Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast
Psychology & Relationships
About
Welcome to Curiouser + Curiouser , the daily podcast where love, sex, romance, and kink get real. I’m Heather aka Nookie—author, educator, relationship coach, and professional truth-teller. Every day, I send a message to my community: part story, part confession, part “holy hell, that’s exactly what I needed to hear today.” Now, I’m bringing those daily messages to your ears. Each episode is 3–10 minutes long—short enough for your morning coffee, deep enough to shift how you think about connection. I talk about the conversations I’ve had, the questions people ask, the mistakes we all make, and the delicious, messy, joyful work of being human together, plus I keep you updated on new education, books, and more. You’ll hear about dating disasters, kink revelations, emotional growth, and the kind of vulnerability that makes relationships actually work. Sometimes it’s tender. Sometimes it’s filthy. Often, it’s funny. Always, it’s real. If you’re curious about love that feels alive—and life that feels like love—this is your daily dose. Love smarter. F*ck better. Stay curiouser—daily.
Episodes
- May 11; "Women want experience." Sure, babe. Sure.
This episode discusses the idea that "Women want experience," referencing a blog post for further details. The content creators also disclosed the use of AI voices in this episode.
- May 8: The “clean slate” fantasy…
This episode explores the concept of the clean slate, highlighting how artists like Picasso and Rembrandt created masterpieces by painting over their previous work.
- May 7: Does setting boundaries help men or help relationships?
This episode of Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast discusses the role of setting boundaries in relationships. It explores the potential benefits for both men and the relationships themselves, acknowledging the complexities involved.
- May 6: Feminism, SELF-ish love, and the one question that actually matters in dating
This episode of Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast discusses feminism, self-love, and a significant question related to dating. The content focuses on personal priorities in relationships rather than those of others.
- May 5th: Fantasy vs. The Real Thing
This episode of Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast discusses the themes of fantasy and reality. It explores the concept of inspiration versus intimidation.
- May 1: The holiday you didn't know you needed.
This episode of Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast, titled "May 1: The holiday you didn't know you needed," focuses on self-love. May is presented as a time for this literal kind of self-love.
- April 30: Let’s play! Truth or Trauma
This episode of Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast explores the concept of shared feelings and experiences among different people. The discussion centers on the idea that such commonalities are not coincidental.
- April 29: The question nobody's asking about cheating.
This episode discusses cheating and two kinds of monogamy. It explores a question about relationships that is often not asked.
- April 27: I followed my joy. It led me here.
This episode from the Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast discusses how a play party experience led to a realization about personal priorities.
- April 24: It's not your fault. (And I'll die on this hill.)
The Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast episode for April 24 is titled "It's not your fault. (And I'll die on this hill.)" The episode focuses on victim blaming.
- April 23: The buffet is YOU (and some people don't deserve a plate).
This episode explores the concept of attracting certain types of people into your life. It discusses how both attracting the "wrong sort" and it not being your fault can be true simultaneously.
- April 22: You are what you eat (intellectually, emotionally).
This episode of the Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast discusses the concept that people are influenced by external "software" running in their brains. The episode explores intellectual and emotional consumption.
- April 15: My AI confession (it's less dramatic than it sounds)…
This episode discusses the host's personal experience with AI, including why they blocked someone and what AI tools they actually use.
- April 14: The difference between a boundary, a rule, and an ultimatum
This episode discusses the difference between a boundary, a rule, and an ultimatum. It highlights that one of these concepts is about oneself, while the other two are not.
- April 13: Is it a boundary... or an ultimatum? Here's how to tell.
This episode of Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast, titled "April 13: Is it a boundary... or an ultimatum? Here's how to tell," explores the difference between boundaries and ultimatums. It addresses how to differentiate between the two c…
- April 10: “Real love” isn't the point. This is.
The Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast discusses the concept of "real love" and presents an alternative viewpoint. The episode includes a content warning for abuse.
- April 9: 20 people. 27 definitions. One big problem.
This episode explores a communication problem where 20 individuals hold 27 different definitions for a single concept. It suggests that people may not be speaking the same language despite using similar terms.
- April 8: Someone called me a grifter yesterday…
This episode of Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast addresses the topic of being called a grifter. The host discusses a situation involving someone who has been reading their emails for a year, remains single, and is not communicating with…
- April 7: I followed someone else’s rules. Here's what happened.
This episode of Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast explores the outcome of following someone else's rules. It discusses how a personal blueprint may not be universally applicable.
- April 6: They feel everything. You think everything. Now what?
This Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast episode explores a listener's question regarding the interplay between feeling and thinking. The host provides a personal answer to this query.
- April 3: He called me "actually coherent." 🤣🤣🤣
This episode, titled "He called me ‘actually coherent,’" from April 3, discusses an interaction that revealed more about a person than intended.
- April 1: The April Fool's joke that never ends (and it's not funny)
This episode discusses an April Fool's joke that never ends, focusing on a measurement obsession. This topic is explored in the Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast.
