Not As We Planned
Psychology & Relationships
About
New episodes every Thursday, with exclusive bonus episodes every Monday on Patreon.Welcome to Not As We Planned, the honest podcast about relationships, dating, marriage, divorce and motherhood, and all the things no one really talks about.From becoming a mum and navigating divorce, to rebuilding life as a single mum and dating again in your 30s, we’re sharing the real, messy and unexpected sides of it all.Life doesn’t always go to plan, and neither do relationships. This is a space for open conversations, shared experiences and saying the things most people avoid.If you have a ques...
Episodes
- How Many Red Flags Did I Ignore?
This episode of Not As We Planned discusses ignored red flags in relationships. Topics include petty reasons for stopping a relationship and suspicions of a partner sleeping with a former best friend.
- I Was Ghosted 5 Years Into Our Relationship | Not As We Planned Podcast
This episode explores past relationships, difficult breakups, and a specific dating strategy. It also touches on a personal story of unexpected pregnancy. Audience experiences are also shared.
- I Found Out He's Been In Prison | Not As We Planned Podcast
The podcast episode explores feelings of hitting rock bottom and the dating pool. It also features a story about a man whose past included a prison sentence.
- Turning Pain Into Power | Not As We Planned Podcast
This episode of Not As We Planned discusses transforming pain into power, focusing on personal lessons learned from relationships and the decision-making process when facing difficult choices.
- I Can't Stop Comparing Myself to His Ex | Not As We Planned Podcast
This episode addresses concerns about a partner's ex, dealing with suspicious colleagues, and anxieties regarding a partner's relationship with their children's mother. It also features a story of resilience.
- My Ex is my Guilty Pleasure | Not As We Planned Podcast
This episode covers a range of relationship topics, including a significant personal announcement, navigating an affair with an ex-partner, the strategy of going no contact, and the revelation of a boyfriend leading a secret double life fo…
- Should I Have an Affair? | Not As We Planned Podcast
Carly provides an emotional update. The episode covers stories of relationship challenges including considering an affair, a chaotic dating encounter, a cheating partner, and a mother\
- Colin @loudsingledad: Our First Male Guest! A Man’s Perspective on Separation, Coparenting & Dating! | Not As We Planned Podcast
In this episode of Not As We Planned Podcast, Colin @loudsingledad shares his perspective on separation, coparenting, and dating.
- When Hope Ends Up Costing You A Lot | Not As We Planned Podcast
This episode features Tash discussing her breakup experience, supporting a partner through addiction, and the courage required to end a relationship. A man also shares his perspective on addiction.
- Sabrina Zohar: Everything You Need to Know About Dating & Relationships | Not As We Planned Podcast
In this episode, Sabrina Zohar, a dating and relationship expert, answers questions about navigating dating, including no-contact rules, mixed signals, and building healthy relationships. The discussion aims to help listeners understand an…
- I Can’t Stop Sleeping With My Daughters Boyfriend | Not As We Planned Podcast
This episode focuses on dating and relationship stories, including a first date incident, an affair, and navigating friendship in relationships based on listener experiences. It explores various aspects of modern dating.
- Poor Excuse of a Man | Not As We Planned Podcast
This episode of Not As We Planned Podcast features listener updates about infidelity. Stories include a man trying to hide his whereabouts during a FaceTime call, a partner frolicking with another woman on a family holiday, and a man havin…
- You Need To Leave This Relationship NOW!! | Not As We Planned Podcast
Tash provides an update on going no contact in a relationship. The episode also features shared dating experiences, including humorous and challenging situations, and a segment on guilt in relationships.
- The Worst Affair Story You've Ever Heard | Not As We Planned Podcast
This episode from Not As We Planned features a story about an affair, a partner leaving for someone else, and unexpected news related to a baby daddy. It also touches on cohabiting with an ex.
- Me & My Boyfriend Broke Up | Not As We Planned Podcast
In this episode of Not As We Planned Podcast, Tash shares that she and her boyfriend have broken up. The discussion also includes topics such as relationship issues and shocking revelations.
