U Up?
Psychology & Relationships
About
U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new...
Episodes
- He Won’t Go To Therapy But Says I’m the Problem
Jared and Jordana discuss various dating and relationship topics, including modern texting habits and a listener's issue with a spouse who won't attend therapy. They also touch on postpartum experiences and nostalgic social media interacti…
- The “Girl You Don’t Need to Worry About” Problem
Jordana and Jared discuss various relationship topics from listener emails, including a boyfriend helping a coworker, a love bombing experience, and dating app interactions. They also touch on the normality of partners trying breast milk.
- Why Hot Takes Are Ruining Dating Advice ft. Dear Shandy
Dear Shandy hosts Sharleen Joynt and Andy Levine join U Up? to discuss dating advice and analyzing behavior. They also play a game reacting to famous couples like Lauren Speed & Cameron Hamilton, Jason Tartick & Kaitlyn Bristowe, Amanda Ba…
- Ryan Seacrest’s Dating Red Flags Make No Sense
Jared and Jordana discuss Ryan Seacrest’s dating red flags and the pitfalls of celebrity dating advice. They also cover a frustrating Hinge date, first date etiquette, and engagement timelines.
- Should You DM the Girlfriend If You’re the Other Woman?
Jordana and Jared discuss travel drama, including middle seat horror stories and airplane seat 11A. They also address listener emails about dating, transactional energy, and deleting dating apps.
- He Matched With Me… And My Brother! A Dating App Nightmare
Jordana and Jared discuss dating app experiences, including a listener's dilemma about dating while living with an ex, and a red flag scenario involving matching with a brother on a dating app. They also debate the implications of a man in…
- What’s the Right Way to Approach Someone IRL?
This episode covers a celebrity sighting, an encounter with TikTok influencers, and the potential impact of a new Instagram feature on dating. Also, listener drama about a drunk friend and advice on approaching someone in person for a date…
- The Moment His TikTok Fame Ruined the Date
Jared reflects on his dating history, social media pressure, and public reactions to his new relationship. The hosts also address listener emails covering topics such as bringing a dog on a date, a brutally honest rejection text, dating in…
- My Friend & My Ex Are Hooking Up!
J&J discuss topics including reality TV such as Summer House, meeting a girlfriend's family, and listener dating dilemmas. These include a listener receiving a long first text and a first date ending due to a future move.
- Why Situationships Hurt More Than Breakups
Jared and Jordana discuss situationships and their impact compared to breakups. They also address listener dilemmas concerning exes, wedding rings, and relationshipdealbreakers, with Jared's mom offering her perspective.
- Follow These Rules For Meeting The Family
Jared and Jordana discuss the intricacies of meeting a partner's family, including gifts and expectations. They also touch on long-distance dating, balancing relationships with work travel, and navigating social media interactions in datin…
- What Changes In A Relationship After Kids?
Jordana and Jared discuss changes in relationships after having children. They also share personal dating updates and debate various relationship "red flags" and "dealbreakers."
- My Partner Makes Me Feel Stupid… Now What? ft Emma Willmann
Jared Freid and guest co-host Emma Willmann discuss a relationship involving grammar criticism, a strange fan interaction regarding a date request, and a listener's experience with kissing a friend while questioning her sexuality.
- I Dumped Him in Public So He “Wouldn’t Make a Scene” ft Tiff Baira
Jared Freid and guest Tiff Baira discuss dating advice, including how to handle breakups, flirting, and social dilemmas. The episode features segments on Instagram interactions, common date "icks," and a game of "Petty or Prudent."
