Were You Raised By Wolves?
Society & Culture
About
Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos. When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.” Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.” --- Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
Episodes
- Receiving Black Napkins, Squatting in Strangers' Kitchens, Slurping Smelly Foods, and More
In episode 306 of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick Leighton and Leah Bonnema cover various etiquette topics. They discuss receiving black napkins, visiting strangers' kitchens, eating smelly foods on airplanes, handling difficult hou…
- Outrunning Your Friends, Bragging About Possum Sweaters, Renaming Your Coworkers, and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick and Leah address listener inquiries on various etiquette topics. They discuss the proper way to handle situations like outrunning friends in a race, using formal titles, managing in…
- Earning Girl Scout Badges, Washing Strawberries in Soda Fountains, Whisking Away Cake Plates, and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick and Leah discuss the "Social Butterfly" Girl Scout badge and etiquette related to soda fountains and serving cake. They also touch on houseguest manners and share listener questions…
- Outing AI Videos, Evicting Lingering Guests, Reserving Paper Towels, and More
This episode of Were You Raised By Wolves? features hosts Nick and Leah answering listener questions on topics such as identifying AI-generated videos, managing guests who overstay their welcome, and navigating social situations like workp…
- Decoding Different Cultures, Pursuing Dry Cleaners, Blasting Techno Music, and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick and Leah explore topics including decoding different cultures, dry cleaners, and techno music. They also address listener questions about following up on dates and party RSVPs, alon…
- Second Helpings: Removing Shoes on Airplanes, Exiting Weddings Early, Welcoming Guests In, and More
This episode of Were You Raised By Wolves? revisits listener questions about etiquette, including removing shoes on airplanes, handling imbalanced friendships, leaving wedding receptions early, and dealing with negative guests.
- Second Helpings: Eating Baguettes in France, Spitting Wine at Tastings, Returning Gifts to Guests, and More
This episode of Were You Raised By Wolves? features hosts Nick and Leah discussing etiquette surrounding baguettes in France, wine tasting room practices, and returning gifts. It also touches on forgetting gluten, rude coyotes, and express…
- Leaking Phone Numbers, Venting About Registries, Requesting the 'Man of the House,' and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick and Leah address listener questions about etiquette. Topics include handling leaked phone numbers, responding to issues with baby registries, and appropriate ways to address the "ma…
- Very Special 300th Episode Extravaganza
In the 300th episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick and Leah count down their top ten favorite etiquette questions. The episode covers a range of social dilemmas, including handling surprise guests, dealing with invitations, and…
- Getting Married on Fridays, Putting In-Laws to Work, Singing Foreign National Anthems, and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick and Leah address listener questions about wedding etiquette, managing in-laws, and cultural norms like singing foreign national anthems. They also cover practical advice on insertin…
- Closing Letters Properly, Feeding Finicky Visitors, Blinding Fellow Drivers, and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick Leighton and Leah Bonnema cover topics including how to properly close letters, etiquette for feeding picky guests, and issues with car headlights. They also address cruise ship que…
- Dropping State Names, Double-Thanking for Gifts, Arriving at Funerals Early, and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick and Leah address listener questions about etiquette. Topics include when to omit state names when mentioning cities, proper etiquette for thanking someone for a gift, and arriving e…
- Second Helpings: Faking Wedding Start Times, Asking for Gifts Back, Clipping Nails in Church, and More
This episode of Were You Raised By Wolves? answers listener questions about etiquette. Topics include faking wedding start times, asking for gifts back, and clipping nails in church.
- Herding Sheep in Iceland, Watching Hockey Respectfully, Hailing Cabs in Winter, and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick and Leah cover topics including herding sheep in Iceland, watching hockey respectfully, hailing cabs in winter, navigating houseguests while working from home, and deciding whether…
- Waiting on Forgotten Gifts, Noticing New Wigs, Gossiping About Monarchs, and More
In this episode of 'Were You Raised By Wolves?', hosts Nick and Leah address listener questions on various etiquette topics. They cover scenarios like forgotten Secret Santa gifts, acknowledging a coworker's new wig, monarch gossip, and ot…
- Jumping Over Babies, Asking Callers to Announce Themselves, Giving Plants Without Pots, and More
Hosts Nick and Leah discuss etiquette and manners, covering topics such as El Colacho, screening callers, and gifting houseplants. They also address listener questions about social situations and personal dilemmas.
