Healing Unfiltered
Health, Fitness & Longevity
About
Healing Unfiltered is a space where we can gather once a week for some honest conversation about mental health and wellness, to gain a little bit of insight, or just to feel a little less alone. We will discuss mental health, common life struggles, and tips to help guide you toward a more fulfilling and unfiltered version of yourself. Connect with me over on IG! @ErinBurns.Wellness
Episodes
- Why Fitness Feels So Hard (And What to Do About It) - With Kristy Castillo
This episode of Healing Unfiltered, with guest Kristy Castillo, discusses the emotional side of fitness, exploring why it feels difficult and how issues like shame, body image, and self-sabotage impact dietary and exercise habits. It aims…
- ADHD and Understimulation: The Missing Piece of Motivation
This episode discusses understimulation as a key factor in ADHD, executive dysfunction, and the difficulty initiating tasks, often mistaken for laziness. It explains how the ADHD brain responds to stimulation, the impact of low dopamine, a…
- What to Do When You Don’t Feel Like Doing Anything
This episode addresses what to do when feeling unmotivated and overwhelmed, emphasizing self-compassion and sustainable practices over forcing oneself. It offers guidance on honoring low capacity, rebuilding momentum gently, and understand…
- 3 Questions You NEED to Ask Yourself Before You Judge
This episode of Healing Unfiltered examines the psychology behind automatic judgment, revealing how conditioning, familiarity, identity, and control influence our reactions. It offers three practical questions to help slow down judgment, f…
- Stop "SHOULDING" All Over Yourself
This episode of Healing Unfiltered discusses the concept of "shoulds," which are internalized expectations often stemming from family, culture, or trauma. It explains how these "shoulds" connect to guilt and fear, can lead to self-betrayal…
- When It’s All Too Much, Simplify
This episode of Healing Unfiltered discusses simplifying when feeling overwhelmed. It encourages listeners to slow down, reduce expectations, and embrace a slower pace without guilt, emphasizing that doing less can be a form of self-care.
- Rethinking Expectations: Let Go of Unnecessary Pressure
This episode of Healing Unfiltered discusses how to identify and release unnecessary pressure stemming from both external and internal expectations. It encourages discerning which standards are valuable and letting go of those that create…
- The Difference Between Something Being "HARD" Versus "MISALIGNED"
This episode of Healing Unfiltered discusses the difference between something being difficult and something being misaligned. It suggests viewing resistance as valuable information rather than a sign of failure, encouraging listeners to re…
- Keep These FOUR Things in Mind Going into 2026
This episode focuses on four grounding principles for approaching 2026 with intention and values-based goals, rather than arbitrary pressure. It discusses why goals often fail and reframes pivoting as a necessary skill for growth, encourag…
- Stop Judging Yourself for Trauma Responses You Didn’t Choose
This episode explains that initial trauma responses are biological, not character flaws, stemming from the brain's survival mechanisms. It details how trauma rewires brain regions impacting emotional regulation and offers practical steps t…
- 3 Things to Do When You Feel Off for "No Reason"
In this episode, three simple steps are provided for when you feel disconnected or irritable without a clear reason. The process focuses on regulating the nervous system and assessing your needs to feel grounded again.
- HOT TAKE!!! It's Not That You CANT Decide, It's That You WONT Decide
This episode of Healing Unfiltered discusses how indecision stems from an unwillingness to choose, often driven by fear and perfectionism, rather than a lack of clarity. It offers strategies to overcome rumination and build confidence in d…
- STOP Over-explaining and Justifying: It's Impacting You More Than You Know
This episode of Healing Unfiltered discusses why people overexplain and justify their actions, linking it to survival strategies, trauma, rejection sensitivity, and people-pleasing. It offers practical ways to unlearn this habit, build sel…
- Masking and Mirroring in Neurodivergence: Why We Do it and What's the Impact?
This episode of Healing Unfiltered discusses masking and mirroring within neurodivergence. It covers the definitions, reasons for these coping mechanisms, and their effects on self-connection, offering insights into unmasking and reconnect…
- Are You Bored...? Or Are You Just Addicted to Chaos...?
This episode discusses why peace can feel unnatural after prolonged periods of emotional chaos or unpredictable relationships, explaining how the nervous system can become accustomed to intensity and providing tools to build tolerance for…
- HOT TAKE!!! Is "Being the Bigger Person" Really Just Self Abandonment...?
