Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer
Psychology & Relationships
About
Love and dating can be messy—so let’s talk about it! On this multi-award-winning podcast, comedian Nicole Byer explores romantic highs, lows, and all the juicy stuff in between, alongside comedians, experts, and sometimes an ex or two. New episodes every Friday!
Episodes
- Farting All Night on a First Date (w/ Beck Bennett)
Beck Bennett joins Nicole Byer to discuss his relationship, including meeting his wife, long-distance dating, and their engagement. They also share personal anecdotes from their childhood.
- Pikachu, I Choose You! (w/ Sarah Natochenny)
Sarah Natochenny joins Nicole Byer to discuss her dating experiences, including her methods for vetting first dates and why she prefers her cat to a boyfriend. They also discuss Cher's relationship and solo travel tips.
- Looksmaxxing Is Psychotic (w/ Tan France)
In this episode, Tan France joins Nicole Byer to talk about his marriage, previous work designing clothes, and the racism he encountered while dating in the UK. They also discuss the "looksmaxxing" trend.
- Dating with Borderline Personality Disorder (w/ Makhyli)
Makhyli joins Nicole to discuss her experiences with dating, including building a "Build-A-Boy" slideshow and navigating relationship paranoia with Borderline Personality Disorder. They also share car-date horror stories and dating tips fo…
- Astrology's Effect in Relationships (w/ Nathan Mitchell)
Nathan Mitchell joins Nicole Byer to discuss relationship limbo, unusual dating experiences, and the importance of astrology in dating. Nathan also gives Nicole a deep-dive birth chart reading.
- Life as a 90s Sex Symbol (w/ Danielle Fishel)
Danielle Fishel joins Nicole Byer to discuss her experiences as a child star and "sex symbol" in the 90s, including public scrutiny over her age and weight. She also shares stories about taking Lance Bass to prom, having Sabrina Carpenter…
- There's a Yelp for BJs (w/ Drew Droege)
Nicole Byer and Drew Droege discuss relationship dynamics, a hookup app with unusual reviews, and the romanticization of abusive relationships in pop culture. They also break down the movie "Pillion" and mention Drew Droege's upcoming show.
- Our Healthy Era (w/ Kym Whitley)
Kym Whitley joins Nicole Byer to discuss their "healthy era," including hydration, exercise, and post-weight loss life. They also cover dating stories, including a televised blind date, and the art of flirting. The podcast also thanks its…
- Having "The Body" (w/ Fantasia Royale Gaga)
Fantasia Royale Gaga joins Nicole Byer to discuss her journey as "The Body," dating, and using Grindr. She also shares experiences with public attention and religious trauma.
- Being a Dom (w/ Sapphira Cristál)
Sapphira Cristál joins Nicole Byer for a discussion on topics including being a dom, impact play, and the 12-hour prep cycle for bottoming. Sapphira also shares how she met her partner and a story about a previous experience.
- Worst Hookup EVER (w/ Jasmine Masters)
Jasmine Masters joins Nicole Byer to talk about her time on Drag Race, her viral "And I Oop-" video, and recounts her worst hookup. She also shares a story about a surprise meet-and-greet at an Olive Garden.
- The Torture of Working with an Ex (w/ Nicholas Scheppard)
Nicholas Scheppard joins Nicole Byer to discuss the challenges of working with an ex-boyfriend and relationship theories. They also talk about breakups and situationships.
- Celebrating Galentine's Day (w/ Sasheer Zamata)
Nicole Byer and Sasheer Zamata celebrate Galentine's Day. They discuss the importance of female friendship, their love lives, and share stories from their dates together.
- I Want You to Watch (w/ Heidi N Closet)
Heidi N Closet talks about her favorite anime, her open relationship, and stories from her pre-fame jobs. Nicole Byer also shares a personal story.
- Your Favorite Queen’s Favorite Seamstress (w/ Danny Godoy)
Designer and drag queen Danny Godoy talks about his work, teaching Nicole Byer to sew, and drag queen craft nights. Nicole Byer also discusses her dental drama.
- Rolling Blunts for a Money Launderer (w/ Brooke Candy)
Brooke Candy joins Nicole Byer to discuss her relationship, past experiences, and jobs. Nicole Byer shares her theory on why she is murder-proof.
- Dating Your Competition on Drag Race (w/ Kori King)
Kori King joins Nicole Byer to discuss her experience finding love on the set of Drag Race with Lydia B. Kollins. She also shares stories from her past and talks about relationship drama among her guinea pigs.