- Are they a monster? Or are they a Death's Cap?
This episode of Curiouser + Curiouser Daily discusses toxic relationships using a mushroom metaphor. It explores how this metaphor can offer a new perspective on these dynamics.
- March 30: "The good ones don't believe sh*t like this."
This episode of Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast is titled "The good ones don't believe sh*t like this." The content explores a specific kind of individual.
- March 27: What happens after the hard work actually works?
This episode of Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast reflects on what happens after hard work pays off. The host shares an unexpected message and a positive update that made their day.
- March 26: Your relationship is your legacy. (Are you building one?)
This episode from Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast discusses how tiny daily choices can build your relationship legacy.
- March 25: He calls it a "ho drawer." I call it hospitality.
The Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast explores the idea of a "ho drawer." The episode discusses this concept as a value system and an act of hospitality.
- March 24: He came for me in the comments. Here's what happened.
This episode discusses the idea that selfishness is the root of all sin.
- March 23: I passed my exam. And then the world cracked open.
This episode from the Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast describes a personal experience of passing an exam and its subsequent profound impact on the individual.
- March 19: Einstein never said this. But it still works.
This episode discusses an Einstein quote and a situation where a simple question led to an unexpected reaction.
- March 18: Hot take: breadcrumbing only works if you let it.
This episode from Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast examines "breadcrumbing" in relationships. The discussion highlights the importance of recognizing one's ability to end such dynamics.
- March 17: You don't have to be healed to date. But there's a catch.
This episode explores the concept of dating while in the process of healing. It emphasizes that being honest with oneself is a key aspect, rather than waiting to be fully healed.
- March 16: My sweetie just got home. Let me tell you why I'm glad he was gone.
This episode explores the idea of intentionally missing a partner. The hosts discuss the potential benefits of such a practice.
- March 13: 50 people walked in. One walked out. Here's why I loved it.
This episode covers conversations, laughter, and a memorable moment. The host shares an experience that "filled their cup right up."
- March 12: Nobody wants to be your goal.
This episode discusses ambition and why targeting people with ambition may not be effective. The hosts delve into the nuances of this approach.
- March 11: Are you enough? (That's the real question, isn't it?)
This episode of Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast addresses the question, 'Are you enough?' The topic was inspired by listener feedback on a previous prompt.
- March 10: Nobody tells you this when your relationship is on the ropes.
This episode from Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast addresses relationship challenges. It suggests that there is no ultimate "losing" when navigating difficulties in a relationship.
- March 9: 13 glasses of water and a very real communication lesson…
This episode explores the decision-making process for engaging in conversations about minor irritations. The host shares their method for determining which irritations warrant a conversation and which do not.
- March 6: About that thing you haven't said out loud yet…
The Curiouser + Curiouser podcast episode "About that thing you haven't said out loud yet…" explores the prevalence of unspoken thoughts, noting their commonality and that they are less shameful than often perceived.
- March 5: What happens when the spark dies…
This episode of Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast discusses what happens in relationships when the initial excitement fades. It explores the importance of who you choose to be with when challenges arise.
- March 4: Some things you can't fake. This is one of them.
This episode of Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast is titled "March 4: Some things you can't fake. This is one of them." The description mentions that your body has already decided.
- March 3: Love…or Ledger Book?
This episode explores the concept of a mental scorecard, termed a "ledger book," in relationships. It highlights the subtle and potentially destructive nature of this transactional approach to love.
- March 2: “Why do women weaponize intimacy?”
This episode discusses the underlying patterns behind the question of why women might weaponize intimacy. The episode title poses a question that the content aims to explore.
- February 27: I’d swipe right on this.
This episode of Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast features a discussion that includes a golden retriever and a rotisserie chicken.
- February 26: How to Avoid Becoming “That Creep”
This episode from the Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast discusses how to navigate social interactions respectfully and avoid being perceived negatively. The episode explores the often subtle distinctions in behavior that can lead to bein…
- February 25: The Dating Skill Nobody Talks About
This episode of Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast, titled "February 25: The Dating Skill Nobody Talks About," explores a specific dating skill. The discussion highlights the effectiveness of using this skill early.
- Opinions are NOT like buttholes.
This episode from Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast is titled "Opinions are NOT like buttholes." The episode description includes the phrase "Sir. SIR. No one asked."
- February 23: He missed the date. That wasn’t the problem.
This episode from the Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast is titled "February 23: He missed the date. That wasn’t the problem." The description mentions that what happened next revealed everything the narrator needed to know, and includes…
- Real Confidence Is Boring (At First)
This episode explores the concept that real confidence may appear boring at first but can lead to significant changes in outcomes.
- February 20: "Spit is not _______."
This episode of Curiouser + Curiouser Daily Podcast, titled "February 20: "Spit is not _______."," discusses the most important lesson from a class held the previous night.