- Dressing for Vague Galas, Pushing In Dining Chairs, Taking Cookies Prematurely, and More
Hosts Nick and Leah address listener questions on various etiquette topics. They discuss appropriate attire for vague gala themes, the proper way to handle chairs at the dining table, and the etiquette of taking cookies from a buffet befor…
- Apologizing in Mongolia, Speaking for Other People, Lying to Waiters, and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick and Leah explore various etiquette topics, including apologizing in Mongolia, speaking on behalf of others, and lying to waiters. They also touch upon email etiquette basics and ans…
- Enduring Dishes You Dislike, Managing Ungrateful Gift Recipients, Acknowledging Victories Without Praise, and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick and Leah address listener questions concerning etiquette. Topics include dealing with disliked holiday foods, managing reactions to ungrateful gift recipients, and politely acknowle…
- Second Helpings: Ordering Espresso in Italy, Asking for a Raise, Deflecting Rude Questions, and More
This podcast episode, a rerun from the archives, discusses etiquette topics such as ordering espresso in Italy, how to politely ask for a raise, and strategies for deflecting rude questions. It also touches on issues like returning shorts…
- Second Helpings: Watching Kalle Anka, Receiving Compliments, Bringing Empty Containers to Restaurants, and More
This podcast episode, 'Second Helpings,' from 'Were You Raised By Wolves?' revisits discussions on watching Kalle Anka in Sweden, how to receive compliments, and the etiquette of bringing empty containers to restaurants. Hosts Nick and Lea…
- Setting Dessert Cutlery Correctly, Attending New Year’s Eve Parties, Deflecting Donation Requests, and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick and Leah cover various etiquette topics. They discuss how to set dessert cutlery, navigate New Year's Eve parties, and politely decline donation requests. Additional points include…
- Curbing Phones at Dinner, Inviting Near-Strangers to Baby Showers, "Participating" in Hot Air Balloon Trips, and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick and Leah address listener questions about etiquette. Topics include handling phone usage during dinner, deciding on guest lists for baby showers, and other social quandaries.
- Pluralizing Names on Cards, Tipping Mariachi Bands, Wrapping Other People's Gifts, and More
In this episode, hosts Nick and Leah cover various etiquette topics, such as how to pluralize names on holiday cards, appropriate tipping for Mariachi bands, and whether it is acceptable to ask others to wrap gifts for you.
- Offering Unsolicited Botox, Photographing Hospital Patients, Using Pre-Divorce Stationery, and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick and Leah address listener questions about etiquette. Topics include offering unsolicited Botox, photographing hospital patients, using personalized stationery after a divorce, and w…
- Adding "Carriages" to Invitations, Making Animal Sounds at Dinner, Alleging Underbaked Brownies, and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick and Leah delve into various etiquette questions. Topics include the proper way to phrase invitations, how to respond to guests making animal sounds at the dinner table, and addressi…
- Selling Soap to Wedding Guests, Eating Wine Corks, Tipping Hospital Valets, and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick and Leah address listener questions about wedding etiquette. Topics include the appropriateness of selling soap to wedding guests, the proper way to handle wine corks, tipping hospi…
- Spotting Americans Abroad, Declining to Go Horseback Riding, Singing on Airplanes, and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick and Leah discuss various etiquette topics including spotting Americans abroad, politely declining horseback riding invitations, and singing on airplanes. They also touch upon airpor…
- Decoding "Mountain Formal," Pacifying Picky Houseguests, Sharing Sushi Platters, and More
This episode of Were You Raised By Wolves? addresses listener questions about etiquette, including the meaning of "Mountain Formal" on wedding invitations, managing picky houseguests, and the proper way to share sushi platters.
- Second Helpings: Enjoying a Fika in Sweden, Staying at Bed & Breakfasts, Telling Guests What Not To Bring, and More
This episode of Were You Raised By Wolves? revisits etiquette discussions covering the Swedish custom of fika, experiences with Bed & Breakfasts, and advice on managing guest gift expectations, such as preventing guests from bringing wine…
- Second Helpings: Picking the Correct Utensil for Mac and Cheese, Spelling Like an Australian, Lingering Past Closing Time, and More
In this archival episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, Nick Leighton and Leah Bonnema answer listener questions about etiquette regarding dining utensils for mac and cheese, spelling preferences, and behavior in retail stores near closing…
- Wiping Fingers With a Yubifuki, Dining at Michelin-Starred Restaurants, Calling Strangers “Pal,” and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick Leighton and Leah Bonnema discuss various etiquette topics. They cover the use of a yubifuki in sushi restaurants, dining at Michelin-starred establishments, and whether it is appro…
- Hosting Surprise Houseguests, Correcting Misspelled Signs, Sending Late Sympathy Cards, and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick Leighton and Leah Bonnema address listener questions on various etiquette topics. They cover handling unexpected houseguests, addressing misspelled signs, sending belated sympathy c…
- Discovering Bone Dishes, Enduring Waiting Rooms, Texting Wedding Thank-Yous, and More
In this episode, hosts Nick and Leah cover etiquette topics including the use of bone dishes, navigating waiting rooms, and appropriate thank-you texts for wedding gifts. They also address questions about holding elevator doors, using lapt…
- Dodging In-Law Requests, Melting Candy Bars in Diapers, Hiding Coffee Truths, and More
In this episode, hosts Nick and Leah address listener questions concerning etiquette. Topics include managing requests from mothers-in-law, navigating baby shower invitations, and decisions about disclosing coffee caffeine levels.