- Nicole is this me: A Real & Raw Conversation About Her Husband's Affair | Not As We Planned Podcast
In this episode, Nicole shares her experience of finding out about her husband's affair, which happened two weeks ago.
- I've Been Sleeping With My Boss... Who's Married
This episode features a confession from someone in a relationship with their married boss. It also discusses a boyfriend exposed on an 'Are We Dating the Same Guy' page and offers advice to a listener concerned about her boyfriend cheating.
- Shelley J Whitehead: How to Heal Your Heartbreak, Set Boundaries and Gain Self Worth.
This episode of Not As We Planned features Shelley J Whitehead, who discusses how to heal from heartbreak, set boundaries, and gain self-worth. The episode focuses on navigating the challenges of personal healing.
- Don’t Be a Ho Ho Ho!! | Not As We Planned Podcast
This episode of Not As We Planned Podcast discusses various Christmas struggles, such as being newly single or not having children. The hosts also read an emotional thank you email and address a male listener's experience with infidelity.
- The Neighbourhood Bicycle Where Everyone Had a Ride | Not As We Planned Podcast
This episode recounts personal experiences with challenging relationships, including domestic abuse and unexpected partings. The narrative explores the difficulties of leaving abusive situations and the impact of a partner's decision to le…
- Jessica Miller: The Truth Behind The Breakdown Of Her Marriage And All The In-Between | Not As We Planned Podcast
Jessica Miller shares details about the end of her marriage, her experiences with OnlyFans, and her future outlook. This episode is part of the "Not As We Planned" podcast.
- The Truth Is They Never Change... | Not As We Planned Podcast
This episode explores the reasons people stay in unhappy relationships, addresses a husband blaming appearance for leaving, and discusses the uncovering of lies. It's from the podcast 'Not As We Planned'.
- The Not So Magic Mike Show... | Not As We Planned Podcast
This episode discusses an unintentional strip tease, a Christmas party affair, relationship closure, and reflections on marriage and motherhood. The hosts share stories and explore these personal experiences.
- The Messy Wife Swap | Not As We Planned Podcast
This episode covers a marriage marked by constant betrayal, neglected red flags, and the transformation of love into a struggle for survival. It also includes an account of a shocking event that led to homelessness.
- When Your Situationship Even Lied About His Name!!! | Not As We Planned Podcast
This episode of Not As We Planned discusses dating expectations and the experience of finding out a partner lied about their name. The hosts share their opinions on bare minimum treatment versus "princess treatment" and consider if a secon…
- The Intentional Affair | Not As We Planned Podcast
This episode explores the topic of infidelity, focusing on broken trust and the possibility of moving forward after deceit. It includes advice for a listener and features a different perspective from an "imposter."
- Jessica May: the untold events of her partner's affair and the signs that she ignored | Not As We Planned Podcast
Jessica May shares her personal experience regarding her partner's affair, discussing how she discovered the situation and her subsequent actions. This episode explores the events surrounding the infidelity and the signs she previously ove…
- It's Giving Desperate Housewives | Not As We Planned Podcast
This episode of Not As We Planned discusses relationship problems, including a lying boyfriend and a nine-year affair. The hosts offer advice to a listener.
- Legally Nik: Answering Your Questions About Coparenting, Dealing With Narcissist's & A 50/50 Split | Not As We Planned Podcast
This episode of Not As We Planned features Legally Nik, who discusses coparenting, managing legal issues with a child's parent, and navigating a 50/50 split. The discussion aims to provide insight into the coparenting world and growing thr…
- Sending A Nude Into The School Group Chat!!! | Not As We Planned Podcast
In this episode of Not As We Planned, the hosts share personal stories about texting the wrong person, navigating complex relationships, and unexpected life events. They discuss experiences involving mortifying social blunders and difficul…
- I Got Eaten Alive!! The Dating Episode You Don't Want To Miss! | Not As We Planned Podcast
This episode covers updates on Carly's dating life, including her experience with the dating app Wisp. The hosts also discuss listener stories about difficult dating encounters, including issues with dishonesty and romantic relationships i…
- Should You Date Multiple Men At The Same Time?? | Not As We Planned Podcast
This episode discusses the practice of dating multiple men simultaneously, including personal stories and advice on relationships and co-parenting. It also covers topics on finding love and community engagement.
