That's Not Very Ladylike
Psychology & Relationships
About
That’s Not Very Ladylike is the podcast for every woman who was told to be polite, stay calm, or stop being so dramatic, meanwhile her hormones, boundaries, and sanity were quietly falling apart. Hosted by Tracey Willingham, licensed social worker and the voice behind That Hormone Girl™, each episode starts with one rule: Ladies don’t…and then they do it anyway. Together, we unpack the unspoken expectations, the emotional labor, the generational BS, and the hormone chaos modern women are carrying and we get honest about what it actually takes to feel like yourself again. If you’re ready to question the rules, trust your body, and stop shrinking to make everyone else comfortable, you’re in the right place.
Episodes
- Ladies Don't Say No. They Are Afraid Of What Happens If They Do.
This episode discusses the societal pressures on women to always say yes, particularly in interactions with figures like doctors, bosses, and family. It focuses on recognizing automatic 'yes' responses rather than advocating for immediate…
- Ladies Don't Leave Jobs That Are Killing Them. They Call It Stability.
This episode of That's Not Very Ladylike discusses why women often stay in jobs that are detrimental to their health, particularly during perimenopause. It examines the concept of calling this 'stability' and the actual costs associated wi…
- Ladies Don't Take Compliments. They Explain Why They Don't Deserve Them.
This episode of That's Not Very Ladylike focuses on the habit of deflecting compliments. It examines how this practice can diminish confidence and suggests that accepting compliments with a simple 'thank you' reflects self-worth.
- Ladies Don't Break Up Friendships. They Ghost and Feel Guilty.
This episode of That's Not Very Ladylike discusses the phenomenon of women ghosting friendships rather than having difficult conversations. It examines the reasons behind this behavior, the guilt experienced, and how to decide whether to r…
- Ladies Don't Consider Divorce. They Pray For Resilience.
This episode of That's Not Very Ladylike discusses resilience in relationships, particularly concerning divorce. It focuses on building inner strength to make personal decisions about staying in or leaving a relationship.
- Ladies Don't Support Other Women. They Compete With Them.
Episode 20 of That's Not Very Ladylike challenges the notion that women compete rather than support each other. The hosts argue that women can be both ambitious and each other's biggest champions, emphasizing the power of sisterhood.
- Ladies Don't Ask For Labs Again. They Accept Normal.
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- Ladies Don't Hate Their Jobs. They Are Lucky To Have One.
This episode discusses how women are conditioned to feel grateful for jobs that lead to burnout. It explores the effects of workplace stress and gratitude culture on hormones and emphasizes the significance of voicing concerns at work.
- Ladies Don't Interrupt Mansplaining. They Get Talked Over.
The podcast episode discusses how women are often talked over, corrected, or dismissed when discussing their bodies, leading them to second-guess themselves and diminishing their confidence to speak up in the future.
- Ladies Don't Get Mad at Their Doctors. They Second-Guess Their Own Bodies.
This episode explores the phenomenon of women second-guessing their bodies and redirecting anger inward after receiving disappointing medical care. It delves into why self-doubt arises instead of questioning the system, with a trigger warn…
- Ladies Don't Initiate Sex. They Wait To Be Wanted.
This episode discusses how waiting to be desired, rather than initiating sex, can lead to suppressed desire manifesting as resentment and disconnection. It unpacks the impact of this dynamic on relationships.
- Ladies Don't Talk Dirty. They Speak Delicately.
This episode of 'That's Not Very Ladylike' debunks the idea that women must speak sweetly and never swear. It encourages listeners to reclaim their voices by embracing cussing, clear boundaries, and honest communication.
- Ladies Don't Ask For Pleasure. They Just Fake It.
This episode discusses why women often fake pleasure because they weren't taught it's acceptable to desire it. It covers the negative impacts of this suppression and the transformative effect of women beginning to ask for what they truly w…
- Ladies Don't Talk About Sex After 40. They Just Stop Doing It.
This episode of That's Not Very Ladylike discusses the societal silencing of female sexuality after 40, focusing on how changes in hormones and intimacy impact desire and why continuing the conversation is crucial.
- Ladies Don't Speak Honestly to Their God. They Censor Their Pain.
Tracey, a former youth minister and hormone educator, discusses how spiritual conditioning teaches women to censor their pain in prayer. The episode explores the positive shift that occurs when women choose honesty over silence.
- Ladies Don't Say They Don't Want Kids. They Say Maybe Later.
This episode discusses the societal pressure on women to soften truths about not wanting children, exploring the safety of saying "maybe later" and the physical impact of this edited self-presentation.
- Ladies Don't Trust Their Gut. They Outsource It.
This episode discusses how women are often taught to disregard their intuition by outsourcing decisions about health, work, and relationships. This disconnect can lead to intuition feeling unreliable or quiet over time.
- Ladies Don't Show How Smart They Are. They Downplay It.
The podcast episode "Ladies Don't Show How Smart They Are. They Downplay It." discusses how women downplay their intelligence as a survival mechanism, impacting their confidence, career, and finances. It examines the negative consequences…
- Ladies Don't Ask For What They Want. They Hint At It.
This episode examines the tendency for women to hint at their needs rather than state them directly, covering examples in relationships, healthcare, and personal life.
- Ladies Don't Offend. They Overexplain.
This episode discusses the tendency for women to feel responsible for others' comfort and how over-explaining can stem from trauma, affecting confidence and energy.
- Ladies Don't Cancel Plans. They Push Through Anyway.
This episode discusses the societal expectation for women to always attend planned events, regardless of their well-being. It examines the hormonal, emotional, and cultural pressures involved and suggests that prioritizing rest and resched…
- Ladies Don't Talk About Perimenopause. They Pretend It's Just Stress.
This episode of That's Not Very Ladylike addresses perimenopause, challenging the notion that its symptoms are merely stress. It emphasizes the importance of recognizing and naming these symptoms, which are often downplayed due to societal…
- Ladies Don’t Talk About Their Periods in Public. They Whisper About PMS.
This episode of That's Not Very Ladylike discusses PMS, moving beyond common assumptions to address the full-body experience and societal shame surrounding menstruation.
- Ladies Don't Rest. They Recover In Secret.
This episode discusses the pressure women face to always be performing, the burnout this causes, and the secret ways women rest and recover.
- Ladies Don't Rage. They Repress.
This episode discusses the societal pressure on women to suppress anger, leading to consequences like jaw tension, sleep problems, and hormonal imbalances. It explains that rage is a signal and repressing it negatively affects the nervous…
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