Legally Clueless
Society & Culture
About
Legally Clueless is a weekly podcast by Kenyan media personality & social activist: Adelle Onyango!! Here, she documents her raw human journey as an evolving unapologetically African woman. The podcast is a space where people get to know just how okay it is to not know or not have it all figured out. It is also a space where Africans share stories from their lives; stories that teach, make us cry, make us laugh - real, authentic African stories. The #LegallyClueless hotline is +254768628790
Episodes
- I Refused To Stay Silent PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 377
In part two of Dr. Kui Muraya’s story, she discusses reconnecting with herself after years of silencing her voice. The episode covers her experiences with academia, activism, burnout, and her decision to leave the working world to focus on…
- Motherhood, Friendship Shifts & Choosing Yourself With Mama Olive | For Mannerless Women
Mama Olive discusses motherhood, identity, friendship changes, and self-choice with Adelle. She shares her experiences with single motherhood, postpartum rage, and the emotional exhaustion of raising children. They also explore how motherh…
- You’re Not Lazy. Maybe You’re Self-Sabotaging | Mid Week Tease
Adelle Onyango explores self-sabotage, its origins, and its manifestations in daily life. The discussion covers the psychology behind self-sabotage and practical methods for changing these patterns.
- I Refused To Stay Silent | Legally Clueless Ep 376
In this episode of Legally Clueless, Dr. Kui Muraya discusses her childhood in Nairobi and Mombasa, being raised by multiple mother figures, and the powerful women who shaped her storytelling. She shares her experiences as an outspoken chi…
- A Man Is Not Oxygen: Choosing Yourself Without Fear | For Mannerless Women
This episode of Legally Clueless, featuring Ciku Cheru, explores challenging traditional views on womanhood, marriage, and solo travel. It focuses on embracing independence and building an authentic life.
- Why You Always Assume The Worst | Mid Week Tease
This episode of Legally Clueless features Adelle discussing catastrophizing, the tendency to assume the worst-case scenario. She explores how to identify and interrupt catastrophic thinking, and differentiate between fear and intuition.
- The Shame I Inherited As A Child PART 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 375
In this episode, Wanjirah Kimani shares her childhood experiences, including being raised by her grandmother and navigating parental absence. She discusses how shame and the belief that love had to be earned through performance shaped her…
- Self-Love Is an Action. Here’s How to Rebuild It | For Mannerless Women
Adelle and Temina Semo discuss self-love, identity, and rebuilding confidence. They explore how environments can suppress self-expression in women and the journey to reconnect with one's true self.
- Boundaries Will Cost You Relationships And That’s Okay | Mid Week Tease
This episode of Legally Clueless discusses setting boundaries in relationships. Adelle Onyango explores why boundaries are challenging, how others react to them, and how to prioritize oneself without guilt. The episode covers various types…
- Mama Fua: The Work That Raised Me Became My Business PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 374
In part two of her story, Loise Njeri shares her journey of turning a laundry side hustle into a business. She discusses expanding from home-based laundry to a physical shop, leaving her bank job, and managing the challenges of building a…
- Therapy, Self-Worth & Choosing Yourself, Auntie Jemimah on Healing Out Loud | For Mannerless Women
On Legally Clueless, Auntie Jemimah joins Adelle Onyango to discuss healing, self-worth, and self-acceptance. She shares her experiences with cyberbullying, therapy, and rebuilding her self-esteem. The conversation explores the connection…
- When Your Partner Feels Threatened By Your Growth | Mid Week Tease
Adelle Onyango explores relationships where a partner feels threatened by growth. She discusses the signs of this dynamic, the psychological reasons behind it, and its impact on confidence and self-worth. The episode also reflects on the c…
- Mama Fua: The Work That Raised Me Became My Business | Legally Clueless Ep 373
In this episode, Loise Njeri discusses her journey of becoming a mama fua, detailing how what began as a means of survival evolved into a business. She shares experiences from her upbringing, early hustles, and the process of establishing…
- I Did The Most Trying To Be Loved Then I Had To Face Myself | For Mannerless Women
This episode of Legally Clueless, "For Mannerless Women," features Adelle and Sarah Mukabana discussing self-worth and validation. They share a conversation about navigating relationships, breakups, and the journey of self-discovery.
- What Healing Will Cost You | Mid Week Tease
In this episode, Adelle Onyango discusses the often difficult process of healing, including the potential loss of relationships and identity changes. She explores how psychological insights can help understand these shifts.
- She Lost 2 Years Of Her Life Then Did The Impossible PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 372
In this episode, Patricia discusses her experience returning to school after a two-year recovery period. She shares her journey of rebuilding confidence and identity, ultimately leading to her acceptance at the University of Oxford.
