The Original Self Podcast
Self-Improvement
About
The Original Self Podcast explores the psychology of resilience, identity, and meaningful personal change. Hosted by life coach Evet DeCota, a psychology-informed life coach, each episode blends real-life insight, coaching perspective, and practical mindset shifts that help you reconnect with who you truly are. Through honest conversations and reflections about confidence, habits, self-doubt, and growth, this podcast invites you to return to the version of yourself that has always been there beneath the noise.
Episodes
- Episode 10: They Couldn't Do It Without Us: The Psychology of Normallizing Deviance
This episode of The Original Self Podcast examines the normalization of deviance, discussing its roots in psychology and sociology. It covers concepts like paraphilic disorders, moral disengagement, and institutional betrayal, and referenc…
- Episode 9: Why You Feel Disconnected from Your Life and How to Come Back to It
This episode addresses the feeling of disconnection from one's life, even when things appear fine. It explores the concept of performing life instead of living it, discusses its origins and costs, and offers ways to reconnect with oneself,…
- Episode 8: Are You Self-Aware or Self Absorbed: The Truth About Why We See Ourselves the Way We Do
This episode distinguishes self-absorption from self-awareness, exploring the psychological patterns that lead to being self-absorbed without realizing it. It discusses theories on control, addiction, and change, emphasizing that self-awar…
- Episode 7: Toxic Positivity vs. Real Resilience: Why Hope Without Action Is a Trap
This episode of The Original Self Podcast discusses the harmful effects of toxic positivity and contrasts it with genuine resilience. Host Evet DeCota explores how hope without action becomes a trap, drawing on personal stories and the wor…
- Episode 6: The Ego Trap: What Happens When Self-Focus Disconnects You From Everyone Else
Episode 6 of The Original Self Podcast discusses hyper-individualism, its psychological costs including loneliness, polarization, and empathy erosion across different generations, and offers five strategies for change.
- Episode 5: Why You Procrastinate: The Emotional Pattern Keeping You Stuck in Your Comfort Zone
This episode of The Original Self Podcast explores the emotional roots of procrastination, distinguishing it from simple delay. It discusses four types of procrastination and highlights research suggesting procrastination is an emotional a…
- Episode 4: What Grief Does to Your Identity: Who You Become After Loss
Evet DeCota and her brother Stefan DeCota explore the impact of grief on identity after loss. They discuss five dimensions of loss and incorporate psychological frameworks like Ambiguous Loss Theory and Continuing Bonds Theory.
- Episode 3: The Authentic Algorithm-Can AI Enhance or Destroy Who You Really Are?
This episode of The Original Self Podcast features host Evet DeCota examining AI's influence on personal identity. It discusses deepfakes, the difference between learning from AI and letting it reason, Empathy Displacement Theory, and warn…
- Episode 2: Small Shifts, Big Identity Change: How Tiny Choices Quietly Reshape Who You Are
This episode of The Original Self Podcast features Evet DeCota discussing how small, consistent actions lead to significant identity change. It delves into the neuroscience of habit formation, the difference between consistency and motivat…
- Episode 1: Who You Were Before the World Told You Who To Be | Authenticity & Identity
This episode of The Original Self Podcast, hosted by life coach Evet DeCota, explores the concept of the "True Self" and how external expectations shape our identity. It discusses the impact of family, culture, and fear, particularly on wo…