Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled
Kids & Family
About
In the 25+ years Janet Lansbury has worked with children and parents, she's learned a lot. She's here to share it with you. Each episode of Unruffled addresses a reader's parenting issue through the lens of Janet's respectful parenting approach, consistently offering a perspective shift that ultimately frees parents of the need for scripts, strategies, tricks, and tactics. Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website (JanetLansbury.com) is visited by millions of readers annually. Her work informs, inspires, and supports caregivers of infants and toddlers across the globe, helping to create authentic relationships of respect, trust, and love. Janet's "...
Episodes
- How to Survive an Upset Child
Janet Lansbury expert of Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled, provides guidance on responding to child meltdowns. She explains that trying to stop the storm can worsen the situation and offers strategies for setting boundaries a…
- We Can't Make Them Share
This episode of Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled discusses a parent's conflict with her father over her son's refusal to share blueberries. Janet addresses the complexities of sharing, boundaries, and fostering kindness in ch…
- 3 Reasons Your Toddler Rejects You for Their Other Parent
Janet Lansbury addresses why toddlers might show a preference for one parent over another, exploring the reasons behind this behavior and offering guidance for parents who experience it. The discussion aims to provide a new mindset for und…
- Setting Boundaries Without Power Struggles
This episode of Janet Lansbury Unruffled addresses a mother's struggles with her 5-year-old daughter who is testing boundaries. Janet Lansbury suggests an empathic approach to understand the behavior and offers guidance on setting effectiv…
- My Child Is So Mean to Me
This episode of Respectful Parenting with Janet Lansbury Unruffled addresses a parent's struggle with their 4-year-old daughter's "mean" behavior. Janet offers a perspective to help understand the child's unconscious motives and to improve…
- Navigating the Playground with a Child Who Seems Too Physical, Bossy, Huggy, or Shy
Janet Lansbury provides guidance on addressing typical playground behaviors in preschool-aged children. She discusses managing physical aggression, bossiness, and shyness, and emphasizes supporting children to foster positive learning expe…
- It's Never About the Watermelon: What's Really Behind Your Child's Behavior (And What Actually Helps)
In this episode, Janet Lansbury addresses a mother's concerns about her toddler's behavior, such as throwing and hitting. She offers a simple shift in perspective to help parents understand and respond to these challenges. The episode expl…
- How Forcing Kids to Do Stuff Backfires (And What to Do Instead)
This episode of Janet Lansbury Unruffled explores the challenges parents face when trying to make their children do things, such as brushing teeth. Janet Lansbury provides insights on emphasizing cooperation over control in daily routines.
- The Joy of a Self-Entertained Toddler (Yes, It's Possible!)
This episode of Janet Lansbury Unruffled discusses a parent's experience and learning curve in fostering independent play in her toddler. Janet Lansbury provides further insights on a relationship-centered approach to achieving this.
- Why Parents Need RIE (with Melani Ladygo)
Janet Lansbury and Melani Ladygo discuss RIE, explaining what it is and how it can benefit parents. They address various questions about this parenting approach.
- Finding Your Voice for Setting Limits
A parent grappling with using "if/then" ultimatums for limit-setting with her daughter asks for an alternative approach. Janet Lansbury provides a simple adjustment aligned with her respectful parenting philosophy to address this concern.
- Disturbing Things Kids Bring Home From School
This episode addresses a parent's devastation over their 5-year-old daughter's concerning behavior learned from peers. Janet Lansbury provides a perspective to help ameliorate the child's behavior.
- Demands, Wild Behavior, and Parent Guilt
This episode of Janet Lansbury Unruffled addresses listener concerns about children's demanding behavior and emotional outbursts, as well as parental guilt. Janet offers advice for parents dealing with these issues.
- Becoming Untriggered (with Lavinia Brown and Andrew Lynn)
In this episode, Lavinia Brown and Andrew Lynn discuss with Janet Lansbury how they help parents identify triggers and heal wounds. They describe common signs of trauma and repressed emotions, and how their coaching practices enable parent…
- Raising Can-Do Kids
In this episode, Janet Lansbury shares a four-step sequence of responses to encourage children to persevere through frustration. The discussion is prompted by an Instagram video of a determined toddler.
