HIListically Speaking with Hilary Russo
Khara Croswaite Brindle: Ruptured Relationships: How to Heal and Understand Mother-Daughter Estrangement
When the bond between a mother and daughter fractures, the emotional fallout can resonate through every aspect of life. Hilary Russo guides this raw and enlightening conversation with celebrated family therapist Khara Croswaite Brindle, author of "Understanding Ruptured Mother-Daughter Relationships," and peels back the layers of this deeply personal issue. During this intimate conversation, Hilary and Khara unravel the tangled reasons behind daughters distancing themselves from their mothers, from toxic dynamics to ancestral traumas. Addressing the societal stigmas that often accompany the decision to step back, we shed light on the importance of setting boundaries for emotional health, and how the decision to create distance is rarely taken lightly, but often a necessary step in preserving one's well-being. Touched, moved, or inspired by this conversation? Consider sharing it with someone you know and leave a rating/review wherever you are tuning in. Connect with Khara and grab a copy of her books: https://www.estrangementenergycycle.com/ https://www.facebook.com/croswaitecounselingpllc https://www.linkedin.com/in/kharacroswaite/ https://www.instagram.com/kharacroswaite/ Connect with Hilary: https://www.instagram.com/hilaryrusso https://www.youtube.com/hilaryrusso https://www.facebook.com/hilisticallyspeaking https://twitter.com/HilaryRusso https://www.tiktok.com/@hilisticallyspeaking https://www.hilaryrusso.com/podcast Music by Lipbone Redding https://lipbone.com/ --------- EPISODE CHAPTERS WITH SHORT KEY POINTS --------- (0:00:00) - The Rise of Mother-Daughter Estrangement Therapy, abuse, trauma, and generational trauma influence the rising trend of estrangement in mother-daughter relationships. (0:04:32) - Understanding and Navigating Family Estrangement Family estrangement's multigenerational impact, forms of distance, setting boundaries, therapy for affected family members, maintaining emotional well-being. (0:13:54) - Understanding the Estrangement Energy Cycle The emotional journey of adult daughters dealing with ruptured mother-daughter relationships and how educators can support children experiencing family estrangement. (0:22:16) - Healing Estranged Mother-Daughter Relationships Nature's complexities of mother-daughter estrangement, generational trauma, and attachment styles, and the value of therapy and coaching for healing. (0:28:09) - Understanding Mother-Daughter Estrangement and Healing Healing and reconciliation between estranged mothers and daughters, with emphasis on individual journeys and the importance of mutual effort. (0:36:16) - Understanding and Healing Mother-Daughter Estrangement Healing estranged mother-daughter relationships, prioritizing mental health, and using self-regulation tools like Havening for self-empowerment. --------- EPISODE TRANSCRIPT --------- 0:00:00 - Khara Croswaite Brindle I think a lot of people are now talking about it. I think it's always been happening, but maybe we're seeing an uptick because people have are going to therapy, they have language for it. Now they're looking at this from the lens of abuse and trauma and that's justifying some of the rupture, the distance between parents and their children. 0:00:18 - Hilary Russo One in 12. One in 12 people my friends are estranged from a family member and it's a choice that can be very challenging for many. But when you do the inner work, when you create the space for healthier relationships and for a better understanding of self, it really can pave the way for a new you. And when it comes to mother and daughter estrangement especially where there's been possibly repeated trauma, discomfort, pain, misunderstanding even a daughter's choice to cut her ties from her mother can come with so much emotion and still much pain in the healing process. Khara Crosswaight Brindle is a licensed therapist who wrote the book about this very thing understanding ruptu