In the Right Direction with Deb Elbaum
Self-Improvement
About
Do you ever feel like you're ready to try something new? Or change the old stories and the way you think about your life? Or accomplish that big goal? Maybe you get excited….and then you hear yourself saying, nah…because you think it's too late or too hard or you don't know where to start. Well, it's not and you can – starting now.Welcome to "In the Right Direction," where Life and Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum will help you on your self-help journey to clarify your goals, build your confidence, and create your life to increase your happiness and productivity. In each episode, she'll share stories from people just like you, neuroscience need-to-know concepts, and simple and actionable suggestions and strategies for changing your mindset, habits, and relationships.Deb has helped hundreds of people – from stay-at-home moms to CEOs – get started on the path of purpose and personal growth by helping them re-frame, re-focus, and get re-energized. She knows the most common obstacles th
Episodes
- 72: How to Refocus During a Challenge
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discusses how unexpected challenges can cause overwhelm and fear. She shares a coaching question designed to help redirect thinking towards clarity, fostering resilience and confident navigation of personal and…
- 71: The One Phrase to Use Sparingly
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum explores the overuse of the phrase 'I don't know,' explaining how it can convey a lack of care and lead to stagnation. The episode offers strategies to reframe this phrase and choose more precise language for gr…
- 70: How to Manage a Frustrating Direct Report
In this episode of In the Right Direction, Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discusses how frustration with direct reports can lead to judgment. She advocates for a curious mindset and asking questions to understand their perspective, which can…
- 69: How To Move Through Challenges More Easily
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum shares an approach to help listeners understand and move through challenges when feeling stuck. The episode provides a tool to foster effective thinking and clarity, enabling easier progress.
- 68: How to Give Feedback Upwards
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum shares a framework and coaching questions to help listeners prepare for meetings where they need to deliver challenging information to bosses and senior leadership. The episode focuses on planning conversations…
- 67: How To Set Better Boundaries
This episode of In the Right Direction discusses how to set better boundaries. Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum explains the process of clarifying what is acceptable and unacceptable to you, and how to communicate and maintain boundaries effect…
- 66: How To Make Leadership Development Easy
This episode features Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discussing how an experiment mindset can simplify leadership development. By setting personal goals and approaching professional growth as an experiment, individuals can take action, learn…
- 65: How to Make Decisions More Confidently
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discusses how to make decisions more confidently by using a framework based on personal values, purpose, and priorities. This method helps in making and communicating decisions efficiently, especially when facin…
- 64: An Activity to Jump-Start Innovation
In this episode, Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum introduces question storming, a structured activity designed to foster curiosity and creative thinking for innovation. The process is explained step-by-step, enabling listeners to apply it indiv…
- 63: A Framework for Giving Feedback
This episode discusses a structured framework for preparing and delivering feedback conversations, aiming to reduce anxiety and enhance clarity for leaders. Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum offers strategies to build stronger partnerships throu…
- 62: How to Approach Your Career Transition
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum explains a structured 'chess pieces' approach to navigate career transitions, helping listeners identify key areas to focus on for a more confident and optimistic next step.
- 61: How to Get Around Your Obstacles
In this episode, Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum explains a strategy for managing obstacles that impede personal and professional goals. The method helps in focusing on controllable actions and thoughts to navigate challenges effectively.
- 60: Tips to Shine in a Job Interview
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discusses preparing for job interviews by focusing on controllable elements such as leadership belief statements, illustrative stories, and confident body language to build confidence and communicate effectively.
- 59: A Framework for Delegating Effectively
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discusses a framework for effective delegation, emphasizing its importance for leader's strategic focus and team member growth. The episode provides structure to approach delegation with clarity, confidence, and…
- 58: How to Convince Others More Easily
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discusses how sharing your reasoning, purpose, and desired outcomes can foster understanding and alignment in discussions. She introduces a phrase to help communicate the "why" behind ideas, aiming to build alig…
- 57: How to Get Someone to Open Up
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum shares a communication technique using two simple words to encourage more participation in conversations. This method aims to help when someone is naturally quiet, stressed, or overwhelmed, fostering trust and d…
- 56: How to Turn Complaints into Action
In this episode, Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discusses how complaining can hinder progress and shares a coaching question designed to transform complaints into actionable steps, leading to clearer, more positive, and empowered conversation…
- 55: The Two Words to Better Understanding Someone's Thinking
This episode addresses how assumptions limit our understanding of others. Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum introduces a simple, two-word phrase designed to encourage curiosity and facilitate a deeper understanding of different perspectives in c…
- 54: How to Quickly Relax Your Brain
This episode addresses how constant worry can limit our perspective. Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum introduces a "What if…?" question tool designed to help listeners shift from worry to a state of calm, allowing for a different approach to li…
- 53: One Easy Question for Self-Reflection
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum shares a simple self-reflection question designed to help individuals assess their efforts towards personal and professional goals, encouraging regular pauses to ensure progress is aligned with their intentions.
- 52: How to Interpret 360 Feedback
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discusses how to interpret 360 feedback, offering strategies to approach it with a calm and curious mindset. The episode provides a framework for processing feedback to make the experience more positive and prod…
- 51: The Best Way to Prepare for Meetings
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum shares a two-part framework for preparing for meetings. This preparation helps in clarifying thoughts and questions, ensuring participants show up intentionally, clearly, and confidently, respecting others' time…
- 50: How to Empower Others in the Moment
In this episode, Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discusses how to empower others by asking questions instead of telling them what to do. She explains the mindset and skills needed to be present and coach others to think more positively.