This episode of Healing Unfiltered discusses how the cultural pressure to 'be the bigger person' can manifest as self-abandonment. It examines the difference between emotional growth and people-pleasing, and how to identify and stop betray…
- How to STOP Feeling Responsible for Other People's Moods
This episode of Healing Unfiltered discusses emotional caretaking, exploring how it develops as a survival pattern and distinguishing between empathy and enmeshment. It offers practical tools to help listeners stop feeling responsible for…
- Is It Your GUT? Or Are You Just Afraid?
This episode of Healing Unfiltered explores the confusion between gut intuition and anxiety. It details the physical and emotional differences, explains how dysregulation can tangle them, and offers tools to rebuild trust in one's inner vo…
- HOT TAKE!!! You NEED to Stop Over-Identifying with Your Thoughts
This episode of Healing Unfiltered discusses how over-identifying with thoughts can fuel anxiety and self-criticism. It offers practical strategies to detach from mental chatter, recognize thoughts as noise rather than facts, and find inne…
- How to Cut Through Mental Chaos: 3 Simple Steps
This episode of Healing Unfiltered explains that overwhelm is not a sign of being broken. It provides three simple questions to help listeners sort through their burdens, calm mental spirals, and find clarity, offering a quick reset method.
- ADHD and Identity: More Than Just Executive Functioning Skills
This episode of Healing Unfiltered discusses how ADHD affects identity, self-esteem, and relationships, going beyond simple symptom management. It emphasizes the importance of identity work and rewriting one's narrative for deeper healing…
- An Episode for When Everything Feels Heavy...
This episode addresses the feeling of being overwhelmed by life's pressures, explaining the body's stress response and offering compassionate, practical techniques for grounding and finding rest without guilt.
- HOT TAKE!!! - Screw Hustle Culture! Why it Isn't All it's Cracked Up to Be
This episode critiques hustle culture and perfectionism, highlighting their links to burnout and disconnection. The host shares a personal story of grief, emphasizing the importance of pausing, self-reflection, and detaching self-worth fro…
- You'll Never Feel Ready ... And That's the Point
This episode of Healing Unfiltered explains that waiting for the perfect moment or feeling ready is counterproductive. It explores how fear and perfectionism prevent action, and reframes readiness as a conscious choice to act, fostering co…
- When Life Feels "Off", THIS Is Probably Why.
This episode discusses how decisions made out of fear, shame, or judgment lead to feeling 'off.' It explains the importance of living in alignment with core values for freedom and peace, offering steps to discover and utilize these values…
- A Pep Talk for When You're Feeling Stuck
This episode of Healing Unfiltered offers a pep talk for those feeling stuck, reminding listeners that this is a normal part of the healing process. It provides reframes to encourage self-compassion and acknowledges that growth and progres…
- HOT TAKE!!! - Trauma Shaped You. But It Doesn't Have to Define You
This episode of Healing Unfiltered explores the impact of trauma on identity, differentiating between honoring past experiences and being defined by them. It provides guidance on rewriting one's identity after trauma and moving beyond surv…
- The REAL Reason You "Can't" Follow Through - Executive Dysfunction and Dysregulation
This episode discusses executive dysfunction and nervous system dysregulation, explaining why task follow-through can be difficult and offering self-support tools instead of relying on discipline or shame. It clarifies that the struggle is…
- Growth Looks Like Crying in Your Car Sometimes... And That's OKAY.
