Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast
Psychology & Relationships
About
On Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast, dating & relationship coach Ali Jackson (@findingmrheight) brings you her positive and practical approach built from personal experience in the dating trenches. No matter where you are in your relationship journey, you’ll learn how to identify your needs, embrace your feelings, and directly communicate both. Ready to feel more authentic and grounded in your relationships and more joyful in your life overall? Tune in as Ali brings you relatable conversations with both expert guests and listeners just like you, peppering in her own personal insights along the way. Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or any major podcast network. Find even more content from Ali on her Patreon, (https://www.patreon.com/findingmrheight) Instagram: @findingmrheight (https:// www.instagram.com/findingmrheight) TikTok: @findingmrheight (https://www.tiktok.com/ @findingmrheight)
Episodes
- 273. Two Years In: The Anniversary Episode ft. Skyline
Ali and Skyline celebrate their two-year anniversary in Italy, discussing the reality of their relationship, including disagreements, intentionality, and personal lessons learned. They also address listener questions about their couple ide…
- 272. Designing a Life That Fits ft. Danielle McGeough
Danielle McGeough joins Ali to discuss career fulfillment, burnout, and creating effective rituals. The episode also includes updates on the host's travels to Italy and a call for listener questions.
- 271. Dating Burnout and the Patterns Behind It ft. Jordanne Sculler
Licensed therapist Jordanne Sculler joins the podcast to discuss the internal patterns that contribute to dating burnout, such as the productivity trap and people-pleasing. The episode explores a framework for breaking unhelpful cycles and…
- 270. The Relationship Advice You Inherited Might Be Wrong ft. Monica Tanner
In episode 270 of Finding Mr. Height, marriage coach Monica Tanner challenges commonly inherited relationship advice, explaining why some advice is counterproductive. The discussion covers the "never go to bed angry" rule, teaching partner…
- 269. Interdependence, Earned Security, and the Art of Being Unsingle ft. Amy Chan
Amy Chan returns to Finding Mr. Height to discuss her book "Unsingle," focusing on identifying recurring relationship patterns and the path to healthy interdependence. The episode covers dating mechanics from initial connection to long-ter…
- 268. Listener Storytime: Building a Full Sex Life on Your Own Terms
In this episode, listener Julia discusses her experiences with a body that doesn't accommodate vaginal sex, how this influenced her dating life, and the importance of defining a satisfying sex life on one's own terms.
- 267. The Deeper Pattern Beneath Your Dating Life ft. Meg Tuohey
Relationship coach Meg Tuohey introduces her HeartPrint concept, emphasizing individualized self-knowledge beyond common frameworks like attachment styles. The discussion delves into recurring dating patterns, the process of change, and na…
- 266. The NYT Tried to Give Us Dating Rules and We Have Notes ft. Darcy
Ali and returning guest Darcy review the New York Times' 35 dating rules, finding some solid and others unhinged, with many contradicting each other. They discuss modern dating challenges including finances, intimacy, and partner expectati…
- 265. Dating Advice We Wish We'd Taken Sooner ft. Ilana Dunn
Ali and Ilana Dunn discuss dating advice they wish they'd taken sooner, including ignoring gut feelings, making excuses, and chasing potential over reality. Listener submissions on secret relationships and toxic situationships are woven th…
- 264. Hot Topics #22: First Messages, Being Someone's "Type," and People-Pleasing in Progress
This episode of Finding Mr. Height covers listener questions on initiating conversations, dating preferences, and managing people-pleasing tendencies. It also includes personal updates from the host and mentions a media concept about high…
- 263. Listener Storytime: Holding Grief While Choosing What’s Next
In this listener storytime episode, a guest discusses grieving the loss of a partner, navigating life and dating after trauma, and the non-linear process of healing. They explore seeking connection while carrying grief and the complexities…
- 262. Are We Watching Love (Is Blind) Stories or Unresolved Patterns? ft. Jackie Dorman
Matchmaker Jackie Dorman joins the podcast to analyze the latest season of Love Is Blind, exploring themes like anxious attachment and emotional over-functioning. The episode also features predictions for the couples and personal updates f…
- 261. How to Stop People-Pleasing Without Becoming Rigid ft. Dr. Paula Freedman-Diamond
Dr. Paula Freedman-Diamond discusses people-pleasing and its relation to control in dating and relationships, explaining how it and rigid boundaries are two sides of the same coin. The episode explores identifying external validation seeki…
- 260. Hot Topics #21: Attachment Patterns, Workplace Feedback, and Dating Dynamics
This podcast episode features listener updates and dives into various topics including attachment patterns, workplace feedback, and dating dynamics. It also includes a recap of a trip to Mexico City and a discussion on media mentions relat…
- 259. Using Conflict to Build Trust ft. Anna Lecat
This episode features Anna Lecat discussing how to reframe conflict as a tool for connection rather than avoidance, particularly in dating. The discussion covers recognizing early conflicts, communicating needs, and differentiating growth-…
- 258. Relatability Creates Chemistry: Feel a Real Connection on Dates ft. April Beyer
Veteran matchmaker April Beyer joins "Finding Mr. Height" to discuss making dating more human by focusing on relatability as the driver of chemistry and sharing practical tips for creating connection on first dates and avoiding burnout.