- Getting Robbed by Hookups (w/ Lushious Massacr)
Lushious Massacr discusses her experiences with dating, including a new relationship, being banned from dating apps, and how she deals with men who attempt to rob her. She also shares her thoughts on feminine power and relationships.
- Addressing the Lies & Backlash (w/ Ginger Minj)
Ginger Minj joins Nicole Byer to discuss backlash and "lying" accusations. She also talks about her weight loss, autism diagnosis, and her polyamorous throuple.
- How to Trick your Partner Into Better Taste (w/ Bobby Berk)
Bobby Berk from Queer Eye joins Nicole Byer to discuss his 22-year relationship, how he met his husband, and his method for influencing a partner's taste. He also shares why he does not give gifts or celebrate Valentine's Day.
- A Cathartic Year End Rant (w/ Mike Mitchell)
In this episode, Nicole Byer and Mike Mitchell discuss dating, body image, and various holiday-related topics. They also share a unique dating encounter and express their thoughts on the current state of streamers and Hollywood.
- Defending Our Marriage (w/ Latrice Royale & Christopher Hamblin)
Latrice Royale and Christopher Hamblin join Nicole Byer to discuss their marriage, including how they met, working together, and public reception to their interracial marriage. Latrice also shares experiences from Drag Race and her evolvin…
- Oversharing (w/ Yvie Oddly & Ryan Mitchell)
Yvie Oddly and Ryan Mitchell join Nicole Byer to overshare. Yvie discusses her reaction to Ariana Grande, her open relationship, and a didgeridoo experience. Ryan shares his dating history, being cheated on, and a risky hookup. They also d…
- The Dark Reality of 'Skinny Privilege' (w/ Nava Kavelin)
Nava Kavelin joins Nicole Byer to discuss the concept of "skinny privilege" and how weight loss can drastically change societal perceptions. They also explore relationship dynamics, the difficulties of non-committal partners, and the impac…
- Fraud & Legal Battles (w/ Lexi Love)
Lexi Love joins Nicole Byer to discuss a legal battle over her drag name, her experiences during RuPaul's Drag Race S17, and challenges faced during her recovery after rehab. She also shares anecdotes from her past, including teaching anti…
- Losing Everything (w/ Tig Notaro)
Tig Notaro joins Nicole Byer to discuss overcoming a challenging period that included a cancer diagnosis, pneumonia, C. diff, a breakup, and the loss of her mother. Notaro shares how these experiences changed her outlook, led to her relati…
- Kiki-ing (w/ Oscar Montoya)
Nicole Byer and Oscar Montoya chat about various topics, including Halloween costumes, fashion, audience stories, and dating. Nicole also shares a unique wedding proposal story.
- Why Won't You Scare Me? (w/ Mano Agapion)
In this Halloween special, Mano Agapion joins Nicole Byer to share a ghost story from Greece and an encounter with an astrologer. Nicole discusses her unique funeral plans. They also talk about a "psychic" sex criminal and lipstick teeth.
- Never Dated (w/ Kim Chi)
Kim Chi joins Nicole Byer to discuss her experiences with never having dated and her thoughts on relationships. She shares anecdotes from her drag career and insights from her cookbook.
- Happy Endings (w/ Pit Crew Bruno)
Nicole Byer is joined by Drag Race pit crew member Bruno Alcantara. They talk about his experiences as a model, massage therapist, and life coach, as well as his personal journey, including discovering his identity. Bruno also offers Nicol…
- Send Me Your Hole Pics (w/ Angeria Paris VanMichaels)
Angeria Paris VanMichaels joins Nicole Byer to discuss the etiquette of hooking up with a RuGirl, navigating "boyfriend things" in situationships, and the exhaustion of always texting first. Angeria also shares her desires in a partner and…
- The Viral Hijabi Pole Dancer (w/ Neda Momeni)
Neda Momeni shares her experiences as a labor and delivery nurse, her journey with Muslim dating, and how she found an outlet in pole dancing. She also discusses the viral video of her performing in a hijab and the reactions it garnered.
- Hooking Up with Go-Go Dancers (w/ Adore Delano)
Adore Delano joins Nicole Byer to discuss various personal experiences, including relationships, sobriety, and gender transition. They also share dating lessons and discuss relationship dynamics.
