmed, disconnected, or stuck—we wait until the end of the day to make space for ourselves.…
- Day 2: How to Set Goals With Soul, Not pressure.
Ever chased a goal that looked good on paper, but left you feeling empty, overwhelmed, or off-track? Yeah, me too. In this episode, we’re unpacking why traditional goal-setting can backfire, and how to reset with intention, not just ambiti…
- Day 1: Who Am I When I Strip Away All the Shoulds?
Ever find yourself saying, “I should be further along by now” ... “I should feel more grateful”… or “I should want this life I built”? Yeah. Me too. This episode kicks off a 7 day free challenge to reset and reclaim your power in life and…
- When Your Life Doesn’t Fit Anymore: Now What?
Ever look around at your life and think, “I should be grateful… but this ain’t it?” Yeah. Me too. In this episode, I’m sharing what I’ve learned from sitting at that exact crossroads—and what I’ve seen so many high-achieving leaders quietl…
- The #1 Mistake Holding You Back From Your Next Opportunity
Have you ever watched someone less experienced land an opportunity you wanted? 🤔 In this episode, I share the #1 mistake that held me back early in my career and how it transformed my approach to success. Drawing from 15+ years in consult…
- A Cure For Self Doubt?
Is there a "cure" for self-doubt? This question stopped me in my tracks when it appeared in my Facebook comments recently. After interviewing nearly hundreds of leaders for Black Enterprise magazine—from first-time entrepreneurs to C-Suite…
- Escaping the Year-End Funk: How to Reset and Honor Your Promises
As we approach the end of the year, it's easy to get caught up in the pressure to tick off those big, tangible goals. And let’s be real—if you’re anything like me, that pressure can quickly turn into a guilt spiral when we realize we haven…
- Own Your Voice: Direct, Kind, and Unapologetic
Ever sat in a meeting biting your tongue because someone once told you that you were "too aggressive" or "too direct"? Or maybe you're holding back brilliant ideas because you don't want to be labeled as "too much"? Here's the harsh truth:…
- Feedback: Should You Accept or Reject It?
Ever feel like you're drowning in feedback that feels more like shade than constructive criticism? Today, I'm breaking down my four-step filtering process that helps you decide whether to take that feedback to heart or let it go. Think of…
- Leaders, Are Your Daily Habits Sabotaging Your Success?
In this episode, I explore the subtle ways our daily habits can quietly sabotage our confidence as leaders. Often, success isn't about adding more to our plate but breaking free from routines that are holding us back. I share real-life lea…
- Walking in Leadership Confidence: 5 Weekly Questions for Bold Growth
In this quick 4-minute episode, I’m diving into the power of Walking in Leadership Confidence by asking yourself five key questions each week. These aren't just any questions—they’ll challenge you to show up as the most confident version o…
- How Yoga Helped Me Heal and Lead with Confidence w/Dr/Nila Austin
What if I told you that when it comes to leading yourself with confidence, healing from trauma, and finding peace in the chaos of life, yoga can be the powerful tool you’ve been missing—and it’s not just about flexibility or fitness? In th…
- Unshakeable You: How to Find Calm in Chaos
What if the key to navigating life's storms was hidden in your next breath? In a world of constant change and conflict, staying composed isn't just a skill—it's a superpower. And today, you're about to unlock it. In this episode, we're div…
- Success Sound Scary? You're Not Alone: My Confidence Confessions
In this episode, I'm getting real with y'all about my own confidence struggles, especially when it comes to sustaining success and balancing my introverted nature with my desire to make a global impact. I hope that by being vulnerable abou…
- From Nervous to Natural: 4 Steps to Presentation Confidence
Ever felt like your heart might jump out of your chest right before a big presentation? Are you stumped on how to truly connect with your audience? Trust me, I've been there. But what if I told you those butterflies in your stomach could b…
- How I Stopped Connecting My Self-Worth to Job Title
Ever wondered why you’re unhappy at work or in life despite your achievements? Feeling burnt out and undervalued? You're not alone, and in this episode, I’m diving deep into the real reasons behind this dissatisfaction. Join me, as I share…
- Break Free From Perfectionism in 8-Minutes
Ever feel stuck because you're afraid of being wrong? Yeah, me too. In just 8 minutes, we're tackling the fear of being wrong, how it keeps us stuck, and ways to get out of your own way. Inspired by a powerful convo between Sarah Jakes Rob…
- Stuck at a Crossroad in Life? This Question Changes Everything
Are you standing at one of life's many crossroads? Maybe you’re contemplating a career change, seizing a growth opportunity, or facing conflict in a relationship. In this episode, I share a powerful question that not only helps you make be…
- Feeling Intimidated? Remember This
If you've ever felt like shrinking yourself because you think others are better or faster, this one's for you. In this quick episode, I’m diving into a personal story about overcoming self-doubt and remembering why you deserve to take up s…
- When Your Energy Doesn’t Match Your Ambition
Feeling like your energy doesn't match your ambition? In this episode of Kandid Conversations, I dive into practical strategies for syncing your drive with your vibe, celebrating small victories, and overcoming your inner critic. Learn how…
- The Critical Life Skill No One Teaches You - Mastering Adaptability
In a world where change is the only constant and conflicts are a part of our daily grind, I've uncovered one game-changing skill: adaptability. But guess what? It’s rarely taught! Join me, Kandia, your personal hype woman, as I dive into w…
- Is Your Unapproachability Ruining Your Career (And Ways to FIx That)?
Ever wonder why some folks seem to magnetize opportunities and others don’t? Hint: It’s not all about stacking up credentials or flaunting degrees and accolades. It really boils down to this—Are you the leader who inspires or just intimida…
- Shattered Confidence? Here's How to Piece It Together
Have you ever had a moment that completely shook your confidence? One of those times when it felt like your world was flipped upside down, leaving you doubting your skills, questioning your voice, or decision-making capabilities? In this e…
- The Legacy We Leave vs. The Likes We Chase
In a world obsessed with likes, viral moments, and the endless chase for followers and trappings of success, how often do you hit the pause button and dive deep into your true purpose in life and the impact you'll have on the world when yo…
- I Went Whale Watching and Found the Magic Formula for Transforming Obstacles into Opportunities
I recently went whale watching. And let me tell you, it was eye-opening. Not just because of the majestic whales but because it hit me – this whole adventure is a perfect metaphor for life, especially our work lives. I realized four crucia…
- Weekday Wins: How The Wait For The Weekend Mindset is Killing You
As someone prone to overworking myself, I know we can all get stuck in the daily grind, moving from task to task and meeting to meeting without any breaks. But here's the thing: whether you are stuck in a career or workday rut, the truth i…
- Unsubscribed: The Power of Saying: This Ain't Working for Me Anymore
In this episode, I share a life lesson in disguise from an unexpected source - a Hulu email. I reveal the importance of being okay with changing your mind and updating the terms and conditions of your life. We'll explore the signs that it'…