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Christi Davis Coaching's Podcast
Episodes
- A Surprise Ending
Well friends- this is it. After more than 5 years and 250 episodes, this will be my last. In this episode I'm sharing some of the things I have loved and learned, as well as a few things I hope you'll remember. Thank you for being here, fo…
- When Your Teen Doesn't Like You
If it sometimes seems like your teenager doesn't like you, you are not alone! Teens are developmentally wired to be emotional and easily irritated. For many parents, it feels personal. Today I'm sharing lots of personal stories about my te…
- When You're Not on the Same Page in Parenting
Many thoughtful parents believe they need to be "on the same page" in order to be good parents. But what happens when you and your spouse genuinely see things differently? In this episode, Christi talks about the tension couples feel when…
- The Family Referee
So many moms feel stuck in the middle-trying to smooth things over between a husband and a teenager or between two siblings who can't seem to get along. The problem is that playing referee usually leaves everyone frustrated- especially YOU…
- A Quick Story
Today's episode is a quick story about me applying my own advice from last week- being the calm in the storm. Moral of the story: "Everything will be OK in the end. If it's not OK, it's not the end." -John Lennon
- How to Be the Calm in the Storm
In a world full of chaos and uncertainty, our families need steady mothers of faith. In this episode, Christi shares ideas of how to be the "calm in the storm" by anchoring yourself to Jesus Christ, and applying President Nelson's guidance…
- The Stories We Tell
It's easy to focus on what's going wrong with our teens. But what happens when we intentionally look for- and speak about- what's going right? In this episode I'm offering some simple reframes that can change how you experience your teenag…
- Building Resilience in Teens
In these challenging times, one of the most valuable skills we can teach our teenagers is resilience. In this episode, I have three suggestions of ways we can help our teenagers-even the ones who aren't listening- to build resilience. If y…
- Measuring Success as Parents of Teens
How do you know if you're succeeding as a parent of teenagers- especially when you can't control their choices? In this episode, Christi reframes what success really looks like when parenting teens, and shares four faith-centered questions…
- Your Inner Knowing
If you've ever doubted your parenting instincts, or gone quiet about something that feels important to you, this episode is an invitation to trust yourself and speak up- with confidence and clarity. So many faithful moms wonder if they are…
- Who You Really Are
What if some of the negative things you believe about yourself aren't true- and never were? In this episode I'm sharing some real-life examples of how challenging subconscious beliefs about ourselves can drastically change our parenting ex…
- Managing Christmas Stress
Christmas time can be magical- and incredibly stressful for moms. In this episode, I share practical ways to manage Christmas stress by adjusting expectations, letting go of traditions that no longer serve you, and taking back the control…
- Creating Connection with Adult Children
Today I'm talking with my dear friend and fellow coach Jill Pack. Jill helps LDS moms navigate their relationships with their adult children, which can be tricky! She has created a roadmap of sorts that she calls "Beyond the Battle Map." I…
- Something Big
If you've ever felt like you're "playing small," or not doing enough with your life, this episode is for you. Today I'm sharing a gospel-centered mindset shift about identity, divine purpose, and why your everyday efforts aren't small at a…
- The Family Potluck
Holiday gatherings can feel overwhelming. Especially when you're navigating opinions, expectations, and judgement from the people you love most. In this episode, I'm sharing my timely "Family Potluck" analogy to help you handle extended-fa…
- Creating a Spirit-filled Home with Teenagers
Is contention taking over your home? In this episode, Christi shares practical, faith-centered tools for LDS moms who want more peace, love, and the Spirit in their homes- especially while raising teenagers. Christi breaks down the three m…
- Best of Times, Worst of Times
"It was the best of times, it was the worst of times." Charles Dickens' famous line perfectly captures the messy beauty of mortality. In this episode, Christi explores what it means to live in a world full of opposites, and how learning to…
- Your True Self
Today I'm attempting to share with you a meaningful skill I gained at a women's retreat last weekend. Becoming acquainted with your true, wise, spiritual self can help you see things from a more eternal perspective. You have light and wisd…
- The Problem With Being Nice
We all like to be nice. We like to be helpful and supportive. But sometimes, in our efforts to make others happy, we end up taking responsibility for their emotions. Unfortunately, no matter how hard we try, we can't make another person fe…
- Plenty of Time
One of the most common things that I see sucking the joy out of family relationships is the constant worry and anxiety that we as mothers sometimes carry around. We feel an urgency to make sure our kids are thriving and doing things the ri…
- Modeling Resilience
Our kids learn more from who we are than from what we say. This is especially true during the teenage years, when they start to tune our words. Today's episode is about how to teach teenagers skills of emotional resilience, without them ev…
- Parenting Tips from President Nelson
With the passing of our dear prophet, President Russell M. Nelson, I have been reflecting on the many precious things I have learned from him. While his general conference talks were not specifically issued as "parenting advice," his wise…
- Creating an Atmosphere
Mothers are the heart of the home. Today's episode is about how to be more intentional about the kind of atmosphere or feeling we are creating in our homes.
- Limiting Beliefs
What if you were wearing smudged lenses, but you didn't realize it? You would think that the world just looked dirty! Today I'm talking about how the things we believe create our reality. As we become aware of beliefs that create negative…
- Acting vs. Reacting
The Book of Mormon tells us that we are agents to act, and not just be acted upon. (2 Nephi 2:26-27) But when the people around us are being difficult, sometimes it's hard to take full responsibility for our own agency. We all know that we…
- The Happiest Moments
Last night I was faced with the question "What was one of the happiest moments of your life?" After mulling that over in my mind for a while, this episode has my answer.