- You’re Too Valuable To Be This Undervalued | For Mannerless Women
Adelle Onyango and Mandi Sarro discuss women, money, and self-worth. They explore topics such as undercharging, handling difficult clients, and the importance of internal validation when setting prices and valuing oneself in business.
- This Is Why You Keep Playing Small | Mid Week Tease
In this episode of The Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango discusses how deeply ingrained limiting beliefs from childhood can shape self-perception, work, and finances. She explores psychological frameworks such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy…
- She Lost 2 Years Of Her Life Then Did The Impossible PART 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 371
Patricia discusses how she rebuilt her life after a two-year pause, addressing challenges like returning to school, identity, and disability. The episode also mentions an upcoming wellness talk titled "Becoming The Woman You Want To Be."
- She Was Called “Useless”… So She Chose Herself | For Mannerless Women
Terry Muikamba-Gitonga discusses her experiences leaving toxic work environments and building a life aligned with her true self. She shares insights on self-worth, intuition, and the challenges of forging an independent path.
- How Childhood Wounds Shape Your Relationships, Career & Self-Worth | Mid Week Tease
This episode of Legally Clueless features Adelle Onyango and psychologist Faith Guchu discussing how childhood wounds, including emotional neglect and criticism, shape self-worth, relationships, and career patterns. They also cover how to…
- I Left Kenya To Find Myself Part 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 370
This episode is the second part of Blessing's story. She discusses working as a domestic worker in the Gulf, the mental and emotional strain of isolation and culture shock, and her journey to building self-trust and finding belonging after…
- The 3 Things I Say Every Morning to Change My Mindset | Mid Week Tease
This episode of Legally Clueless explores three statements Adelle uses to change her mindset. It discusses how thoughts influence what the brain pays attention to and how to rewire the mind for joy, progress, and possibility.
- I Left Kenya To Find Myself Part 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 369
In this episode, Blessing shares her personal story of growing up in Kenya, marked by instability, moving between homes, and the loss of her father. She discusses the emotional impact of her childhood and her decision to leave Kenya in sea…
- Who Protects Women When the Law Fails? | Difference She Makes
In this episode of "Difference She Makes," Sibongile Ndashe discusses feminist legal strategy, institutional reform, and continental accountability in Africa. She explores topics such as the flaws in the AU Convention on Ending Violence Ag…
- She Helped Shape Nigeria’s Startup Act | Difference She Makes
Odunoluwa Longe, founder of TLP Advisory, discusses the Nigeria Startup Act and how women are shaping legal frameworks in Africa's tech ecosystem. The episode explores the collaborative process that led to the Nigeria Startup Act, a law de…
- Money Trauma, Limiting Beliefs & Financial Freedom For Women | For Mannerless Women
In this episode of Legally Clueless, Adelle Onyango and Waceke Nduati discuss money trauma and limiting beliefs affecting women's financial decisions. They explore reclaiming financial agency and building confidence.
- The Life Box: A Simple Practice That Reminds You You’re Loved | Mid Week Tease
In this episode, Adelle introduces "The Life Box," a practice designed to help individuals remember positive experiences and counteract negativity bias. She discusses the psychological reasons why such practices are beneficial and offers w…
- Born Sighted, Diagnosed with Glaucoma At 13 PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 368
This episode is the second part of Nkirote's story. It covers her journey of learning Braille, achieving academic excellence, studying law, and becoming an Advocate of the High Court of Kenya.
- Be Gentle With Yourself But Stay Unwavering | Mid Week Tease
In this episode, Adelle reflects on a powerful idea from Sibongile Ndashe about being gentle with oneself. She explores why high-achieving women are often their own harshest critics and the importance of self-compassion for resilience.
- Born Sighted, Diagnosed with Glaucoma at 13 PART 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 367
Nkirote shares her story of growing up, facing neglect, and being diagnosed with glaucoma at a young age. She discusses the emotional impact of her experiences and the support she received from teachers when her eyesight began to fail.
- Who Are You Outside of Work? Rethinking Purpose & Career Identity | Mid Week Tease
This episode explores the concept of contingent self-worth and how high-achieving women can over-identify with their careers. It discusses separating income from identity and offers ways to discover purpose beyond one's job.
