So What Now? with Carla and Dex
Society & Culture
About
So What Now? with Carla and Dex is the podcast that meets women exactly where they are—in transition, in hustle, in healing, in joy. From motherhood and womanhood to news, culture, and personal reinvention, Carla and Dex bring humor, candor, and lived experience to the mic. Each episode is a mix of perspective, real talk, and connection that leaves you with something to think about long after the laughs fade.
Episodes
- EP 67: Pleasure Over Pressure
We're back for another week of So What Now? and this episode? Yeah… it goes there.Carla kicks things off with a life update, sharing Plasm's progress in school, while Dex is on the complete opposite vibe—outside, having a time , and leanin…
- Ep 66: Dating Intentions & Messy Reality Checks
We're back just like we said we would and honestly? We have some thoughts. This week, we're unpacking a wild (but very real) stat about marriage and how women somehow end up doing more work at home. Like… how did we get here? From there, D…
- EP 65: Disney Adventures and Finally got my Lipo!
This week we're catching up… like really catching up. From Disney adventures and parenting wins to healing after cosmetic procedures and navigating dating in 2026, this episode is a mix of honesty, laughs, and a little bit of reflection ab…
- EP 64: Glow-Up Guilt, Unsupportive Partners, and Soft Exits
Back for another week of So What Now , and friends… we're in our advice bag. Carla and Dex sit down to answer listener letters that hit close to home—from glow-up guilt and feeling unsupported in your relationship, to the exhaustion of alw…
- EP 63: White Couch Era, Tax Season Scams & Lawsuits
We're back again with another episode a week has passed and somehow a lot happened. Dex has officially entered her white couch era (growth!), Carla shares a voice note from a friend that sparks conversation, and Dex is now claiming her tit…
- EP 62: New Year, Same Us
Carla and Dex are officially back for the first episode of the new year and there's a lot to catch up on. After a brief stretch of audio-only episodes, the duo is back in the studio and back in their groove. From holiday bar crawls and que…
- EP 61: Let's Run It Back: The Best Moments of the Year
It's holiday break, and Carla and Dex are closing out the year by looking back at the moments that mattered most. This week, they're counting down the biggest highlights of the year—and the So What Now? episodes you, our friends at home, c…
- EP 60: 2025 Was Wild…
The Christmas chaos is officially here , and Carla and Dex are back to process all of it . This week, they're hitting rewind on 2025—the highs, the flops, the moments that had us hopeful… and the ones that had us questioning everything. Wh…
- EP 59: Why I'm Choosing Experiences Over Perfection
In this episode, Carla shares her personal journey of self-discovery and the importance of embracing life's adventures, especially during the holiday season. She reflects on her recent trip to Denver, the significance of making memories wi…
- EP 58: Is Holiday Season Making Us Delusional… or Honest?
It's officially Christmas season, y'all Mariah Carey is defrosted, the Elf on the Shelf is stressing parents out, and Carla + Dex are back on the couch, hootin' and hollerin' about everything from holiday nostalgia to the realities of six-…
- EP 57: Rooted in Scripture, Surrounded by Foolishness
This week on So What Now?, we're back from Thanksgiving break and whew child, the mess was waiting for us. We kicked things off with a "Fair or Foul?" that had me side-eyeing my whole microphone. A 34-year-old sis wants her ex to pay for h…
- EP 56: Fall Feelings, Family Nonsense & Friendsgiving Joy
On this week's episode of So What Now?, Dex and I got honest about how the fall season can sneak up on your emotions and shift your whole vibe. I shared how getting outside, staying active, and even slipping in a little travel keeps the fa…
- EP 55: One Year Later: So What Now?
It's officially So What Now? one-year podcast anniversary! In this week's episode, we're taking a moment to reflect on the past year, the lessons we've learned, the challenges we've overcome, and the growth that's come along the way. Most…
- Facing Death Without Fear: The Heart Behind Dead Honest
This week, I'm introducing you to a brand-new show that I had the honor of helping bring to life — Dead Honest, hosted by Ashley, a certified death doula. At the crossroads of belief and doubt, life and death, Dead Honest invites us to fac…
- EP 54: Robots Are Coming! Automation, Innovation, and a Little Confrontation
This week on So What Now?, your favorite duo dive headfirst into the tech takeover… and wrap things up with a dose of relationship drama you won't see coming. We kick things off with the viral story of two Harvard students who built a brai…
- EP 53: Let's Get Spooky! From Face Creams to Fatal Attractions
This week, Dex spills all the details of her anti-aging skincare routine — and let's just say, it's not for anyone on a budget. If you thought that was crazy, wait till you hear her skincare goals inspired by Paris Hilton. From luxury seru…
- EP52: Not Sure If This Is an Ebb or a Flow, But We're Here for It
In this week's episode of So What Now?, we dive into parenting highs, lows, and the unexpected in-betweens. Dex kicks things off by sharing her experience at a frat party with Mikaela – the drinks, the vibes, the "what am I doing here?" mo…
- EP 51: The Math Ain't Mathin – Life Path Numbers & Listener Letters
This week, we dove into the mystical world of life path numbers said to reveal the road you're meant to walk in life. Carla walks us through how to calculate yours (warning: it's not as easy as it sounds!) and shares her eerily accurate re…
- EP 50:Black Cat Energy: Is Dex Pivoting her Opinion on Men?