- Separation Anxiety, Meltdowns... The Solution Is Often in Our Face
Janet Lansbury responds to parents dealing with their children's separation anxiety, transitions, and emotional overwhelm. She discusses how parental discomfort can impact children and offers solutions for parents to trust their children t…
- Lost in Transition - How Changes Affect Our Kids' Behavior
This episode of Janet Lansbury Unruffled explores how changes can impact children's behavior, with examples of toddler bedtime issues and a 5-year-old's struggle with a friend. Janet Lansbury provides guidance on understanding children's s…
- The Year to Stop Doubting Yourself
Janet Lansbury addresses parental self-doubt and offers suggestions to three families facing challenges with their children's behavior, transitions, and play. She provides encouraging feedback for each situation.
- Can We Be Sad or Angry And Still Be Unruffled?
This episode features Janet Lansbury discussing how parents can balance expressing emotions like anger and frustration with the goal of remaining "unruffled." She offers insights on authentic emotional modeling for children.
- Threats and Bribes Aren't Very Helpful (What to Do Instead)
A parent asks for help to stop using bribes and threats with her 3.5-year-old and addresses her guilt about setting boundaries. The episode discusses alternative parenting strategies.
- Finally! A One-Size-Fits-All Approach to Our Kids' Behavior
Janet Lansbury addresses common behavioral issues in children, such as meltdowns and argumentative behavior. She shares a one-size-fits-all approach to help parents understand and respond to their children's actions.
- 3 Secrets to Raising Grateful Kids
In this episode, Janet Lansbury addresses a mother's frustrations with her two young sons, who seem ungrateful despite her efforts to make them happy. Janet offers her perspective on why children behave this way and provides three suggesti…
- The Best Response to Our Children's Turbulent Emotions
In this episode, Janet Lansbury responds to parents dealing with children's strong emotions, including meltdowns, feelings of not being loved, and prolonged tantrums. She identifies common threads in these situations and provides hopeful a…
- How to Boost Your Child's Self-Confidence
In this episode, Janet Lansbury addresses listener questions on fostering self-confidence in children. She offers a perspective on helping children develop resilience and lasting self-confidence.
- Don't Play Along With Annoying Behavior
Janet Lansbury provides insights on how to respond to a child's annoying behavior and frequent demands for attention. She addresses a parent's concerns about whether their 5.5-year-old daughter will outgrow certain behaviors and discusses…
- The Kindness of Consequences
Janet Lansbury receives an update from a parent who found success with her advice on confident leadership and honest consequences, leading to positive changes in her child's behavior. The episode explores how understanding boundaries and d…
- Demanding, Stressed, and Aggressive - What's Happened to My Gentle Child?
In this episode, Janet Lansbury addresses a parent's concerns about their 4-year-old, who has become demanding, stressed, and aggressive since the arrival of a new baby. Janet offers suggestions to understand the child's behavior and commu…
- Bedtime Battles ("Losing Myself in Motherhood")
A parent describes challenging bedtime routines with her 5.5-year-old daughter, expressing feelings of exhaustion and frustration. Janet Lansbury provides insights into the dynamics of these bedtime battles and offers suggestions to help s…
- What to Say and Do During a Meltdown
This episode features Janet Lansbury discussing respectful communication in parenting, particularly during child meltdowns. She shares a parent's experience in understanding and addressing the cause of a child's long meltdown, emphasizing…
- Parenting Is Too Hard? Consider Editing Your Job Description
Janet Lansbury suggests that parents may be taking on more than necessary and offers ideas for lightening the workload by recognizing and trusting children's intrinsic abilities. She discusses how reframing the parenting job description ca…
- A Secret to Stop the Hitting and Hurting When All Else Fails
Janet Lansbury offers advice to parents dealing with children exhibiting aggression towards siblings. She discusses strategies for addressing internal discomfort that may lead to such behaviors, providing guidance when previous attempts wi…
- Making Independent Play Work for You and Your Child (Brilliant Examples From My Inbox)
This episode explores the benefits of independent play for children, from infancy through toddlerhood. It includes accounts from parents who have observed the positive impact of allowing their children to engage in self-directed play and h…
- Obedience Is Not a Dirty Word
In this episode, Janet Lansbury discusses the concept of obedience in children, addressing a parent's concerns about their nearly 4-year-old. She explains how to achieve obedience through a relationship-centered approach, countering the id…
- Parenting Problems Our Childhoods Create (and How to Fix Them)
This episode of Janet Lansbury Unruffled explores how parental childhood experiences can affect children's behavior. Janet Lansbury responds to parents who are struggling with their children tuning them out or making violent threats, sugge…
- Don’t Raise Your Kids in a Bubble
This episode of Janet Lansbury Unruffled discusses the importance of preparing children to adapt to diverse social settings and respect the boundaries of others. Janet explains how respectful parenting can equip children to confidently nav…
- Helping Your Child Overcome Anxieties, Fears, and Rocky Transitions
Janet Lansbury addresses common issues with young children experiencing anxieties, fears, and rocky transitions. She proposes a three-step approach to help resolve these struggles, which include uncooperative behavior and meltdowns.