- 49: Two Tools to Help When Others are Stressed
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discusses two strategies to help leaders support stressed colleagues. These tools aim to shift individuals from stressed thinking towards more effective thinking, aiding in better decision-making and collaborati…
- 48: One Way to Create More Peace of Mind
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discusses a brain-based tool to foster greater calm, acceptance, and peace of mind by recognizing and naming different thought and feeling parts. This approach helps manage everyday stress and promotes clearer,…
- 47: How to Build Trust More Quickly
In this episode, Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discusses the importance of trust in relationships and shares a communication technique to accelerate trust-building by clarifying expectations and roles.
- 46: One Question to Shift into Growth Mindset
Host Deb Elbaum shares a coaching question designed to help individuals and teams shift from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset, encouraging resilience and learning from challenges. This tool aims to promote more productive and creative t…
- 45: How to Shift Limiting Self-Beliefs
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum explains that operating from a fixed mindset and holding onto limiting self-beliefs can impede personal and professional development. She shares a two-phrase strategy designed to help shift negative self-beliefs…
- 44: The Power of What We Say
In this episode, Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum reflects on the power of words, both spoken to us and by us. She invites listeners to consider helpful phrases they carry with them and encourages sharing appreciation to spread kindness and gra…
- 43: The One Tool You Need to Understand Others Better
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum shares a brain-helpful coaching question designed to improve understanding and alignment in conversations. This tool aims to help people better understand how others think and feel, leading to clearer, more acti…
- 42: The Power of Visioning
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discusses visioning, a strategy that helps individuals and teams envision a future and identify steps to achieve their goals. This method allows the brain to simulate future possibilities and guide present actio…
- 41: How to Get Better Feedback
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum explains a question strategy for leaders to solicit balanced, relevant, and actionable feedback. The method involves asking specific questions to gain insights into behaviors that should be continued or changed.
- 40: The Surprising Secret to Being More Productive
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum explains that true productivity comes from connecting the brain and body, not just forcing focus. Prioritizing self-care enhances the brain's ability to think and process, leading to greater efficiency and achie…
- 39: One Question that Gets to the Heart of the Matter
In episode 39 of 'In the Right Direction,' host Deb Elbaum introduces a question, "What do you want?", designed to help individuals and groups shift their focus from challenges to desired outcomes. Elbaum, a leadership coach, provides guid…
- 38: One Way to Avoid the Comparison Trap
This episode discusses avoiding the comparison trap by focusing on personal values, purpose, and priorities. Leadership coach Deb Elbaum offers a tool to foster confidence and trust in one's decisions and abilities, promoting a more peacef…
- 37: One Easy Way to Prevent Misunderstandings
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discusses how clear and full communication can build trust and alignment in both personal and professional relationships. She explains how telling people the conclusions you want them to draw about you can help…
- 36: What To Do When Emotions Cloud Your Thinking
In episode 36, Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discusses how strong negative emotions can cloud thinking and keep people stuck. She introduces a strategy called 'drawing it out' as a brain tool to gain a different perspective and find solution…
- 35: The Benefits of Asking Better Questions
This episode discusses how asking better questions serves as a powerful communication and cognitive tool to foster happiness, productivity, and fulfillment. Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum explains how curiosity and the right types of question…
- 34: The Key to Inspiring Others
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discusses how clear and confident leadership beliefs, alongside energy and stories, inspire others. She shares a process to help listeners clarify their own leadership beliefs, suitable for various professional…
- 33: 4 Ways to Know that Coaching is Successful
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discusses metrics for evaluating coaching success, focusing on achievements, mindset shifts, and emotional changes. Clarity on goals is crucial for measuring personal and professional growth effectively.
- 32: One Word to Help You Stay Positive
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum explains how self-critical language can lead to negativity. She shares a specific word that can help reframe challenges, encouraging more positive and expansive thinking for yourself and others.
- 31: Once Upon a Time...
This episode explores how creative writing and storytelling can be used as a tool to help individuals and leaders think more innovatively and gain clarity on their purpose and desires.
- 30: Three Ways to Lessen Your Inner Critic
In episode 30, Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discusses the inner critic, a familiar voice that can cause pain and hinder aspirations. The episode offers concrete brain strategies and personal examples to reduce the critic's impact, fostering…
- 29: How to Build a New Habit More Easily
This episode discusses how affirmations can serve as a brain-friendly tool to help build new habits more easily. Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum explains the concept of affirmations and shares a story about their transformative power.
- 28: The Secret to Being a Great Coach
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discusses the secrets to being a great coach, emphasizing the importance of a curious mindset and having a toolkit of expansive questions. The episode covers how coaching expedites personal and professional grow…
- 27: The Secret to Being Less Reactive
This episode focuses on the leadership tool of pausing to create space between receiving information and reacting. Coach Deb Elbaum explains how pausing helps manage situations thoughtfully, leading to calmer, more compassionate leadership…
- 26: Build Your Executive Presence with This 1 Question
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discusses building executive presence, which is relevant for everyone, not just executives. She shares a coaching question designed to help individuals become more intentional about how they present themselves,…
- 25: How to Handle Negative Feedback
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discusses how to handle negative feedback calmly and confidently. The episode outlines 2 steps focusing on mindset and proactivity to help listeners use feedback for personal and professional growth.
- 24: What To Do When Your Thinking Needs to Change
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discusses how perspective is a choice that can shift thinking from pessimistic to optimistic. She explains the neuroscience behind this and offers a 3-step method to recognize and change unhelpful perspectives,…
- 23: How to Make Networking Work for You
Leadership Coach Deb Elbaum discusses common networking challenges and provides strategies to build confidence and foster productive relationships. This episode addresses anxieties around reaching out and defining your 'ask' in networking…