- Using Napkins in Italy, Changing Passwords on Friends, Handing Strangers Your Phone, and More
This episode of Were You Raised By Wolves? covers a range of etiquette topics. Hosts Nick and Leah discuss using paper napkins in Italy, password sharing for streaming services, and interacting with strangers and acquaintances.
- Anniversary Bonus: Holding Teacups Properly, Escaping Boring People, Clapping for Plane Landings, and More
In this bonus anniversary episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick Leighton and Leah Bonnema discuss various etiquette topics. They cover the correct way to hold a teacup, strategies for escaping tedious social interactions, and t…
- Overreacting to Messy Houseguests, Skipping a Friend’s Wedding, Wiping Down Sticky Trucks, and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick Leighton and Leah Bonnema discuss listener questions about etiquette. Topics include dealing with messy houseguests, handling wedding guest dilemmas, and responding to incorrect tha…
- Meeting Amy Vanderbilt, Acknowledging Mysterious Gifts, Retrieving Lost Phones, and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick Leighton and Leah Bonnema discuss etiquette and manners, covering topics such as meeting Amy Vanderbilt, acknowledging mysterious gifts, and retrieving lost phones.
- Rescuing Lost Chips, Taking Over Parties, Correcting People's Pronunciation, and More
This episode of Were You Raised By Wolves? features hosts Nick and Leah answering listener questions about various etiquette dilemmas. Topics include how to handle broken chips in salsa, dealing with party guests who change plans, inquirin…
- Saving Seats in Singapore, Avoiding Unnecessary Meetings, Bringing Your Own Sodas, and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick Leighton and Leah Bonnema cover topics such as saving seats in Singapore, avoiding unnecessary meetings, and guests bringing their own sodas to parties. They also touch on house gue…
- Pouring Water Like Wine, Breaking Up Before Weddings, Tossing Hair on Floors, and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick and Leah address listener questions on various etiquette topics. They discuss the practice of pouring water like wine, navigating breakups before weddings, and social norms around t…
- Inviting Thirteen Guests, Attending Pool Parties, Hogging Laundry Machines, and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick Leighton and Leah Bonnema cover various etiquette topics including hosting thirteen dinner guests, navigating pool parties, and dealing with shared laundry machines in apartment bui…
- Second Helpings: Demanding Birthday Cake, Putting Time Limits on Meals, Getting Nosy at the Pharmacy, and More
This episode of Were You Raised By Wolves? revisits listener questions about various etiquette dilemmas, including demanding birthday cake, setting time limits for meals, and dealing with nosiness at the pharmacy.
- Second Helpings: Showing Up Empty-Handed, Riding French Elevators, Having Nice Weekends, and More
Nick and Leah revisit a favorite episode covering dinner party etiquette, French elevator rules, responding to
- Abandoning Dinner Guests, Running Into Former Students, Singing Happy Birthday, and More
Hosts Nick and Leah discuss various etiquette scenarios, addressing listener questions about dining situations, interactions with former students, declining food, and singing "Happy Birthday."
- Responding to Invitations, Enjoying Tennis, Dipping French Fries, and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick and Leah cover various etiquette topics including formally responding to invitations, tennis manners, and dipping french fries. They also address listener questions about sharing fo…
- Brushing Teeth in Airports, Taking Dessert from Buffets, Handling Unwanted Vacation Guests, and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick and Leah address listener etiquette queries. Topics include hygiene practices in public spaces like airport bathrooms, appropriate behavior at buffets, and strategies for handling d…
- Flipping Over Cutlery, Making Friends in Kindergarten, Choosing Cup Holders, and More
In this episode of Were You Raised By Wolves?, hosts Nick and Leah cover various etiquette topics. They discuss reversing cutlery on the table, making friends in kindergarten, and how to handle cup holders at sporting events.
- Mowing Lawns Without Asking, Coordinating Invitation Responses, Dressing for Theme Weddings, and More
In this episode, hosts Nick and Leah address listener questions about neighborly lawn mowing disputes, coordinating responses to invitations, office door etiquette, and appropriate attire for theme weddings.