STFUAL - From Boy to Man to Better Husband
Self-Improvement
About
I’m on a mission to become an expert in recognising and eradicating boy-like behaviour in adult men. These are the conversations helping me get there—honest, grounded, and human. Nothing fake. No gurus. No BS. Just the real work of growing up and becoming the man you were meant to be.
Episodes
- These Men Almost Lost Their Marriages (Here's What Changed) | EP 41
This episode features Alessandro Frosali discussing how men transformed their marriages. He shares five key insights and frameworks that helped men become better husbands, featuring real client experiences and results.
- Relationship REELS: Is Her Saving Your Marriage | EP 40
Host Alessandro Frosali explores how men's defensive reactions to relationship reels sent by their wives can damage their marriages. He argues that true strength lies in listening and understanding her needs, reframing the situation to pre…
- Your Wife’s NOT Crazy [Why She Changes Overnight] | ft. Harry Kloser-Pitcher | EP 39
This episode of STFUAL features Harry Kloser-Pitcher discussing the female hormonal cycle and its impact on relationships. Host Alessandro Frosali and Kloser-Pitcher explain how understanding hormonal phases can reduce marital conflict and…
- 6 Lies Keeping Husbands Passive Until She Checks Out | EP 38r | EP 38
Host Alessandro Frosali explores six common self-lies that contribute to husbands
- He Lost His Wife, His Identity and Almost Himself - Widower & Author Danny Lesslie | EP 37
Widower and author Danny Lesslie shares his experience of losing his wife, which led to a crisis of identity and profound grief. He discusses how faith helped him cope and emphasizes the importance of cherishing loved ones.
- Why Men Resist Changing Until She's Already Got One Foot Out the Door with Jasper Brown, Men's Coach | EP 36
Jasper Brown, a men's coach, discusses with Alessandro Frosali why men often resist change until relationships are in jeopardy. Brown shares his personal journey from people-pleasing to embracing his authentic self, highlighting the import…
- Become The Man Your Dad Never Taught You to Be: Fatherhood, Fear and Masculine Frame with Clinton Hall, Founder of Almar Life | EP 35
This episode features Alessandro in conversation with men's coach Clinton Hall, founder of Almar Life. They discuss how childhood experiences with fathers impact adult relationships and parenting. The conversation covers processing fear, t…
- Your Wife's 8 Unmet Needs You're Ignoring Behind Every Fight | EP 34
This episode unpacks eight major unmet needs that fuel marital fights, providing a framework to recognize patterns and address the root causes of arguments rather than focusing on surface issues like chores. By understanding these needs, m…
- Rites of Passage: Your Marriage Could Suffer Because of This Missing Initiation | EP 33
This episode discusses the concept of rites of passage and their absence in modern Western culture, exploring how this lack of initiation contributes to issues like depression, anxiety, and loneliness in men. It outlines four elements used…
- The Year That Defined My Life: 10 Uncomfortable Truths About Becoming a Better Man and Husband | EP 32
Alessandro Frosali shares personal experiences from a pivotal year, detailing uncomfortable truths about growth, manhood, and marriage. He discusses lessons learned from a death, mentorship, trusting his wife, and rapid business expansion…
- How the Modern Man Cave Creates Distraction That’s Eroding Your Marriage with Nate Johansen, Men's Coach | EP 31
Men's coach Nate Johansen discusses with Alessandro how modern "man caves" have shifted from spaces for emotional processing to sources of distraction, hindering men's growth and potentially impacting their marriages. They explore the diff…
- Marriage Leadership Dies When You're Numbing Through Constant Distraction with Nic Warner, Men's Coach | EP 30
Alessandro talks with men's coach Nic Warner about taking radical accountability in marriage, using the example of his ex-wife's affair. They discuss why men avoid discomfort, the negative impact of phone addiction on presence, and how to…
- Mental Load Explained: What Partnership Actually Means | EP 29