- Negativity, Pushback, No to EVERYTHING
This episode addresses a parent's struggles with their 7-year-old daughter's consistently negative and argumentative behavior. The parent seeks Janet Lansbury's advice on managing the child's constant pushback and refusal to cooperate with…
- Fighting Is Playing (Let the Kids Work It Out)
In this episode, Janet Lansbury discusses how childhood conflicts, including sibling rivalry, provide important developmental learning experiences. She offers advice on how parents can support their children in resolving disputes and under…
- Making a Successful Transition to Preschool (with Mr. Chazz)
Janet Lansbury and Mr. Chazz discuss strategies for parents and teachers to help children successfully transition to preschool or childcare. They emphasize the importance of trust and connection to support confident separation.
- How to Help a Strong-Willed Child (Without Wounding His Spirit)
This episode addresses parenting a strong-willed 4-year-old, offering methods to encourage listening while preserving his independent nature. The discussion includes scenarios like a child running ahead during nature walks and offers advic…
- Validating Feelings Isn't Working
In this episode, Janet Lansbury addresses common issues parents face when validating children's feelings. She explores reasons for ineffectiveness and suggests alternative approaches to acknowledgment for building empathic relationships. T…
- The Help Toddlers Need With Aggressive Behavior
Janet Lansbury responds to listener messages about toddlers exhibiting aggressive behavior towards peers. She offers insights to help parents understand and respond to their children's behavior effectively. This episode aims to ease parent…
- The Bad Advice I Gave About Toilet Training
In this episode, Janet Lansbury revisits previous advice given on toilet training after a parent reported that her daughter's potty training success came from going in the opposite direction. Janet explains why her original guidance might…
- Calming Our Reactivity to Children's Irritating, Demanding Behaviors
In this episode, Janet Lansbury addresses a parent's struggle with children constantly demanding attention. The discussion focuses on methods for parents to manage their reactions to such behaviors.
- Eating Disorders, Healthy Body Image: What Parents Need to Know (With Grace Lautman, CN, LMHC)
Janet Lansbury and Grace Lautman, a therapist and nutritionist, discuss eating disorders and healthy body image. They explore early signs of eating disorders and the impact of parental relationships with food on children.
- Rejection, Exclusion, Teasing — What to do When Friends Aren't Kind
Janet Lansbury addresses how to support children when friends are unkind, covering topics such as navigating rejection, exclusion, and teasing. She offers an empowering perspective for parents on how much and in what ways to intervene in t…
- Sleep, Baby, Sleep (with Hari Grebler)
Janet Lansbury and Hari Grebler discuss respectful and simple ideas for helping babies and toddlers sleep. They explore a positive approach that builds a foundation for children throughout their lives.
- Secrets to Talking to Kids About Anything
This episode of Janet Lansbury Unruffled features Janet answering questions from three families about how to talk to their children about different subjects.
- I'm Bad, I'm Stupid—Kids Being Harsh on Themselves
Janet Lansbury addresses how to respond when children express negative self-perceptions, discussing ways to encourage a positive self-image and self-confidence. She offers advice to families on this topic.
- My Boy Seems Anxious, Sensitive, Easily Overwhelmed... Is This Normal?
Janet Lansbury responds to parents worried about their children being anxious, sensitive, and easily overwhelmed in social situations. She provides advice and encouragement regarding these temperaments.