- 257. Listener Storytime: Designing a Relationship That Breaks All the Rules
In this episode, listener Allison discusses building a relationship that defies societal norms, sharing her journey of finding a partner in her late 30s and overcoming challenges like mismatched timelines and merging lives through curiosit…
- 256. How To Make First Dates More Fun ft. Miriam Katz
This episode of Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast features guest Miriam Katz discussing how improv principles can enhance first dates by fostering confidence, authenticity, and connection. The conversation explores practical techniques for m…
- 255. New Year Reset: Foundation, Routines, and Intentional Living
In this New Year episode, Ali discusses her word for the year, "foundation," and her theme of intentional living. She shares her process for reflection and outlines changes in routines, habits, and health, also answering listener questions.
- 254. The 2025 Relationship Year In Review One ft. Skyline
Ali and Skyline reflect on their past year as a couple, discussing memorable moments, travel, routines, and quality time using a framework from the Dating Intentionally podcast. They also touch upon life at home and preview exclusive Patre…
- 253. The 2025 Year In Review One
In this solo episode, Ali reviews 2025, covering personal and professional growth, challenges in self-employment, and shifts in perspective on relationships and routines. The episode also includes updates from Katy & Tony on communication…
- 252. The Family Holidays One ft. Mama J
In this episode, Ali and her mom, Mama J, share practical advice on navigating holiday logistics when dating someone. They discuss listener insights on holiday plans, decision-making processes, spending holidays apart, merging traditions,…
- 251. Listener Storytime: Entering Menopause at 36
In this episode, listener Sara recounts her experience of being diagnosed with primary ovarian insufficiency and entering menopause at 36. She details her struggles with symptoms, medical dismissal, IVF, and the impact on her identity and…
- 250. The Seventh Dating Diaries One ft. Katy & Tony
Katy and Tony share updates from their dating lives. Tony details a new long-distance relationship, discussing mixed signals and potential challenges. Katy recounts her dating experiences, touching on texting dynamics, red flags, and socia…
- 249. The Unspoken Etiquette One ft. Miriam Tinberg
Miriam Tinberg, a content creator, joins Ali on Finding Mr. Height to discuss unspoken rules, etiquette, and communication patterns. The episode also covers a Media Mention on conversation and personal updates from Ali.
- 248. The Somatic Sex Coach One ft. Rachel Overvoll
In this episode, host Ali speaks with somatic sex coach Rachel Overvoll about navigating divorce, understanding desire, and finding safety within one's body. They cover relationship dynamics, communication, and practical somatic techniques…
- 247. The Twentieth Hot Topics One
In episode 247, host Ali addresses listener questions about relationships, including balancing comfort with excitement, dating post-breakup, conflict resolution, and finding a partner who values independence. The episode also includes upda…
- 246. The Self-Trust One ft. Stacey Sherrell of Detangling Divorce
Therapist Stacey Sherrell joins Ali to discuss the importance of self-trust in partnerships, her experience with divorce, and strategies for couples to build a strong foundation. They also cover topics like respect, conflict resolution, an…
- 245. The Third Profile Review One ft. Katy & Tony
In this episode of Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast, hosts Ali, Katy, and Tony review dating app profiles for Hinge, Tinder, and Grindr. They discuss profile updates for photos and bios. Ali also recaps her housewarming party.
- 244. The Hot Chef One ft. Katherine Wela Bogen
Katherine Wela Bogen details her modern romance, initiated by a bold move into a restaurant kitchen in Paris, after a series of disappointing dating experiences. The episode explores the role of intuition, risk-taking, and romantic courage…
- 243. The Crimes of the Heart One ft. Rory Uphold
Ali and Rory Uphold discuss dating advice, first date payment, and modern dating challenges. Ali also provides updates from her trip to Japan and discusses the show Love Is Blind.
- 242.5 Comparing Notes Pt 3: The Truth About Relationships at 1 Year w/ Talia Koren
In the final part of a series on new relationships, Ali and Talia Koren discuss the one-year mark. Topics include moving in, engagement talks, career changes, family introductions, and maintaining intimacy, along with listener questions on…
- 242. The Sixth Dating Diaries One: Introducing Katy & Tony
New Dating Diaries participants Katy and Tony join the podcast, sharing personal backgrounds on topics like divorce and pattern breaking. Host Ali also shares updates on her upcoming trip to Japan and focus groups.