In episode 29, Alessandro breaks down the concept of mental load, explaining the often-invisible work partners do and how men typically only see one layer of any given task. He provides a practical framework using real-life examples to hel…
- Why Your Wife Is Done Managing You, Take Ownership Before She Walks Out - Mental Load Coach Zach Watson | EP 28
This episode features mental load coach Zach Watson discussing how men's perception of household labor, often limited to physical tasks, leads to marital issues. Zach explains the three layers of labor (physical, mental, and emotional) and…
- 3 Reasons Why MEN Have to Change First in Marriage and She Doesn't | EP 27
This episode of STFUAL discusses why men should initiate change in marriage, challenging the notion of fairness. It explores how defensiveness and stonewalling impact relationships, referencing Gottman research and presenting a "life ship"…
- How Men Are Conditioned to Be Unemotional and Why Fatherhood Breaks You Open with Relationship Coach, Jay Tibbs | EP 26
This episode features relationship coach Jay Tibbs discussing how men are conditioned to suppress emotions from boyhood, leading to unavailability in marriage. Tibbs explains how fatherhood can be a catalyst for emotional opening and encou…
- Men's Inability to Sit With Discomfort Is Destroying More Than You Know with Silent Retreat Facilitator Hamid Ebadi | EP 25
This episode features counselor Hamid Ebadi discussing how men's avoidance of discomfort through constant distraction weakens them. Ebadi explores silent retreats as a way to confront difficult emotions and thoughts, arguing that embracing…
- 4 Boy Behaviors That Cost Husbands Their Wife’s Respect (and How to Get It Back) | EP 24
In this episode, Alessandro explores four immature behaviors that can negatively impact a marriage and the respect within it. Drawing on Dr. Arne Rubenstein's boy-to-man model, he discusses how men can identify these patterns and transitio…
- The "Bad Man" You're Afraid to Be Is the Man She Actually Wants with Mikah Jones, Relationship Coach | EP 23
Alessandro Frosali talks with wellness coach Mikah Jones about how the fear of being seen as a "bad man" can lead men to lose their backbone and compromise their truth, ultimately harming their relationships. They explore topics like the e…
- The Missing Skill: Relationship Intelligence w/ Railey Molinario
Railey Molinario discusses relationship intelligence, the emotional skills often not taught, and differentiating emotional manipulation from leadership. The episode explores childhood patterns and emphasizes that love alone isn't enough to…
- What It Takes to Win Olympic Gold and Lead a Family w/ Dr. Scott Brennan
Dr. Scott Brennan, an Olympic gold medallist and former emergency doctor who transitioned to being a stay-at-home dad, discusses overcoming pressure, public failure, and making crucial life decisions. The episode explores becoming a strong…
- Real men FEEL w/ Andy Grant
Andy Grant, host of 'Real Men Feel,' joins STFUAL to discuss his personal story, feelings, and energy. The episode touches on men's health and improving relationships.
- 20 Innocent Habits That Are Quietly Destroying Your Masculinity
This episode examines 20 habits that may be undermining masculinity, such as conflict avoidance and seeking permission. The discussion details the origins of these patterns, their relational impact, and strategies for change, aiming to hel…
- How Psychedelics Can Heal Men's Mental Health w/ Xavier Rousset
This episode features Roy Wang discussing emotional maturity and the challenges high-functioning men face with emotional connection and conflict. It explores how to move beyond logic and defensiveness to foster deeper connection in relatio…
- Emotional Maturity & Handling Interpersonal Relationships w/ Roy Wang
This episode features Roy Wang discussing emotional maturity, particularly for men who intellectualize but struggle with emotional connection. The conversation covers vulnerability, conflict, and breaking free from patterns that hinder rel…
- The Biggest Lie in Society: “There Is No Such Thing as Men and Women”
This episode challenges the idea that masculinity and femininity are obsolete, discussing the importance of these distinct qualities for attraction and strength in relationships.