- What Are the Rules of an Open Relationship? ft Ashley Gavin
Comedian Ashley Gavin joins Jared to discuss open relationships, the realities of life on the road, and listener questions regarding dating and relationships. They also explore topics including bisexual curiosity and modern living situatio…
- Is “Right Person, Wrong Time” Actually Real? ft Logan Ury
Jared and Hinge relationship expert Logan Ury discuss modern dating dilemmas, including voice notes before dates, digital communication habits, and the concept of "right person, wrong time." They also address the impact of busy urban sched…
- I Love My Boyfriend But I’m Scared To Move In Together
Jared and guest Tess Tregellas discuss listener dilemmas regarding relationships, including partner ratings and the experience of moving in together. They also cover Tess's personal experience of meeting her boyfriend while wearing a weddi…
- The Silent Relationship Killer you CAN Avoid ft Aleen Dreksler
Jared joins Aleen Dreksler to discuss boundaries with mother-in-laws, navigating ex etiquette, and debates surrounding career and kids. The episode also features segments on a run club encounter with an ex and a listener's date with strict…
- Is He Avoiding Sex On Purpose? ft Dr. Naomi
Jared and Dr. Naomi Bernstein discuss dating after divorce, performance anxiety, and the challenges of early intimacy. The episode features a listener email regarding a partner avoiding sex, alongside a debate on dating expectations and re…
- Would You Date Someone With 2 Boyfriends? ft Bob The Drag Queen
Bob the Drag Queen joins the show to discuss modern dating challenges, ENM relationships, and professional experiences. Topics include navigating insecurities in relationships, identifying dealbreakers, and personal stories from the stage.
- Should You Break Up Over Bad Kissing?
Jared Fried and Jack Maloney discuss whether bad kissing is a dealbreaker and provide advice on resetting physical chemistry. They also address listener questions regarding a post-layoff breakup and dating challenges faced by a trans woman.
- Is A 14 Year Age Gap Too Much? ft Yamaneika Saunders
Yamaneika Saunders joins Jared Fried to discuss dating at 47, age gaps, and sexual chemistry. The episode also covers listener questions about gaming habits, unique breakup behaviors, and whether walking a kitten in a stroller is a red fla…
- He Cheated for Almost a Year — How She Finally Found Out
Jared Freid and Maddie Mahoney discuss infidelity, the red flags of first dates, and navigating pyramid scheme drama. They also offer advice on a listener's wedding dilemma and a spouse's concern about a network marketing business.
- He Fights Dirty With His Family—Will He With Me? ft Matteo Lane
Jared and guest Matteo Lane discuss the Heated Rivalry novel, debate dating red flags, and share reactions to cosmetic surgery disclosures and The Golden Bachelor. The conversation also includes a discussion on celebrity look-alikes.
- Why Dating Feels So Negative Right Now ft. Matchmaker Maria
Jared and matchmaker Maria discuss Valentine's Day expectations, including a situation involving couple's spa gift cards. They also explore the importance of attitude and authenticity in dating, and provide advice on handling sexual bounda…
- When Body Image Becomes a Dating Issue ft. Sami Sage - Co Founder of Betches
Jared and guest Sami Sage discuss body image and dating, including the complexities of weight loss disclosures, digital etiquette, and Valentine's Day gift-giving. They also address listener questions regarding potential relationship red f…
- He Dumped Me Because Of My Music Taste?!
Jared and guest Bryan Russell Smith discuss trending television, dating habits, and relationship dilemmas, including being dumped over music taste, Valentine's Day gift-giving, and navigating STI disclosures on early dates.
- Why Money Conversations Matter Early in Dating ft Vivian Tu
Jared and guest Vivian Tu discuss the importance of early money conversations in dating, covering topics like splitting costs proportionally and navigating prenup discussions. They also explore the impact of financial transparency on relat…
- He’s 24, I’m 37 - Can We Really Be In Love?
Jared and Jordana discuss a dilemma regarding a $20,000 gift from an ex-partner and explore the nuances of saying "I love you" within the context of a 24 and 37-year-old age gap. This episode also marks Jordana's final show before her mate…
- I Can’t Stop Comparing Myself to His Ex!
Jordana and Jared discuss childhood upbringing and respond to listener emails about non-monogamy, disclosing family grief, and dating habits. They also evaluate various behaviors in segments like icky or picky and red flag or dealbreaker.
- Coming Out After Kids ft Chris Appleton
Celebrity hairstylist Chris Appleton joins the show to discuss the role of hair in confidence, his journey coming out later in life, and co-parenting. The hosts and Appleton also address a listener question regarding complications in an op…
- My Ex Wants Our Dog Back
J&J discuss friend-group dynamics, the complexities of dating, and listeners' emails regarding social media use, post-breakup pet custody, and dating habits. They also analyze various red flags and dealbreakers in relationships.