- 241. The Perimenopause & ADHD One ft. Mandi Dixon, LPC
This episode features Mandi Dixon, LPC discussing perimenopause and ADHD, noting that perimenopause can begin in one's 30s and last up to 10 years. Dixon explains how hormonal changes affect individuals, particularly concerning ADHD, and h…
- 240. The Nineteenth Hot Topics One
This episode features "Hot Topics" where Ali addresses listener questions about dating challenges in small cities, the evolution of long-term friendships, and strategies for overcoming superficiality on dating apps. It also includes person…
- 239. The Ex Appeal One ft. Miriam Katz
Miriam Katz joins the podcast to discuss her new show, "The Ex Appeal," which features interviews with ex-partners and past romantic interests. The conversation covers the concept of closure and the emotional experiences involved in such i…
- 238.5 Comparing Notes Pt 2: Milestones at 6 Months in a New Relationship w/ Talia Koren
In part two of a series on new relationships, host Ali and guest Talia Koren discuss key milestones around the six-month mark. They cover topics such as traveling together, managing conflicts, assessing marriage potential, relationship che…
- 238. Listener Storytime: When Parenthood Isn’t What You Expected
This episode features listener Sarah sharing her honest experiences with motherhood, including the invisible labor and questioning her life choices. Host Ali also shares personal updates on cohabitation and upcoming family vacations. The e…
- 237. The Detached Dating One ft. Sabrina Bendory
In this episode of Finding Mr. Height, Ali talks with Sabrina Bendory about emotional detachment in dating and relationships. They discuss reclaiming power, the meaning of detachment, and how to let go of people who aren't a good fit.
- 236. The Gen Z Dating One ft. The Cerca Dating App Team
The founders of the Cerca dating app discuss Gen Z's disinterest in traditional dating apps and explore how apps can better serve this demographic. The episode also includes personal updates and a media mention.
- 235. The Moving In One ft. Skyline
Ali and guest Skyline are preparing for their move-in date, discussing practicalities like cleaning and personal space. The episode includes listener questions and advice, along with personal updates from Elyse.
- 234.5 Comparing Notes Pt 1: The First 3 Months Of A New Relationship w/ Talia Koren
In part one of a three-part series, Ali and Talia Koren discuss the complexities of the first three months of a relationship. They share advice and personal insights on challenges with affection and communication, the need for calibration…
- 234. The Choosing A Therapist One ft. Nancy Walters, LICSW
The podcast episode features a discussion with therapist Nancy Walters, LICSW, on how to choose a therapist. Walters shares her "Hot Mess Therapy" approach and provides a step-by-step guide for listeners.
- 233. The Pre-Divorce One ft. Sarah Intelligator, Esq.
In this episode, Sarah Intelligator, Esq., shares her holistic approach to family law, common issues she observes in divorcing couples, and her opinions on prenups. Host Ali also shares personal updates about a weekend getaway.
- 232. The Navigating Feedback One
In this episode of Finding Mr. Height, Ali shares her experiences with navigating feedback in a public forum, emphasizing constructive criticism and vulnerability. The discussion also touches on an NPR Life Kit episode about decision-makin…
- 231. The Kids Or Childfree One ft. Keltie Maguire
Clarity coach Keltie Maguire joins Ali to discuss societal pressures and personal journeys surrounding the decision to have children or be childfree. They explore navigating indecision, potential future regret, and making the choice with a…
- 230. The Fifth Dating Diaries One ft. Caeli & Elyse
Caeli and Elyse return to discuss dating burnout and app fatigue. Elyse recounts a recent first date and her progress with Coco Jones, while Caeli shares personal news and accepts a challenge to revitalize her dating life. Ali also provide…
- 229. The Love Isn’t Blind One ft. Alli Goldberg & Sascha Mombartz
Host Ali talks with Alli Goldberg, creator of the comedy dating show "Love Isn't Blind," and guest Sascha Mombartz. They discuss dating IRL, dating apps, cultural dating differences, and offline dating strategies. The episode also touches…
- 228. The Fourth AITA One ft. Skyline
This episode features Ali and Skyline discussing five "Am I The Asshole" scenarios, including topics like dating app conversations, relationship boundaries, and childcare disagreements. The hosts also share personal anecdotes about a recen…
- 227. The Co-Regulating One
In this solo episode of Finding Mr. Height, Ali explores co-regulation, the practice of mutual emotional navigation. She recounts a stressful weekend trip, shares strategies for managing conflict and differing opinions, and discusses a per…