- Period Pain Was Ruining My Life PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 366
Keziah Mumbi discusses her journey to being diagnosed with Stage 4 endometriosis after experiencing severe period pain and being dismissed by multiple doctors. The episode explores the nature of endometriosis, diagnostic challenges, treatm…
- She Had 14 Days to Run For Office | Difference She Makes
Natasha Ali Erry, Chairperson of the Mombasa Law Society, discusses her experience running for office and leading in a male-dominated field. She shares insights on mentorship and leadership, highlighting the unique pressures women face in…
- Maybe You’re Not Delusional | Mid Week Tease
In this episode, the host unpacks a conversation with Natasha Ali about "delusion" and explores if it is actually optimism bias or self-efficacy. The discussion covers representation, the psychology of optimism bias, using "possible selves…
- Period Pain Was Ruining My Life PART 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 365
Keziah Mumbi discusses her life with undiagnosed endometriosis, detailing her severe symptoms and the challenges of medical gaslighting and workplace discrimination. The episode explores the reality of severe period pain, endometriosis sym…
- Stop Shrinking Yourself: Why Women Downplay Their Power & How to Expand Anyway | Mid Week Tease
This episode discusses why women may downplay their power and potential, particularly in careers and relationships. It explores the psychology behind the confidence gap and offers ways to build confidence and embrace expansion.
- From Grief To Laughter PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 364
Rahab Kihuha shares her story, discussing sobriety, motherhood, and womanhood in male-dominated spaces. She reflects on navigating the comedy industry and choosing sobriety as an act of self-preservation.
- She Built Her Own Law Firm After a Toxic System Tried to Break Her | Difference She Makes
Ruth Tanui, an Advocate of the High Court of Kenya and founder of Tanui & Company Advocates, discusses her journey from navigating hostile work environments to building her own law firm. She shares insights on competence, credibility, and…
- Why Treating Yourself Is Essential For Emotional Wellbeing | Mid Week Tease
Adelle discusses why treating yourself is essential for emotional wellbeing. She explores how intentional joy builds emotional resilience and the difference between escapism and self-attunement. The episode also covers identifying what bri…
- From Grief To Laughter PART 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 363
In this episode, Rahab Kihuha discusses her experiences with grief, addiction, and mental health. She shares how comedy played a role in her journey toward healing and purpose. This is Part 1 of her story.
- Why Workplace Policies Matter: Power, Silence & Justice for Women | Difference She Makes
This episode of Legally Clueless features Zikhona Ndlebe and Adelle Onyango discussing the importance of workplace policies. They explore how policies shape culture, accountability, and safety for women, analyze policy gaps, and their real…
- Postpartum Panic Attacks, Body Changes & Learning to Start Again | For Mannerless Women
This episode of Legally Clueless features Adelle Onyango and Winnie Okoth discussing the realities of postpartum. They address common postpartum challenges such as panic attacks, body changes, and mental health, as well as the importance o…
- Abandoning Your Emotional Needs in Relationships | Mid Week Tease
This episode explores why women abandon their emotional needs and self-silence in relationships. It discusses attachment theory, trauma-informed psychology, and family systems theory to understand emotional self-abandonment and its effects.
- Why I Chose to Be Childfree as a Kenyan Man PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 362
In this episode, William Genga discusses his decision to be childfree as a Kenyan man, including his vasectomy procedure and recovery. He shares his experiences with societal judgment, challenges in accessing the procedure, and discriminat…
- How Kenya’s Constitution Became A Tool for Women’s Power | Difference She Makes
This episode of Legally Clueless explores how women influenced Kenya’s 2010 Constitution and the efforts required to safeguard its provisions for gender equality. Host Adelle Onyango and guest Anne Ireri discuss the challenges and successe…
- When Shame Turns Life Into a Performance | For Mannerless Women
In this episode, Justine Wanda and Adelle Onyango discuss shame, identity, adoption, grief, and unlearning survival modes. Justine shares how growing up adopted shaped her sense of belonging and how humor became a shield as she navigated p…
- The Loneliness After Boundaries | Mid Week Tease
This episode of Legally Clueless explores the emotional aftermath of setting boundaries. Adelle Onyango discusses the feelings of loneliness and exhaustion that can follow, and how new boundaries can impact existing relationships.
- Why I Chose to Be Childfree as a Kenyan Man PART 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 361
In this episode, William Genga discusses his decision to be childfree as a Kenyan man from a young age. He shares his experiences facing societal pressure, navigating relationships, and dealing with unsupportive attitudes regarding his rep…
- Becoming a Shame-Free Woman: Desire, Pleasure & Personal Liberation | For Mannerless Women
In this episode of Legally Clueless, Adelle Onyango and Abigail Arunga discuss becoming a shame-free woman, focusing on desire, pleasure, and personal liberation. They explore how women are socialized to shrink themselves and the process o…