- The hack to find deleted messages on your phone!!! | Not As We Planned Podcast
Carly shares a life update while the hosts discuss navigating relationship growth, decisions regarding infidelity, and online dating groups. The episode also includes a tip on finding deleted phone messages.
- We’re Back in Our BRAND NEW Studio! Breakups, Divorce & Dating Real Talk | Not As We Planned Podcast
In this episode of Not As We Planned, the hosts celebrate the launch of their new studio. The discussion covers personal updates on dating and co-parenting, along with listener questions on toxic relationships, cheating, and red flags.
- 100. Unfortunately Men Like This Exist…
In this episode, the hosts discuss the challenges of managing child custody during the holidays, offer advice to a listener, and compare the outcomes of leaving versus staying in a relationship. They also discuss a story about a man juggli…
- 99. He Did Cheat.. But it Was My Fault
This episode of Not As We Planned covers financial pressures faced by single mothers, deceptive behavior in relationships, and overcoming emotional abuse and trauma bonds.
- 98. I Was The Other Woman But Didn’t Know!!!
In this episode, the hosts discuss the experience of discovering that the man they were dating had been leading a double life. They explore the deception involved, including a false identity, and share the process of comparing notes with a…
- 97. He Told Me He Was a Vampire
In this episode, listeners share their personal dating experiences, including stories about embarrassing scenarios, complex relationship requests, and the impact of the podcast during a divorce.
- 96. An Unexpected Turn of Events
In this episode of Not As We Planned, the hosts discuss handling infidelity and staying in a marriage for the sake of children, while also responding to feedback from a listener.
- 95. The Signs Of An Affair
In this episode, the hosts discuss personal accounts involving infidelity, including hearing from a mistress and navigating multiple affairs.
- 94. A Massive Orange Dildo
This episode covers relationship conflicts involving ex-partners and infidelity recovery, along with a discussion on the consequences of behavior. It also includes an update on a listener's situation regarding an unfaithful spouse and feat…
- 93. I Thought He Would Change For Me
This episode of Not As We Planned explores the emotional impact of short-term relationships, navigating ultimatums regarding pets, and coping with an ex-partner moving on.
- 92. Describe Your Ex As a Brand
In this episode, the hosts discuss comparing ex-partners to brands, the timing of dating an old flame after a breakup, and the experience of having a partner suddenly disappear.
- 91. She’d Flirt With a Pint Of Milk
In episode 91 of Not As We Planned, guests share stories about marriage struggles, infidelity, and moving past comparisons after being cheated on. The episode includes updates from previous guests regarding their relationship experiences.
- 90. You Hooked Up With a Murderer
This episode of Not As We Planned features a discussion about listener-submitted dating experiences, ranging from brief, awkward encounters to unusual situationships. The hosts also explore strange dating app prompts.
- 89. It’s Giving… Love Bomb
The hosts share a listener story, discuss the realization of being with a serial cheater, and cover confessions regarding micro penises.
- 88. I Tried To Tame a F*** Boy
In this episode, the hosts discuss the challenges of being married to an addict and the realization that a partner may not change. They also address the futility of blaming the other woman for relationship issues.
- 87. Comparing Myself To The 'Other Woman'
In this episode, the hosts reflect on past relationships, provide advice on potential reconciliation, and discuss the negative effects of comparing oneself to the other woman.
- 86. Catfish and Chlamydia
In this episode, the hosts discuss the decision to file for divorce instead of staying together for children or financial stability. They also share personal anecdotes involving unexpected situations.
- 85. Things Just Got Juicy
This episode discusses navigating the discovery of a partner's infidelity, managing difficult coparenting dynamics as a new partner, and questioning a relationship despite the absence of a specific triggering event.