- How to Spot Swinger Signals
Jared shares an experience with a potential swinger couple in Florida, followed by a discussion on a date's unusual phone lock screen. The hosts also answer a listener question about discussing children and biological clocks on first dates.
- We're Engaged, So Why Am I Still Hidden on His Socials?
In this episode, J&J discuss New Year's resolutions, listener dating dilemmas, and relationship boundaries. They also debate a Red Flag or Dealbreaker scenario involving an ex and analyze a listener's long-term on-and-off relationship endi…
- Would You Date Someone With Immature Friends?
Jared and Jordana discuss holiday experiences, dating app etiquette regarding New Year openers, and managing relationships with immature friends. Additionally, they debate whether listeners should pursue second dates when faced with early…
- Is Publicly Exposing Cheaters Wrong?
Jared and Jordana discuss a viral ghosting story, debate the ethics of exposing a cheating fiancé to friends and family, and analyze rapid-fire listener emails regarding red flags and dealbreakers in relationships.
- The Biggest Dating Week of the Year
J&J discuss the surge in dating app activity and relationship changes during the first week of a new year. They provide tips for improving dating profiles, including advice on photos and prompts, to help users find better dates.
- New Year, New Dating Rules
Jordana and Jared discuss dating resolutions for the new year, including listener stories about New Year's Eve experiences and relationship dilemmas. They also provide advice on listener emails regarding PDA, jealousy, and past situationsh…
- Is Saying Your Dog is your Kid an Ick?
Jordana and Jared discuss the end-of-year lull, upcoming life changes, and modern dating trends. They analyze a viral post on dating standards and debate a listener's email about whether referring to a dog as one's child is off-putting on…
- Is Christmas A Relationship Test?
This episode of U Up? discusses whether Christmas is a relationship test, covering dating burnout, holiday family gathering etiquette, gift-giving disputes, and various listener-submitted red flags or deal breakers.
- Is a Boudoir Shoot As Christmas Present a Good Gift?
Jordana and Jared discuss holiday gift ideas, including Jared's new book, and offer advice on a listener's dating dilemma. They also explore the confidence-boosting potential of boudoir photo shoots as gifts.
- Who Covers Travel Costs After a Breakup?
Jared and Jordana discuss post-breakup travel costs, Spotify listening habits, and various relationship red flags in this episode of U Up?. The hosts also share an Uber Eats-powered holiday gift exchange.
- Why Your Ex’s Instagram Still Messes With Your Head
Jared and Jordana discuss the emotional impact of an ex's social media activity, share personal updates, and address listener dilemmas regarding holiday gifting in casual dating and communication styles.
- How Old Is Too Old To Be Gaming?
In this episode of U Up?, the hosts discuss the age-appropriateness of video games, partner hobby disclosure, and dating scenarios including overnight bags and red flags. They also share personal stories and reflect on recent pop culture m…
- Will Jeff Bezos and Lauren Sánchez's Relationship Survive 2026?
In this episode of U Up?, J&J discuss various celebrity couples of 2025, predicting the future of their relationships. They also respond to a listener email regarding self-perception through photographs.
- When Is Too Early To Reveal A Kink?
In this episode of U Up?, the hosts discuss TV recommendations, listener questions about modern dating etiquette, and the complexities of setting boundaries. Topics include dealing with oversharing via selfies, handling the 'ick,' and how…
- Should I Break Up Before or After the Holidays?
Jared and Jordana discuss holiday gift-giving and offer advice on navigating breakups during the holiday season. The episode also features a listener scenario regarding childhood artwork.
- How to Answer ‘Why Are You Still Single?’
Jordana and Jared discuss strategies for answering questions about being single during the holidays. They also cover navigation of holiday drinking occasions, tips for scheduling first dates, and address the appropriateness of meeting fami…
- How Do I Navigate My New Polyamorous Relationship?
J&J are joined by former U Up? producer Sean to discuss his experience navigating a new relationship with someone who is non-monogamous. They explore the complexities of monogamy versus non-monogamy and the anxiety surrounding relationship…
- Jennifer Lawrence’s Secret TikTok a Red Flag?
Jordana Abraham and Jared Fried discuss the etiquette of "Did you get home safe?" texts, celebrity burner accounts, and listener questions regarding dating and wedding gifts. The hosts share their perspectives on various relationship scena…