The Way You Show Up
Self-Improvement
About
Most people are living a version of themselves that they never choose. You've been showing up for your spouse, your kids, and your career—but you've been doing it on autopilot. You're living within a ceiling built by your past and sustained by your habits. I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a failed relationship; it's the person who stays stuck and never experiences the fullness of all God intended. The Way You Show Up is for the high-achiever who is tired of "fine." We're dismantling the average life to build an exceptional one—using the science of the PIES: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual health. If you want to save your marriage, go to Marriage Helper. If you want to master yourself and lead your legacy, stay here. New episodes every Tuesday. Don't just exist. Show up.
Episodes
- Why I Was Failing Every Morning... (And I Didn't Even Know It)
Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes, who has a PhD in performance psychology, describes her struggles with establishing a productive morning routine despite knowing its importance. She documents seven days of her experiences, including difficult mome…
- What To Do When People Won't Freaking Listen
This episode from The Way You Show Up explores why people don't listen, identifying reasons like distraction, differing wiring, and lack of clarity. Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes also touches on the DISC personality framework and encourages sel…
- The Way God Shows Up — Katie Simkins
Katie Simkins recounts her experiences with a cancer diagnosis, the subsequent death of her brother, and her struggle to understand God's plan. She discusses finding faith even when others opposed it and how she learned to live her faith a…
- The Confidence Blueprint: How To Own Any Room
This episode features speech coach Eva Daniel discussing how to command any room, whether in person or online. Topics include the importance of the pause, why ending on a Q&A is discouraged, and the SPARK framework for impactful communicat…
- God Is Not A Republican (Or A Democrat)
Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes speaks with Dr. Rubel Shelly about the challenges of political disagreements for Christians. They explore whether Christian principles should influence laws, differentiate between voting values and Christian nation…
- What No One Is Telling You About Using AI
In this episode, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes speaks with AI expert Jared Pratt about the nature of artificial intelligence. They explain that AI functions as a predictive tool, lacking genuine understanding or empathy, and discuss the potenti…
- Why You Keep Losing Focus and Why Your Old Habits Are Keeping You Stuck
This episode analyzes biblical texts like John 21, Luke 5, 1 Peter 1, and Acts 2, using the COMMA method to explore why individuals return to comfortable, unproductive habits. Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes discusses the importance of focus and…
- Did Jesus Really Raise From The Dead?
In this episode of The Way You Show Up, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes discusses the resurrection of Jesus with Pastor Cory Shumate. They examine common arguments against the resurrection, such as mass hallucination, legendary development, the s…
- The Biggest Mistake You Make When Friends Ask for Advice with Meredith Ball
In "The Biggest Mistake You Make When Friends Ask for Advice," Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes and Licensed Professional Counselor Meredith Ball discuss how to support friends effectively. They cover techniques for listening without trying to fix…
- For Anyone Who's Ever Struggled With Their Body... Listen To This
In this episode, Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes speaks with Emily Allen about her journey through an eating disorder that began in middle school, impacting her relationship with food, body image, and identity. Allen shares her experience of find…
- How To Stop Living Everyone Else's Vision For Your Life with Micheal Felker
This episode of The Way You Show Up features Micheal Felker discussing how to stop living according to others' visions. They cover identifying what causes people to feel stuck, the differences between acute and chronic anxiety, how anxiety…
- How To Give And Receive Feedback with Dr. J.R. Briggs
In this episode, leadership coach Dr. J.R. Briggs discusses the importance of giving and receiving feedback, highlighting receiving as the more critical skill. The conversation covers why feedback can feel personal, the necessity of extern…
- The 4 Part Method That Changes The Way You Show Up
Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes introduces the PIES method, comprising Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual pillars, each with four controllable inputs. This episode details the 16 inputs designed to build embodied confidence, discuss…
- What I've Been Working On...
Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes discusses the relaunch of her podcast, now titled "The Way You Show Up." The episode details her year-long break due to burnout and her renewed focus on the PIES method (Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, Spiritual…
- The Truth About Trauma
Meredith Ball, a licensed professional counselor dedicated to healing trauma, joins us to unravel the intricate web of trauma's impact on our lives. In this episode, Meredith opens up about her own journey and sheds light on how trauma aff…
- Unlocking Learning Strategies and Decision-Making
Want to unlock your potential? Discover how to study smarter and retain more information with expert insights from Dr. Dan Willingham! Tune in now and transform your learning experience! I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transfo…
- Understanding The Difference Between Male And Female Emotions
Is there actually a difference in the way men and women process emotions? Find out on today’s episode! I'm Dr. Kimberly Beam Holmes. After a decade transforming marriages at Marriage Helper, I've realized that the greatest tragedy isn't a…
- 10 Things You Can Do To Feel More Attractive
Feeling unattractive? You're not alone! Discover 10 uplifting strategies to reclaim your self-worth and feel fabulous again! Tune in to our latest episode and transform your outlook! What's your go-to feel-good strategy? I'm Dr. Kimberly B…
- The 5 Step Method To Improving Your Communication
Discover the 5 step method we use to improve communication. Not only does this help with communication between us as spouses, but it can also be used in conversations with friends, family, coworkers, and everyone in between! Let’s dive in…
- The Truth Behind Why You’re Not Reaching Your Goals
Understanding how to set meaningful goals can transform your self-esteem and overall happiness. This episode emphasizes the importance of intrinsic versus extrinsic motivation, exploring self-concordant goals that resonate with individual…
- The All or Nothing Mindset is Ruining Your Diet - How To Actually Achieve Your Diet Goals
In this episode, we're diving deep into the truth about weight loss and fat loss , and sharing some of the most important lessons we've learned on our journey. We're going to be talking about our experiences with different diets, including…
- How To Set AND Achieve Your Goals For 2025
One of my favorite weeks of the year every year is the week between Christmas and New Years. I sit down and reflect on the last year and plan out my goals and dreams for the new year. In this episode, I’ll guide you through how to set atta…
- The 4 Part Framework To Stand For Your Marriage
Experiencing the highs and lows of marriage led me to a profound realization: attraction isn't just about the physical—it's a holistic process encompassing the Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual aspects. Last week I was able…
- Unpacking the Real Costs of Social Media with Chris Martin
What if the digital world was costing us more than we realized? In this episode, we sit down with Chris Martin, an insightful author who has navigated the depths of social media’s real costs. Chris shares his journey of writing a thought-p…
- How To Become More Attractive INTELLECTUALLY
This episode was recorded in 2022. Kimberly is joined by a very special guest, her husband, Rob! This was the second time Rob joined the podcast so if you missed the first episode, make sure you go back and listen to the episode about Intr…
- Navigating Mental Health and Technology for the Next Generation with Zach Rausch
Discover the hidden costs of our digital age as I sit down with Zach Rausch, the lead researcher behind "The Anxious Generation." Zach opens up about his personal journey with mental health challenges and how it fueled his passion to explo…
- The Surprising Connection Between Creativity and Intelligence
In this episode we talk with Dr. Rex Jung about the differences in creativity and intelligence and how you can work your brain to be more creative! Discover how engaging in creative activities might be the key to alleviating stress and enh…
- The Secret To Mindset Transformation
Discover the power of mindset transformation in this inspiring interview with Dr. Josh Axe. After facing a life-altering health crisis, Dr. Axe shares how changing his mindset played a critical role in his recovery and personal growth. Fro…
- The True Measure of Success
Plenty of research talks about how a parent's interaction with their child will affect that child's future. It's called attachment theory, which boils down to the consistency and the quality of a parent's interaction with their child. The…
- How and Why You Should Do Your Own Research
What if you could unlock the secrets to reading scholarly research articles as easily as a captivating novel? This episode promises just that, equipping you with the skills to discern credible academic work from unreliable sources. Discove…
- The Secret to LIVING Your FAITH Out Loud
This episode was recorded in 2022 What happens when a teenage mother becomes a Christian influencer, inspiring women worldwide? Join us for a compelling conversation with Yasmine Williams-Woods as she shares her remarkable journey from bec…
- How Ignoring Time Together Can Destroy Your Marriage
Could the secret to a thriving marriage lie in the simple act of intentionally spending time together? Join me and my husband, Rob, as we recount our own experiences of navigating the demanding world of military life while keeping our rela…
- Are You PROTEIN Deficient Without Even Knowing It?