- Blocked Energy = Blocked Life w Jose Mendoza
This episode features energy practitioner Jose Mendoza, who explains that a blocked body, not just mindset, leads to a blocked life. The discussion covers how repressed beliefs and emotions cause stagnation, the connection between masculin…
- How to Understand Yourself (and Others) in 6 Colours w/ Corbin Billings
This episode with Corbin Billings introduces the Personality Color Matrix, a framework using six color energies to understand temperament and emotional coding. It explores how one's 'default color' impacts relationships and life choices, o…
- You Don’t Need a Therapist—You Need a Walk and a Mate w/ Scott Johnson
Scott Johnson discusses the benefits of movement for men's mental health, how walk-and-talks can be an alternative to therapy, and the importance of building male brotherhood. He shares his personal story of founding The Proper Blokes Club…
- Mushrooms, Mirror Neurons, and the Myth of Control w/ Philip Schmadlak
This episode features coach Phillip Schmadlak discussing ego traps, the power of surrender, and radical self-understanding. It covers topics like mushroom trips, mirror neurons, control mode, and the role of powerful questions in achieving…
- The Body Breaks When You Don’t Feel w/ Jarrah Volpe
This episode features Jarrah Volpe, a trauma-informed somatic therapist, discussing how men's emotional suppression and unaddressed pain manifest physically. The conversation explores the cost of emotional suppression, the link between chi…
- You’re Not Hungry—You’re Hurt” w/ Jillian Scott
Jillian Scott joins STFUAL to discuss emotional eating and how men use substances or behaviors to cope with pain. The episode explores addressing unmet childhood needs and emotional weight rather than relying on discipline.
- No One’s Coming to Save You w/ Sean Carey
Sean Carey shares his journey of overcoming an emotionally destructive marriage and rebuilding his life after hitting rock bottom. He outlines a 6-step process for regaining clarity, resilience, and self-respect, discussing fatherhood, add…
- Saying No Won’t Kill the Sex—It Might Save the Relationship w/ Morteza Chalak
This episode of STFUAL features Morteza Chalak, a men's coach, discussing how emotional training and boundary setting are crucial for men in relationships. They explore why men may sacrifice truth for sex and how to rebuild attraction thro…
- Men Can’t Say What They Feel—Here’s Why That Matters w/ Matthew Lowe
This episode features therapist Matthew Lowe discussing alexithymia, a condition where men struggle to identify their emotions. The conversation explores how this impacts men's behavior, relationships, and offers tools for emotional clarit…
- How to Start a Men’s Group (and Why You Should) w/ Wouter van de Velde
This episode features Wouter van de Velde discussing the creation and benefits of men's groups, sharing lessons and 10 actionable steps for starting a successful group. It aims to show men they are not alone in personal growth and empowers…
- Why Building a Business Breaks Most Men (And How to Stay Whole) w/ Tristan Rushworth
This episode with Tristan Rushworth explores how entrepreneurs often face burnout due to a lack of emotional and nervous system regulation. It offers insights on building a business without sacrificing relationships, health, or self-identi…
- The Pain Men Never Talk About (But Carry Every Day) w/ Rory Paquette
Rory Paquette shares his experience of losing his business, wife's respect, and children's trust, detailing his difficult journey back from rock bottom, including working multiple jobs and rebuilding trust.
- From Prison to Purpose: How This Man Turned His Pain Into Power w/ Doc Amy
Edward “Doc” Amy details his difficult past, including crime and addiction, and explains how he found purpose and is now helping other men. The episode covers themes of identity, faith, fatherhood, and overcoming adversity.
- Why Most Men Are Still Boys (And Don’t Even Know It) w/ Dr. Arne Rubinstein
Dr. Arne Rubinstein explains how many men remain in 'boy psychology' due to societal failures in rites of passage. This conversation explores the impact on relationships, the search for purpose, and the true nature of masculinity.
- Why I Started STFUAL (And Why It’s Not Just Another Podcast)
The host of STFUAL explains the podcast's origin, stemming from his wife's challenge for him to "be more of a man." He is committed to helping grown men eradicate boy-like behavior, starting with himself.