Persistent Private Pursuit
As one does well in being prayerful in their private pursuit of a brother or sister who has sinned against them, they also do well in being persistent and persevering in their pursuit. What do I mean by this? A good place to start is that you don't just look at the path of reconciliation with them as one and done. You don't go into your Step 1 meeting with them thinking, "I'm just going to go once and be done. Then I can say I tried, and nobody can say I didn't." Sadly, if those are the internal thoughts and mindset, pride and/or fear are still alive and well in the heart. The fruit will likely bear accordingly in the outcome of the conversation. From a place of pain, you may feel justified in a half-hearted attempt, but the offense remains sincerely unaddressed, and the matter remains unresolved and festering. Again, when self is off the throne, and pride/fear are dealt with, out of true love towards the sinning brother or sister, the humble heart that is mindful of its own struggles and falls desires to obey your Savior and pursue real reconciliation and peace.