Discover how much protein you truly need for optimal health and why animal protein is often heralded as the go-to source for essential amino acids. We'll tackle the everyday obstacles of meeting protein requirements, particularly when dini…
- Navigating Intimacy And Passion For A More Fulfilling Marriage
Ever wondered why some relationships thrive in emotional closeness while others struggle to maintain even a semblance of connection? Discover the intricate dynamics of the "Triangulation of Love," where intimacy, passion, and commitment pl…
- Accepting Each Other Changed Our Marriage COMPLETELY
Have you ever felt superior to your partner or viewed them through a critical lens because of their struggles? This episode could reshape your perspective. Today, I'm joined by my wonderful husband, Rob! We begin by unpacking the profound…
- Is Contempt Killing Your Marriage?
The full episode releases on October 1st! Does contempt silently poison your relationship? Discover how a sense of superiority and lack of respect can erode intimacy and trust in marriages. My husband, Rob, and I share powerful stories of…
- Marriage Therapist Reveals How To Have More Fulfilling Sex
This episode was recorded in 2022. Unlock the secrets to a more fulfilling marriage with the insights of Dr. Corey Allan, a marriage and family therapist, licensed professional counselor, and author of "Naked Marriage: Uncovering Who You A…
- Does Your Menstrual Cycle Affect How You Work Out?
Can your menstrual cycle make or break your strength training progress? Today, we unlock the truth behind cycle-synced workouts and auto-regulation using the Rating of Perceived Exertion (RPE) scale. By examining how sleep, nutrition, and…
- Marriage Expert Reveals What Leads To Relationship Failure
What drives relationships to their breaking point? In this episode, we uncover the intricate dynamics that influence the success and failure of romantic and personal connections. Discover what a 2017 study revealed about environmental stre…
- Top Fitness Expert Reveals Best Workout Techniques for Women
Get ready to transform your fitness journey with insights from Dr. Alyssa Olenick, a certified sports nutritionist and exercise physiologist. Have you ever wondered how to fine-tune your workouts for maximum efficiency? In this episode, yo…
- Top Fitness Expert Reveals Zone 2 Training Secrets
Full Episode Releases September 10th! Ever wondered why Zone 2 training is the secret weapon for boosting mitochondrial health and not just another buzzword in fitness? Join us as we unlock the science behind exercise intensities and navig…
- STOP Letting Burnout Control Your Life
Have you ever felt so exhausted by your job that even weekends don’t seem to recharge you? Join us as we unravel the complexities of burnout, a global crisis impacting two-thirds of workers, with insights grounded in both personal experien…
- I'm EXHAUSTED! What You Need to Know About Burn Out
Full episode available September 3rd! Could understanding the role of cortisol be the key to preventing burnout? Join us as we unpack the intricate relationship between this crucial hormone and burnout, guided by the World Health Organizat…
- The 1 Problem Most Marriages Face
Can our past really dictate the health of our current relationships? Join us in this enlightening episode where we uncover the profound influence of unresolved emotions on our interactions today. With Dr. Chip Dodd, an esteemed expert in e…
- The 5 Characteristics Of The Heart
Full episode releases August 27th! What if your heart, not your mind, holds the key to living a fulfilled life? In this enlightening episode, we sit down with Dr. Chip Dodd, the esteemed author of "The Voice of the Heart," to explore the p…
- I Was Away From Work For 4 Months... Here's What I Learned
Can you imagine what transformation awaits you if you simply choose to slow down? In this episode, I invite you to journey with me through my four-month sabbatical, a time that began with resistance and ended with profound personal growth.…
- What To Do If You Can't Sleep
What if you could finally conquer sleepless nights and wake up feeling refreshed every morning? This video promises to arm you with practical, expert-backed strategies for falling asleep faster and staying asleep longer. We dive into the i…
- Breaking Free from Negative Thinking, Unlocking Better Sleep, and Thriving in Male Dominated Spaces - AMA
Ever found yourself stuck in a cycle of negative self-talk? In this episode, I recount my journey of returning to CrossFit, shifting my mindset from competition to personal growth, and the profound impact it had on my self-esteem. By focus…
- Increase Intellectual Attraction by Improving Your Memory
Curious about how stress might be silently sabotaging your memory? In today’s episode, we unravel the intricate web of memory mechanisms and share actionable techniques to boost your recall. We define memory in its various forms—working, s…
- How Can I Overcome Grief After A Divorce?
Divorce can feel like the end of the world, shattering dreams and leaving you questioning your worth. But it doesn't have to be the final chapter. On It Starts with Attraction, Kimberly Beam Holmes and David Mathews, founder of Spark of Li…