- Sex Talk Got Me Fired (w/ Rachel Bilson)
In this episode, Rachel Bilson discusses losing a job due to comments made on a podcast, cancel culture, and her experiences with dating in the public eye. She shares various dating stories, including bad first dates and incidents of "love…
- Hosting a Sex Party (w/ Big Dipper)
In this episode, Big Dipper and Nicole Byer discuss various aspects of queer dating culture, including Bear Week and pig events. They also delve into the concept of compersion and share stories about sex parties.
- I'm Bi Now (w/ Jenson Titus)
Jenson Titus joins Nicole Byer to discuss his dating experiences, including realizing he is bisexual after dating someone who was transitioning. He also talks about the challenges of his "Very Gay" brand while dating a woman, launching his…
- Stealing Condoms at the Olympics (w/ Adam Rippon)
Olympic figure skater Adam Rippon joins Nicole Byer on "Why Won't You Date Me?" to discuss the dating life of an Olympian, the sex life in the Olympic Village, and his experience as one of the first openly gay U.S. Olympians. He also talks…
- Slipping a Note to the Couple Fighting in the Next Room (w/ Dan Gregor & Doug Mand)
In this episode, Nicole Byer talks with writers Dan Gregor and Doug Mand about their long-term writing partnership and relationship advice. They also discuss a controversial wedding incident. Nicole shares her experience of overhearing a c…
- Ghosting, Gaslighting, and Gay Bars (w/ Roz Hernandez)
Roz Hernandez joins Nicole Byer to discuss her experiences with dating as a sober, trans woman comedian, including using Etsy psychics and Grindr, and her observations on gay bars and being ghosted. They also talk about Nicole's relationsh…
- Dating Life of a Burlesque Superstar (w/ Jessabelle Thunder)
Jessabelle Thunder, an international award-winning burlesque dancer, joins Nicole Byer to discuss her career, dating challenges, and a memorable London date. Nicole also shares her thoughts on AI and a pet psychic.
- Dating after a Major Scandal (w/ Monica Lewinsky)
Monica Lewinsky joins Nicole Byer to discuss dating and relationships after public scrutiny. She shares her experiences with dating, including attempts at online dating, and offers advice on navigating uncomfortable dating situations. Lewi…
- A lil update from Nicole: Best Friends is back!
Nicole Byer announces the return of her podcast Best Friends. The show is now on Headgum and features full video episodes, with new episodes released every Wednesday.
- We Met on a Podcast (w/ Devon Walker)
Comedian Devon Walker joins Nicole Byer to share the story of how he met his girlfriend on a live blind date podcast. They also discuss dating experiences, relationship red flags, and food mascots.
- Flirting, Open Relationships, and Almost Dying (w/ Josh Sharp)
In this episode, Nicole Byer and Josh Sharp discuss a variety of topics including flirting techniques, the realities of open relationships, and Josh's near-death experience. They also cover quieting negative self-talk and the story of Anna…
- Nobody Wants to Date a Drag Queen (w/ Meatball)
In this episode, drag queen Meatball joins Nicole Byer to discuss the complexities of dating as a drag performer. Meatball shares experiences of partners leaving after discovering her profession and recounts various dating anecdotes.
- We Dated?! (w/ Lou Wilson)
Lou Wilson discusses the state of America, his time in Boston, and selling out Madison Square Garden. He and Nicole Byer also talk about dating and Lou reveals he and Nicole once dated, which she had forgotten.
- A Cruise Ship Romance with a Himbo (w/ Jessica Lowe)
Actress Jessica Lowe joins Nicole Byer to share her experiences falling in love on a cruise ship and dating different men. She recounts stories about a British bassist, a Dutch chef, and the challenges and triumphs of building lasting rela…
- I Was a Time Out Magazine Bachelor (w/ Lauren Ashley Smith)
Lauren Ashley Smith joins Nicole Byer to discuss her experience as a "bachelor" in Time Out New York's Singles issue and planning an interracial lesbian wedding. She also shares dating advice, suggesting that straight people could learn fr…
- Love Triangle Gone Wrong (w/ Michael Urie)
Actor Michael Urie joins Nicole Byer to discuss a past love triangle and the challenges of dating after achieving fame. He also shares insights on his long-term partnership and offers advice for singles regarding dating specificities.
- Skipping Love (w/ Betsy Sodaro)
Nicole Byer and Betsy Sodaro share stories about Las Vegas, puberty, and taxes. Betsy discusses spending six months in a hotel, and Nicole mentions a near-launch of an anime-recap podcast.