This week on So What Now we are back with all the chaos, wisdom, and side-eyes you've come to love. Dex kicks things off with a hilarious (and low-key insightful?) update on dinner with her dad — who came with unexpected dating advice on w…
- EP 49: Did The Rapture Happen? + Cardi's Baby Daddy Drama & Platonic Marriage Proposals
Welcome back to So What Now , where the convos are chaotic and the wine is always flowing 🍷 In this episode, we're diving deep (and maybe too far 😭) into everything from Rapture Talk 2025 to Cardi B's new album, revenge baby, and messy b…
- EP 48: Pop Culture, Probable Cause & Pretty Girl Preferences
It's football season, y'all! And guess what? Carla and I are finally ready to dive in. We're trying to understand the hype, the rules, and maybe even pick a team (no promises though). From touchdowns to tight ends, we're figuring it out on…
- EP 47: Security Guards, Spoilers & Side-Eyes
We kick off this weeks episode with a motherhood update. Carla opens up about new and uncharted challenges of motherhood this week. Her little one just started Pre-K. It's been a rough ride, and Carla's not sugarcoating it. The struggle bu…
- EP 46: AI Dating Concierges, $1K Pre-Date Deposits & Free UK Childcare?!
This week, we're diving deep into the future of dating — and it's getting a high-tech upgrade. Bumble founder Whitney Wolfe Herd says AI could soon help you navigate dating anxiety, improve your communication, and even "date" other AIs to…
- EP 45: For Men Only: Proposals, Budgets & Back Door Business
Hey Friends it's Carla! Welcome back to another episode of So What Now? Let's get right into this week's wild ride! So Bella Thorne hopped on IG sharing that she proposed to her fiancé… after he already did it first. I'm sorry, what?? Nah.…
- EP 44: Brunch Budgets, Water Bill Nightmares & Khloé's Caretaking
In this episode, we kick things off with the hidden cost of friendship — turns out, staying social could be costing you over $250 a month in brunches, happy hours, and birthday dinners. Then we get into dating finances, where new data show…
- EP 43: Mailbag: Marriage Pressure, Broke Behavior & Too Independent?
This week on So What Now?, I kicked things off with a few thoughts on all the buzz surrounding the Woman Evolve conference and shared a little bit about what the experience was like for me personally. We also wanted to catch up with y'all,…
- EP 42: Wife Material & Mom Mode: We Can't Catch a Break
This week, Dex came in hot with the age-old(and honestly, exhausting) question: Are you wife material? We broke down a xoNecole article where 10 men shared what makes a woman "wife" vs. "girlfriend" material and whew, some of these takes h…
- EP 41: Traci's Luggage, Kamala's Future, and Karrueche's Dating
This week, me, and Carla are comparing social media timelines and realizing just how differently our algorithms are built. Mine? Full of the usual celeb mess. Carla's? Somehow led us into a convo about butt sniffers. I'm still recovering.…
- EP 40: Multitasking, Mess, and a Little Mayhem
This week on So What Now, we unpack a viral TikTok that challenges the usual checklist for choosing a partner. Sure, faith, finances, and fitness are great—but what about the ability to suffer well? Life will get messy, and having someone…
- EP 39: Cakes, Confessions, and Coldplay Chaos
Whew—y'all, we're back! After dodging studio bookings like TSA lines, we finally made it back to High Hello Labs, and babyyy... we've got a lot to catch up on. Dex is officially 41 (but giving 25), and Carla shares how TSA Cares and Psalm'…
- EP 38: Hot Takes, Bali Dreams, and Petty Truths
Hey Besties We're back! and it's giving unfiltered chaos (per usual). 😅 This week's episode is straight from the living room while Carla gets her hair done and Dex debates washing hers (it's been 16 days, send help). The kids are in the b…
- EP 37: Are You Too Comfortable? Here's What That Could Be Telling You
Hey Bestie, We're back! Listen… jetlag and schedule conflics are real. This week's episode is a catch-up at the house. I just got back from Bali, had a full-blown spiritual awakening (yes, there were tears in the ocean), and maybe met the…
- EP 36: Fasting, Ghosting & Pardoning – Just Another Week in America
On this juicy episode of So What Now, Carla kicks things off by sharing her prep for Bali — a water fast that helped her shed six pounds (and gain three right back 😅). Still, she's feeling herself and ready for the beach! Meanwhile, Dex c…
- EP 35: Voicenote Devotionals, Selfie Request and The Last Straw
Whew! Y'all… I'm out here trying to date and let me just say: it's terrible. This week I went on two dates — yes, two. One man is ready for a monogamous relationship immediately… and has absolutely no friends (red flag?). The other sends m…
- EP 34: Body Language, Dating Games & Big Beautiful Bills