This episode of Healing Unfiltered explores the imperfect nature of growth and healing, validating difficult emotional experiences like crying in your car as signs of progress. It emphasizes self-compassion and acknowledges that not all gr…
- Forgiveness Isn't a REQUIREMENT - It's a CHOICE
This episode challenges the notion that forgiveness is a mandatory step in the healing process. It explores how the pressure to forgive can silence pain and harm survivors, emphasizing that healing is a personal journey where boundaries an…
- HOT TAKE!!! - Bingeing Self Help Content Doesn't Mean You're Actually Doing the Work
This episode of Healing Unfiltered discusses how consuming self-help content can create an illusion of progress without actual healing. It differentiates between gaining insight and embodying healing, and offers guidance on shifting from p…
- Assume Less: What Assumptions Are Costing You and How to Break the Habit
This episode of Healing Unfiltered explores the habit of making assumptions, why our brains make them, and their negative impact on mental health and relationships. It offers practical tools to interrupt assumption spirals and replace them…
- Strong Doesn't Mean Silent: Why Men's Mental Health Deserves the Mic
This episode of Healing Unfiltered discusses men's mental health during Men's Mental Health Awareness Month, challenging harmful myths about masculinity and promoting vulnerability as a form of strength. It offers perspective and tools for…
- The Dopamine Dilemma: Rewiring for Real Fulfillment
This episode of Healing Unfiltered discusses dopamine, instant gratification, and their impact on mental health. It explains how dopamine fuels impulsive habits and explores how practicing delayed gratification can lead to greater fulfillm…
- Slow Down and Check In: A Reminder to Pause During Busy Times
This episode of Healing Unfiltered encourages listeners to pause and check in with themselves during busy times. It explores the reasons people avoid slowing down and offers simple methods for self-connection, providing an invitation to re…
- How to Cope With Jealousy (Without Shame)
This episode of Healing Unfiltered discusses jealousy, exploring its emotional roots, how it connects to insecurities, and what it reveals about our desires. It offers practical ways to cope with jealousy without shame and tools to move fr…
- The Power of Speaking Up: Building Assertiveness
This episode of Healing Unfiltered explores assertiveness, differentiating it from passive or aggressive behavior. It discusses how assertiveness benefits mental health and relationships by teaching listeners how to set boundaries, say no,…
- Making Peace with your Need for Control
This episode discusses the common misconception that the need for control is always negative, explaining it as a human desire for safety and stability. It differentiates between healthy and unhealthy control, explores its roots in anxiety…
- Letting Go: Why It's So Hard... & How To Do It Anyway.
This episode of Healing Unfiltered explores the difficulties of letting go of roles, relationships, identities, or hopes. It explains why letting go can trigger fear and grief, common misconceptions, and offers gentle strategies for releas…
- Health Isn't (and SHOULDN'T BE) a Trend: Stop Letting TikTok & Social Media Tell You How to Feel About Your Body
This episode of Healing Unfiltered addresses the dangers of social media's influence on body image, particularly 'Skinny Tok,' and explains why chasing viral body trends can negatively impact mental health and self-worth, reminding listene…
- When High Achievement Hides Anxiety: The Impacts of "Productivity Guilt"
This episode of Healing Unfiltered discusses productivity guilt and its connection to high-functioning anxiety, common among high-achievers. It explores the roots of this guilt and offers strategies to redefine success and rest, focusing o…
- Unmasking Perfectionism: How It Shows Up and How to Heal
This episode of Healing Unfiltered discusses perfectionism, defining it as the pressure to earn worth through flawless performance. It details three core types—self-oriented, socially-prescribed, and other-oriented—and explores their effec…
- When We Get in Our Own Way - An Honest but SHAME and BLAME FREE Conversation for Reflection on the Part We Play in Our Own Suffering
This episode of Healing Unfiltered discusses how individuals contribute to their own suffering through negative self-talk and unmet expectations. It offers strategies like mindfulness and self-compassion to foster self-awareness and reduce…
- Quality Time - Strengthening Every Relationship, Including the One with YOURSELF
This episode of Healing Unfiltered discusses the significance of quality time in strengthening various relationships, including solo time for self-awareness, partner connection, friendships, and family bonds. It offers practical advice for…
- Refresh, Reset, Renew: A Guide for Mental Health "Spring Cleaning"
This episode guides listeners through "Mental Health Spring Cleaning," focusing on identifying and releasing mental clutter to create space for clarity, peace, and balance. It aims to help listeners start spring with a clearer mind.
- Anxious, Avoidant, or Secure? How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Life
This episode of Healing Unfiltered examines the four attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—explaining their influence on relationships, communication, and emotional well-being. It offers insights into common pattern…
- Mental Health Diagnoses: Going Beyond the Labels
This episode of Healing Unfiltered examines mental health diagnoses, considering their utility in providing clarity and treatment while also exploring the risks of overpathologizing normal emotional responses and the impact of diagnostic l…
- From Survival to Growth: Moving Beyond Coping
This episode differentiates between coping and healing, explaining that while coping aids survival, true healing requires deeper self-awareness for lasting change and intentional growth. It offers guidance for those ready to move beyond te…
- Remember who you are: The journey back to your POWER
This episode of Healing Unfiltered explores the concept of inherent personal power. It discusses discomfort with the idea of being powerful and offers guidance on identifying, challenging, and redefining beliefs about power to live a more…
- Empathy does NOT equal Responsibility: How to be an empathic person with healthy boundaries
This episode of Healing Unfiltered discusses the difference between healthy and unhealthy empathy, offering guidance on setting boundaries to avoid people-pleasing and feeling taken advantage of in relationships.