- Meeting Them Where They Are
Today I'm sharing a practical tip that helps when our kids are in a stage that we don't love. It's tempting to set rules or consequences that try to change their behavior. But if we jump to that too quickly, we may be missing out on valuab…
- Getting the Gospel into the Hearts of Teens
Today's conversation is a topic that consumes a lot of my brain space and heart space. It's important to me that I do my best to get the gospel deep into the hearts of my teenagers. My guest is my new-ish friend Rachel Tucker. I consider h…
- Advice from the Newlyweds
My son and his wife recently celebrated their one year wedding anniversary. I asked them to each share one thing they have learned in their first year of marriage, and they had some beautiful insights. Today I'm sharing what they have lear…
- Self-Awareness
The very first thing I address with new clients is the skill of compassionate self-awareness. It is an important foundation if you want to make changes in your life, and the first step in learning to maximize the gift of agency. Tune in to…
- Preparing for the Worst
I'm all for being prepared. I'm a planner and a think ahead-er. And sometimes, that makes my life easier and better! But sometimes, planning ahead- for things that could go wrong- actually makes life worse. Today we're talking about common…
- A Day of Rest
Today's episode is short and sweet. I'm sharing how I chose to use the sabbath as a day of rest last week. Because maybe you could use a rest too. Matthew 11:28-30
- Discipline without Punishment
Today we're talking about the difference between discipline and punishment. One is intended to teach and train, the other is intended to control or to assert power. This episode talks about what our real goal is as parents, and how to use…
- Practical Tips for Parenting Teens (part 2)
Today is the continuation of the last week's episode. We're talking about tips 4 and 5 from my ebook: Parenting Teengaers 101 : a Guidebook for Parents. 4. Let Your Teaching Strategies Evolve 5. Be Their Biggest Fan
- Practical Tips for Parenting Teens (part 1)
Today I'm sharing three parenting strategies I wish I had understood better when my oldest child entered the teen years. Don't freak out It's not about you Allow big emotions These "tips" come from years of experience, both parenting my ow…
- Wholeness
Today's episode was inspired by President Camille N. Johnson's talk in this last general conference, titled " Spiritually Whole in Him ." We're talking about how to feel spiritually whole, even when family relationships are difficult or st…
- Prayer as a Parenting Tool
I know this is not a new idea. I'm sure you pray often for your children. But if you're anything like me, you might be praying for the wrong things sometimes. Today I'm sharing four "prayer strategies" that have made a big difference in my…
- Relentless Pursuit
My thoughts today are inspired by Elder Patrick Kearon's talk from general conference last year, " God's Intent is to Bring You Home. " I'm talking about how to apply his phrase "relentless pursuit" to our parenting in a way that doesn't f…
- Raising Confident Teens
I have seven kids with really different personalities. It's funny how people can be raised in the same home and come out so different from each other. Something my kids all have in common though, is confidence. They are all incredibly brav…
- Parental Leadership
Today's episode is a repost of epsiode 51- way back in the day. "Parental Leadership" is a term and a concept that I think about often. When I'm feeling frustrated with the way my kids are behaving, it's helpful for me to step back and ana…
- Parental Leadership
Today's episode is a repost of epsiode 51- way back in the day. "Parental Leadership" is a term and a concept that I think about often. When I'm feeling frustrated with the way my kids are behaving, it's helpful for me to step back and ana…
- Victim Mentality
Parenting comes with a great deal of sacrifice. Sometimes those sacrifices feel beautiful and holy. But sometimes, when we feel like we don't have a choice in what we sacrifice, we end up feeling resentful.. We can even start to feel like…
- How I Prepare my Family
This past weekend in General Conference, I heard the parable of the ten virgins referenced FIVE times! It caught my attention, and has reminded me that NOW is the time to make sure my spiritual lamp is ready, filled with the oil of convers…
- When You're the Daughter
Usually we talk about parenting on here. But sometimes, it's not your children making crazy choices, but your parents, or your spouse, or your sister. Today I have a few tips for those who are struggling with the decisions of another adult…
- Today is not Forever
Today's episode is just a reminder to zoom out a little and remember that, whatever hard thing you have going on right now, it won't last forever. I'm sharing a couple of examples from my own family just in case you need to feel some hope!
- Realistic Parenting Goals
Nothing is more frustrating as a parent than trying to get a teenager to do something they don't want to do! Sometimes our efforts to help our teens even seem to backfire, and they push away from us. In today's episode, I'm talking about w…
- Your Work is Significant
Today's episode is a short, sweet reminder that your efforts matter. I'm sharing a little message that Heavenly Father has impressed on my heart, knowing that you can probably use the same reminder.
- Finding Joy When Your Child Is Struggling
You may have heard the old saying "A mother is only as happy as her least happy child." Today's episode is a direct rebuttal to that nonsense! The level of joy you experience in your life does not depend on how well your children are or ar…
- Stars and Dots and Unconditional Love
Today's episode is an invitation for you to ponder something with me. I'm talking about the worth of souls, and how to love more like God loves. The book I talk about is "You Are Special" by Max Lucado .
- When Worry and Anxiety Backfire
Sometimes it feels like as mothers, there is always something or someone to worry about. We may even think it is helpful and important for us to spend our energy worrying about the people we love. In reality, allowing ourselves to get stuc…