Alright y'all, in this week's episode we got real about body language in dating—yes, sis, that closed-off vibe might be why no one's stepping to you! A new study says most women think we look approachable, but we really out here serving "d…
- EP 33: Single Mom to CEO: Jena Mehlberg on Faith and Raising Boys
Hey friends—Carla here! This week on So What Now?, Dex and I sat down with the fierce and inspiring Jena Mehlberg—entrepreneur, mama, survivor, and all-around powerhouse in the beauty world. Jena took us on a real ride through some of the…
- EP 32: Pro-Choice, Pro-Chaos, Probably Problematic
This week's episode of So What Now gets into some pretty spicy and controversial territory—so let's jump right in. We started things off light: I came across a study that says spending money on your best friend can actually boost your ment…
- EP 31: What She Wore vs. What He Did: The Real Issue
Friend, this week was juicy and necessary. First off, I gave y'all some homework—yes, homework. Go listen to Atomic Habits and please, if you're struggling with your mental health, talk to a therapist. We love healing over here. Dex gave u…
- EP 30: Babies on Board, Husbands at Risk & $5K Ain't It
Friend… this episode was pure chaos—in the best way. We started off with Porsha from Real Housewives of Atlantathreatening to sleep with a castmate's husband after an argument. Yes, the same Porsha who already married her ex-friend's man.…
- EP 29: Serving Hottie Sauce, Auntie Vibes & Labor Glam
Hey friend, it's me, Carla! 💋 This week on So What Now, we're giving flowers (and maybe some biscuits) to our Woman of the Week—Megan Thee Stallion—for opening her own Popeyes franchise and dropping that delicious "Hottie Sauce"! I LIVE f…
- EP 28: Birthday Blues & Ride-or-Die Red Flags
Hey y'all, it's Carla! My birthday's coming up, and let's just say I've been in my feelings. In this episode I shared how I've been mourning parts of my younger self and wishing I could go back and change a few things. Dex reminded me that…
- EP 27: Did We Self-Love Ourselves Into Loneliness?
Hey friend, it's Dex, and we're back with another episode of So What Now? — where the convos are deep, the laughs are loud, and the side-eyes are always earned. This week, we kicked things off with a little life catch-up. I ran a Hyrox rac…
- EP 26: The Truth About 50/50 Love and Trauma Bonds
Hey friends, it's Carla and this week's episode of So What Now was a whole mix of "wait, what?" and "absolutely not." We kicked things off with Ayesha Howard, who recently responded to the backlash around her decision to keep her baby. And…
- EP 25: Dex Is a Liar & Carla's in Denial — 25 Questions for 25 Episodes!
We made it to 25 episodes, y'all! Our little podcast baby is all grown up, and to celebrate, Carla and I decided to do something fun (and slightly chaotic): 25 questions to help you get to know us on a whole new level. No rules, barely any…
- EP 24: The Parenting Debate "Do Kids Need Their Own Room?" + Friendship Breakups? We Went There!
Hey Friend! Quick update: Carla's allergies are finally under control, and I'm feeling better too—my back's on the mend, so no more grandpa groans when I bend over. Small wins, y'all. Now, onto the episode. We dive into a topic that's real…
- EP 23: Ozempic Regrets, Disney Trips Without Kids, and Why Moms Can't Win
Hey Friend! First of all, let me just say Ozempic had me in a chokehold , and for what? We kicked off this episode talking about the shortcuts we've tried on the road to health and how most of them left us worse off than when we started. A…
- EP22: She Had the Baby Anyway—Was That a Mistake? Plus Too Old for Nudes, Too Grown for Bad Baby Daddies?
First of all, we are old. Like, what is happening?! My allergies are out here fighting for their life, and Dex's back is giving up on her. If y'all have any remedies for allergies that don't involve me living in a bubble, let me know becau…
- EP21: Casey Anthony the Advocate?! Girl, Be Serious
Alright y'all, this week's episode is a rollercoaster. First up, Carla has big feelings about Casey Anthony's latest rebrand as a legal advocate. Yea, you read that right. And let's just say, she has some thoughts. Then, we get into Gayle…
- EP20: Why You're Always Tired, Craving Chocolate, Gaining Weight, and Coach Netra on PCOS
Ooooh, friend, buckle up 'cause this episode is packed with Aha! moments and truths that'll hit you straight in the chest. We had our second-ever guest, the fabulous Coach Netra, a lifestyle and nutrition coach who's all about women's heal…
- EP19: Dex is Messy, Carla is Cutting People Off, & the Internet is Wild
Hey Friend! Its me, Carla ! Whew, this episode was a ride! Dex is officially a Cowboy Carter ticket holder (Beyhive, stand up!), and I've been auditing my top five closest people—we'll see who makes it and who's getting cut real quick. Our…